A pitfall in recovery; self-compassion is replaced by self-work, which puts us back in a traumatized mindspace....
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Joyfully risk-taking, fucking up, and healing trauma
Followup post! Fucking up isn't shameful, it's required for healing..A joyful approach to risk-taking and...
Avoiding & Compassionately Rectifying “Abuse Supporting Stupidity”
Followup post! How can we combat the brain's tendency to willfully protect itself while maintaining a...
SUBC Shame Followup: Psych & Neurobio: Your brain vs. imagined realities
"I didn't think that would work but it did." Followup that shame 'sode. Today lez talk about WHY leaning into your...
REPOST: CPTSD relationship dynamics, explained
Thought I’d share a video with all tiers!
Let’s see “Relationships” in a visual format and understand our relationship templates that create the same dynamics over and over again… Thanks, Behavioral Science!
“My partner has CPTSD, how do I convince them to seek treatment?”
A common question, answered. But if you're new to CPTSD learnin, it might make ya mad. (sorry). Stay tuned for the...
[ pt 2 ] No BS: Using self-defense knowledge for healing self and other pt 2 | Video+Tscript
Back to compassionate understanding and acting in the face of immature self-defense mechanisms! A few additions to...
No BS: Using self-defense knowledge for healing self and other pt I
"To be insane in insane circumstances is to be sane." We're tapping compassion & healing, not criticism &...
How to overcome trauma shame? A “lean into it” approach.
You asked, I answer. How to overcome shame surrounding traumatic events? I have a bottom-up approach that targets the...
BONUS NUG: The Freedom of Fucking Up (and apologizing when you do)
t-brain says: mistakes and apologies = danger. Especially in the self esteem department. h-brain says: nah, Fucker....
4.7 Major-Image Distorting self-Defenses [Splitting and Projective Identification]
Back to Basics: What IS Abuse? In 2024 terms. With examples.
The question that fucks with us all, on both ends of the relationship dynamic. How do we define "abuse"? And how can...
Projective Identification (emotional enmeshment soup) | Video+Transcript
Short and snappy, let's talk about Projective Identification. It's more than "Projection," it's a clusterfuck of...
Projective Identification (emotional enmeshment soup)
Short and snappy, let's talk about Projective Identification. It's more than "Projection," it's a clusterfuck of...
Psychosomatic Illness and CPTSD Recovery: Everything you need to know
What is it / what isn't Psychosomatic Illness? How does the Brain-Body Painbrow Bridge work? 6 common causes to watch...
Splitting (AKA – Reality-Obscuring Compartmentalization)
What do the Salem witch trials, serial killers, and extremist political figures have in common? Today we discuss...