Posts in Category "NonViolent Communication"

Guilt vs Shame, vs the Ego. Or, “Why our relationships suck.”

Dec 23, 2023 | CPTSD Relationship Downfalls, Git Changing | Advanced, NonViolent Communication, Patron Season 11, Seasons, Series, Subscriber Content, Transcripts

OKAY MY MOTHA FUCKS. Months ago in August we spoke about the challenge of apologizing, for real, with the purpose of...

Shame vs. Guilt

Dec 21, 2023 | Audio Podcasts | Subscribers, CPTSD Relationship Downfalls, Git Educated | Intermediate, NonViolent Communication, Patron Season 11, Seasons, Subscriber Content

What's the difference between shame and guilt? And how do they mandate relationship wreckage? As always, Idunno. But...

“Thanksgetting” what you need | Spanksgiving special

Nov 24, 2023 | Audio Podcasts | Subscribers, Git Educated | Intermediate, NonViolent Communication, Patron Season 11, Seasons, Series, Subscriber Content

Here we go! Let's rundown the ways to take care of ourselves (and maybe some need-deprived others) this holiday. ...

BONUS: MY tips for t-communicating

Nov 17, 2023 | Bonus Episodes, Git Changing | Advanced, NonViolent Communication, Patron Season 11, Seasons, Series, Subscriber Content

What can this Fucker say about communicating on t-brains? Got plenty of lessons in reactivity to share. And yes, turns...

10b. How-TO Prepare to Respond Effectively

Nov 14, 2023 | Audio Podcasts | Subscribers, Git Educated | Intermediate, NonViolent Communication, Patron Season 11, Seasons, Series, Subscriber Content

Responding to vulnerable disclosures can be as hard as issuing them. Let's talk about how to set yourself up for...

10a. Rationale: How-TO Respond Effectively

Nov 10, 2023 | Audio Podcasts | Subscribers, Git Educated | Intermediate, NonViolent Communication, Seasons, Series, Subscriber Content

Wonky episode format and scheduling coming up! But here's why. Let's get into discussing the "How-TOs" of responding,...

11. How-TO Respond Effectively

Nov 10, 2023 | Audio Podcasts | Subscribers, Git Educated | Intermediate, NonViolent Communication, Patron Season 11, Seasons, Series, Subscriber Content

What are the steps to effective responding that take massive pressure off your every word? Let’s talk about the keys...

3.11. Ten Destructive Responses that Set Off Trauma Defenses

Nov 3, 2023 | Education, LIVING with Complex Trauma, NonViolent Communication, Public Blog, Public Content, Public Season 03, Research, Seasons

My Fuckers. Hey there.  Thanks for stopping by and listening to my Spotify for Podcasters ad (assuming that’s...

9. DAMAGING Responses to Vulnerable Conversation: Examples 6-10

Nov 3, 2023 | Audio Podcasts | Subscribers, Git Educated | Intermediate, NonViolent Communication, Patron Season 11, Seasons, Series, Subscriber Content

Back to it! Here are the next 5 ways we commonly respond to others which shuts down discussion, fosters...

Transcript 8. DAMAGING Responses to Vulnerable Conversation: Examples 1-5

Nov 2, 2023 | Git Changing | Advanced, NonViolent Communication, Patron Season 11, Seasons, Subscriber Content, Transcripts

Hey Fuckers! We’re here, to get back into the communication aspects of NVC.  We’ve been on a bit of a journey...

8. DAMAGING Responses to Vulnerable Conversation: Examples 1-5

Oct 27, 2023 | Audio Podcasts | Subscribers, Git Educated | Intermediate, NonViolent Communication, Patron Season 11, Seasons, Subscriber Content

What shuts down effective communication efforts? Well, we’ve got 10 “unrecommended” responses for you. We’ll talk...

3.10. Chronic deprivation, self-sabotage, psychosomatic illness, and abuse dynamics

Oct 20, 2023 | NonViolent Communication, Public Blog, Public Content, Public Season 03, Seasons, Series

NonViolent Communication language x unmet needs Hey Fuckers. Guess who’s showing up a week late on this platform? It’s...

NVC shame, parts, and major points with Shelby | MFs Speak!

Oct 20, 2023 | Bonus Episodes, Git Changing | Advanced, MFs Speak!, NonViolent Communication, Patron Season 11, Seasons, Series, Subscriber Content

Today let's take a relcalibration break to hear the other major points hidden in NonViolent Communication. Straight...

7. Self-sabotage and psychosomatic illness V. your SUBC shittery | Important Workbook!

Oct 13, 2023 | Git Changing | Advanced, NonViolent Communication, Patron Season 11, Private Blog, Series, Subscriber Content, Transcripts, Workbooks

Notes: We have rigid rules about what needs are "allowed" for us in normal circumstances. Those rules often create...

Clarification! Conscious vs Subconscious Need Fulfillling Behaviors

Oct 13, 2023 | Audio Podcasts | Subscribers, Git Educated | Intermediate, NonViolent Communication, Patron Season 11, Seasons, Series, Subscriber Content

Just a quick point to drive home several times over. No, you're not CHOOSING self-destruction. Check "Nobody should...

7. Deprived Needs, the SUB-C, Self-sabotage and Psychosomatic Illness

Oct 13, 2023 | Audio Podcasts | Subscribers, Git Educated | Intermediate, NonViolent Communication, Patron Season 11, Seasons, Series, Subscriber Content

So we love to deprive ourselves "for goodness" - but what happens when your subconscious has enough? Today, talking...