Posts Tagged "self-protection"

trauma brain & the good news paradox

Sep 1, 2024 | BACK TO BASICS, Bonus Video, Brain Programming, Git Changing | Advanced, Patron Season 12, Seasons, Series, Subscriber Content, Transcripts

Positive event… Negative reaction. WTTMF? Talkin the rollercoaster of hope, self-sabotage, superstition, narrative and...

“Why can’t I show joy to others?”

Aug 30, 2024 | Bonus Video, Git Changing | Advanced, Patron Season 12, Seasons, self-compassion and healing, self-defense mechanisms, Series, Subscriber Content, Transcripts

The danger of showing appreciation? It's disempowering according to the past. Let's talk about reasons and solutions....

FINALE: Six Predictive Pillars of Filial Outcomes | Return to FilOb pt 4

Feb 22, 2024 | Subscriber Content, Filial Obligation and Entrapment, Git Changing | Advanced, Patron Season 12, Seasons, Series, Transcripts

So in all this Filial talk, the real question that I keep bringing up may be…. Why bother discussing it? We can run...

FINALE: Six Predictive Pillars of Filial Outcomes | Return to FilOb pt 4

Feb 16, 2024 | Seasons, Audio Podcasts | Subscribers, Filial Obligation and Entrapment, Git Educated | Intermediate, Patron Season 12, Series, Subscriber Content

Let's bring this back down to earth. Philosophies meet t-real life and 2 additional research studies, as we draw our...

Guilt vs Shame, vs the Ego. Or, “Why our relationships suck.”

Dec 23, 2023 | Subscriber Content, CPTSD Relationship Downfalls, Git Changing | Advanced, NonViolent Communication, Patron Season 11, Relationship Misc., Seasons, Series, Transcripts

OKAY MY MOTHA FUCKS. Months ago in August we spoke about the challenge of apologizing, for real, with the purpose of...

Gratitude II | Christmas Edition

Dec 23, 2023 | Subscriber Content, Filial Obligation and Entrapment, Git Changing | Advanced, Holiday Survival, Patron Season 11, Seasons, Transcripts

So around Tgiving we had a shorter episode release discussing the issues with “gratitude” after a long life of...

Shame vs. Guilt

Dec 21, 2023 | Patron Season 11, Audio Podcasts | Subscribers, CPTSD Relationship Downfalls, Git Educated | Intermediate, NonViolent Communication, Seasons, Subscriber Content

What's the difference between shame and guilt? And how do they mandate relationship wreckage? As always, Idunno. But...

9. DAMAGING Responses to Vulnerable Conversation: Examples 6-10

Nov 3, 2023 | Subscriber Content, Audio Podcasts | Subscribers, Git Educated | Intermediate, Holiday Survival, NonViolent Communication, Patron Season 11, Seasons, Series

Back to it! Here are the next 5 ways we commonly respond to others which shuts down discussion, fosters...

Transcript 8. DAMAGING Responses to Vulnerable Conversation: Examples 1-5

Nov 2, 2023 | Git Changing | Advanced, Holiday Survival, NonViolent Communication, Patron Season 11, Seasons, Subscriber Content, Transcripts

Hey Fuckers! We’re here, to get back into the communication aspects of NVC.  We’ve been on a bit of a journey...

8. DAMAGING Responses to Vulnerable Conversation: Examples 1-5

Oct 27, 2023 | Subscriber Content, Audio Podcasts | Subscribers, Git Educated | Intermediate, Holiday Survival, NonViolent Communication, Patron Season 11, Seasons

What shuts down effective communication efforts? Well, we’ve got 10 “unrecommended” responses for you. We’ll talk...

Rewiring your deepest wounds with conflict resolution

Aug 19, 2023 | Subscriber Content, Patron Season 11, Transcripts, Vulnerability, Intimacy, and Trust, YOUR Parts in Relationship

Welllll… we’re at it again. Having more “drive the point home” thoughts after reflecting on what was recently said....

Rewiring your deepest wounds with conflict resolution

Aug 18, 2023 | Seasons, Audio Podcasts | Subscribers, Patron Season 11, Subscriber Content

What if relational conflict was the answer to healing self-destructive thoughts and harmful lifelong narratives?

3.8a The Key to Healing Relational Ruptures (and two people)

Aug 16, 2023 | Public Content, Public Blog, Public Season 03, Vulnerability, Intimacy, and Trust

My Fuckers. Hello. It feels like it’s been a while and I hope life hasn’t been railing you too hard in the interim....

Workbook | Non-apology Apologies

Aug 12, 2023 | Git Changing | Advanced, Patron Season 11, Seasons, Subscriber Content, Workbooks

Notes: Relationships can't heal unless we come together from self-undefensive places, make efforts to understand the...

14 types of non-apology apologies & how-to do them better

Aug 11, 2023 | Seasons, Audio Podcasts | Subscribers, Git Educated | Intermediate, Patron Season 11, Subscriber Content

How we say "I'm sorry" really matters. Let's talk about ways that people do it poorly, and what those half-assed...

Workbook! Relational rupture, without repair | The real problem in our relationships

Aug 5, 2023 | Subscriber Content, Blog, Patron Season 10, Private Blog, Vulnerability, Intimacy, and Trust, YOUR Parts in Relationship

Notes: We human animals focus on "conflict avoidance" as the measure of a good relationship - but conflict is...