Followup post! Fucking up isn't shameful, it's required for healing..A joyful approach to risk-taking and...
Posts in Category "Bonus Video"
Avoiding & Compassionately Rectifying “Abuse Supporting Stupidity”
Followup post! How can we combat the brain's tendency to willfully protect itself while maintaining a...
SUBC Shame Followup: Psych & Neurobio: Your brain vs. imagined realities
"I didn't think that would work but it did." Followup that shame 'sode. Today lez talk about WHY leaning into your...
REPOST: CPTSD relationship dynamics, explained
Thought I’d share a video with all tiers!
Let’s see “Relationships” in a visual format and understand our relationship templates that create the same dynamics over and over again… Thanks, Behavioral Science!
“My partner has CPTSD, how do I convince them to seek treatment?”
A common question, answered. But if you're new to CPTSD learnin, it might make ya mad. (sorry). Stay tuned for the...
[ pt 2 ] No BS: Using self-defense knowledge for healing self and other pt 2 | Video+Tscript
Back to compassionate understanding and acting in the face of immature self-defense mechanisms! A few additions to...
No BS: Using self-defense knowledge for healing self and other pt I
"To be insane in insane circumstances is to be sane." We're tapping compassion & healing, not criticism &...
How to overcome trauma shame? A “lean into it” approach.
You asked, I answer. How to overcome shame surrounding traumatic events? I have a bottom-up approach that targets the...
BONUS NUG: The Freedom of Fucking Up (and apologizing when you do)
t-brain says: mistakes and apologies = danger. Especially in the self esteem department. h-brain says: nah, Fucker....
Back to Basics: What IS Abuse? In 2024 terms. With examples.
The question that fucks with us all, on both ends of the relationship dynamic. How do we define "abuse"? And how can...
Projective Identification (emotional enmeshment soup) | Video+Transcript
Short and snappy, let's talk about Projective Identification. It's more than "Projection," it's a clusterfuck of...
Psychosomatic Illness and CPTSD Recovery: Everything you need to know
What is it / what isn't Psychosomatic Illness? How does the Brain-Body Painbrow Bridge work? 6 common causes to watch...
Presentation Video! Splitting (AKA – Reality-Obscuring Compartmentalization)
Too sick for facetime. But here's the most recent episode, cc'd and set to slides! What do the Salem witch trials,...
Back to Basics! Somatic Experiencing: Safety and self-Advocacy
Somatic experiencing can be a powerful tool for trauma recovery, but it’s crucial to approach it safely and with proper self-advocacy. This episode outlines five key considerations for engaging in somatic experiencing therapy: maintaining a slow pace, focusing on specific events, ensuring personal safety, addressing feelings of sadness and shame, and stabilizing before leaving therapy sessions. The importance of finding a trustworthy practitioner and creating a safe environment for processing trauma is emphasized. Additionally, the connection between somatic experiencing and embodiment practices is explored, offering practical suggestions for those not yet ready for formal therapy.
Bonus Video! Narcs showing their ASS [Abuse-Supporting Stupidity]
This episode explores the concept of “abuse-supporting stupidity” in narcissistic behavior patterns. It highlights how narcissists often engage in self-sabotaging behaviors due to their reliance on immature defense mechanisms and lack of self-reflection. The discussion emphasizes that abusers unintentionally create a disintegrated psychological environment, affecting both themselves and their victims. Understanding this process can help survivors make sense of their experiences and reduce self-blame for staying in abusive relationships. Recognizing these patterns is crucial for healing and breaking the cycle of abuse.
Video+Transcript | self-Defenses Level 2: Major Image Distortions
In this episode, we delve into level two immature defenses, specifically major image distorting defenses. These psychological mechanisms protect individuals from anxiety by simplifying perceptions of self and others into all-good or all-bad categories. While these defenses may provide temporary relief, they often lead to negative consequences in relationships and can contribute to depression. Understanding these defense mechanisms can help individuals recognize patterns in themselves and others, potentially leading to more nuanced and healthier ways of processing emotions and experiences.