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Clarification! Conscious vs Subconscious Need Fulfillling Behaviors
Just a quick point to drive home several times over. No, you're not CHOOSING self-destruction. Check "Nobody should...
7. Deprived Needs, the SUB-C, Self-sabotage and Psychosomatic Illness
So we love to deprive ourselves "for goodness" - but what happens when your subconscious has enough? Today, talking...
6. “Secondary” Needs and Emotions; Chronic Self-Entrapment
How do we mask our needs from ourselves, fruitlessly dumping energy into areas of life that won't return any chemical...
5. The “Goodness” of Deprived Needs | NVC Continued
NonViolent Communication has more to tell us. Today, we're talking about "the reward we get for being 'good' -...
11.9.4. Rewiring yer Brain with NonViolent Communication
Better communication? Great. A recovered t-brain from the same process? Now we're fckn talkin bud. Today, we're...
3. Effective (NonViolent) Communication Steps 3-4
Time to talk about deprivation driving our shitty emotions and the surprising complex world of requests vs. demands....
2. Effective (NonViolent) Communication Steps 1-2
Last time we learned the basic 4 steps of NVC - now let's get into the full conversation. Tiny neurolinguistic details...
1. Intro to Nonviolent Communication | Conceptual Re-education before the Deets
Why is "humaning" so hard? Well it doesn't help that roughly none of us know how to speak to each other without...
Rewiring your deepest wounds with conflict resolution
What if relational conflict was the answer to healing self-destructive thoughts and harmful lifelong narratives?
14 types of non-apology apologies & how-to do them better
How we say "I'm sorry" really matters. Let's talk about ways that people do it poorly, and what those half-assed...
Ignoring Red Flags; a real life nightmare
Alert: change in programming! And I'll tell ya why. This month we talked about the real difficulty in starting healthy...
10.51 Assessing potential partner’s “parts” through their social systems
We internalize the external systems we have to engage with, structuring our brains to be similar (or counteractively...
10.50 Sensing “energies” in potential partners, and what it all means
If the IFS approach isn’t for you, this episode might be. Let’s talk about the validity of “energy” as the biological...
10.49 Somatic understanding of “Parts” in others… before you commit to a shitlationship
We can’t predict what the future will hold or rigidly mentalize about other people’s brains, but we CAN be real with...
10.48 Extra “survival Fs” to give in relationship; Fronting and Feigning
We all know about the 4 survival Fs at this point. But how about the additional F reactions- Fronting and Feigning?...