The danger of showing appreciation? It's disempowering according to the past. Let's talk about reasons and solutions....
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Pub Pod 4.8 Self Compassion; the Daily Battle for Recovery
Education and Responsibility are important for t-recovery… But progress peters when self-punishment predominates....
Personal: Family Patterning & Deprivation Default Mode
Trauma Thoughts | Identifying and Deprogramming Cognitive Bullshit
"whoops that's a trauma thought." -all of us. Logical fallacies, overgeneralizations, B&W rulings, toxic...
Self Compassion vs. Asceticism: Joyless Living as self-Defense
Living in misery because it feels safer that way? Yeah, it's a trauma problem. Let's talk about deprivation as...
The War of self-Compassion (CPTSD Recovery)
A pitfall in recovery; self-compassion is replaced by self-work, which puts us back in a traumatized mindspace....
Joyfully risk-taking, fucking up, and healing trauma
Followup post! Fucking up isn't shameful, it's required for healing..A joyful approach to risk-taking and...
Avoiding & Compassionately Rectifying “Abuse Supporting Stupidity”
Followup post! How can we combat the brain's tendency to willfully protect itself while maintaining a...
SUBC Shame Followup: Psych & Neurobio: Your brain vs. imagined realities
"I didn't think that would work but it did." Followup that shame 'sode. Today lez talk about WHY leaning into your...
REPOST: CPTSD relationship dynamics, explained
Thought I’d share a video with all tiers!
Let’s see “Relationships” in a visual format and understand our relationship templates that create the same dynamics over and over again… Thanks, Behavioral Science!
“My partner has CPTSD, how do I convince them to seek treatment?”
A common question, answered. But if you're new to CPTSD learnin, it might make ya mad. (sorry). Stay tuned for the...
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[ pt 2 ] No BS: Using self-defense knowledge for healing self and other pt 2 | Video+Tscript
Back to compassionate understanding and acting in the face of immature self-defense mechanisms! A few additions to...
No BS: Using self-defense knowledge for healing self and other pt I
"To be insane in insane circumstances is to be sane." We're tapping compassion & healing, not criticism &...
How to overcome trauma shame? A “lean into it” approach.
You asked, I answer. How to overcome shame surrounding traumatic events? I have a bottom-up approach that targets the...
BONUS NUG: The Freedom of Fucking Up (and apologizing when you do)
t-brain says: mistakes and apologies = danger. Especially in the self esteem department. h-brain says: nah, Fucker....
Back to Basics: What IS Abuse? In 2024 terms. With examples.
The question that fucks with us all, on both ends of the relationship dynamic. How do we define "abuse"? And how can...