Posts in Category "self-defense mechanisms"

Actual self-love pt 4.5: Victimhood vs. self-Compassion

Oct 6, 2024 | Bonus Video, Git Changing | Advanced, Patron Season 12, Seasons, self-compassion and healing, self-defense mechanisms, Series, Subscriber Content, Transcripts

Following up on last episode: When are we softening towards ourselves in compassion... vs. self-victimizing? There's a...

What is the “self”?

Sep 1, 2024 | Parts & Disintegration, Parts x Internal Family System, Public Blog, Public Content, Real Recovery Talk, Refind & Empower yer Self, self (with a small s), self-defense mechanisms, Uncategorized

Trauma leaves us without a stable sense of self... and if that's the CPTSD symptom you've struggled to comprehend the...

Video+Transcript! No BS. How NOT to fuck your self up with the self-defense series

Aug 31, 2024 | Bonus Video, Git Changing | Advanced, Patron Season 12, Seasons, self-defense mechanisms, Series, Subscriber Content, Transcripts

"I fucked up and I'm sorry." Let's talk about how NOT to use the self-defense episodes - which I fear I may have been...

“Why can’t I show joy to others?”

Aug 30, 2024 | Bonus Video, Git Changing | Advanced, Patron Season 12, Seasons, self-compassion and healing, self-defense mechanisms, Series, Subscriber Content, Transcripts

The danger of showing appreciation? It's disempowering according to the past. Let's talk about reasons and solutions....

Self Compassion vs. Asceticism: Joyless Living as self-Defense

Aug 23, 2024 | Bonus Video, Git Changing | Advanced, Patron Season 12, Seasons, self-compassion and healing, self-defense mechanisms, Series, Subscriber Content, Transcripts

Living in misery because it feels safer that way? Yeah, it's a trauma problem. Let's talk about deprivation as...

The War of self-Compassion (CPTSD Recovery)

Aug 17, 2024 | Bonus Video, Git Changing | Advanced, Patron Season 12, Seasons, self-compassion and healing, self-defense mechanisms, Series, Subscriber Content, Transcripts

A pitfall in recovery; self-compassion is replaced by self-work, which puts us back in a traumatized mindspace....

Joyfully risk-taking, fucking up, and healing trauma

Aug 17, 2024 | BACK TO BASICS, Bonus Video, Exercises, Git Changing | Advanced, Patron Season 12, Seasons, self (with a small s), self-compassion and healing, self-defense mechanisms, Series, Subscriber Content, Transcripts

Followup post! Fucking up isn't shameful, it's required for healing..A joyful approach to risk-taking and...

Avoiding & Compassionately Rectifying “Abuse Supporting Stupidity”

Aug 17, 2024 | Bonus Video, Git Changing | Advanced, Narcs, Abuse, Safety, Patron Season 12, Relationship Misc., Seasons, self (with a small s), self-compassion and healing, self-defense mechanisms, Series, Subscriber Content, Transcripts

Followup post! How can we combat the brain's tendency to willfully protect itself while maintaining a...

[ pt 2 ] No BS: Using self-defense knowledge for healing self and other pt 2 | Video+Tscript

Aug 9, 2024 | Bonus Video, Exercises, Git Changing | Advanced, Patron Season 12, Seasons, self-defense mechanisms, Series, Subscriber Content, Transcripts

Back to compassionate understanding and acting in the face of immature self-defense mechanisms! A few additions to...

No BS: Using self-defense knowledge for healing self and other pt I

Aug 2, 2024 | Bonus Video, Git Changing | Advanced, Patron Season 12, Seasons, self (with a small s), self-defense mechanisms, Series, Subscriber Content, Transcripts

"To be insane in insane circumstances is to be sane." We're tapping compassion & healing, not criticism &...

BONUS NUG: The Freedom of Fucking Up (and apologizing when you do)

Aug 2, 2024 | Bonus Video, Git Changing | Advanced, Patron Season 12, Seasons, self (with a small s), self-defense mechanisms, Series, Subscriber Content, Transcripts

t-brain says: mistakes and apologies = danger. Especially in the self esteem department. h-brain says: nah, Fucker....

4.7 Major-Image Distorting self-Defenses [Splitting and Projective Identification]

Jul 29, 2024 | Public Content, Public Podcast, Public Season 04, Seasons, self-defense mechanisms, Series, Subscriber Content

Projective Identification (emotional enmeshment soup) | Video+Transcript

Jul 24, 2024 | Bonus Video, Git Changing | Advanced, Patron Season 12, Seasons, self-defense mechanisms, Series, Subscriber Content

Short and snappy, let's talk about Projective Identification. It's more than "Projection," it's a clusterfuck of...

Projective Identification (emotional enmeshment soup)

Jul 24, 2024 | Audio Podcasts | Subscribers, Git Educated | Intermediate, Patron Season 12, Seasons, self-defense mechanisms, Series, Subscriber Content

Short and snappy, let's talk about Projective Identification. It's more than "Projection," it's a clusterfuck of...

Splitting (AKA – Reality-Obscuring Compartmentalization)

Jul 16, 2024 | Audio Podcasts | Subscribers, Git Educated | Intermediate, Patron Season 12, Seasons, self-defense mechanisms, Series, Subscriber Content

What do the Salem witch trials, serial killers, and extremist political figures have in common? Today we discuss...

Presentation Video! Splitting (AKA – Reality-Obscuring Compartmentalization)

Jul 16, 2024 | Bonus Video, Git Changing | Advanced, Patron Season 12, Seasons, self-defense mechanisms, Series, Subscriber Content

Too sick for facetime. But here's the most recent episode, cc'd and set to slides! What do the Salem witch trials,...