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Posts Tagged "behavioral change"
Self-Love pt 5.75: Love Eliciting Actions
THE TIME IS NOW. Going beyond "love language," we create our own emotional state with granular love actions that cost...
2025: Compassionately Healing in 2 Lists
What do we need this year!? Gentle self direction so we don't regress! Let's talk about recovery in difficult times...
Actual self-Love pt 5.25: More self-Practicuum & Hard/Soft Rationale
Another calm, peaceful, easy listenin' videpisode for practice self-being. We talk rationale, modelling, and the crux...
self-Love pt 5: Practicuum BEGINS | Being with Your self Without Destructing
Onto the behavioral change! Your mission: engaging in new actions that allow you to see, feel, and hear your self....
Joyfully risk-taking, fucking up, and healing trauma
Followup post! Fucking up isn't shameful, it's required for healing..A joyful approach to risk-taking and...
Avoiding & Compassionately Rectifying “Abuse Supporting Stupidity”
Followup post! How can we combat the brain's tendency to willfully protect itself while maintaining a...
Mindfulness/Meta-Cog Notes! Slides and PP
This comprehensive slide deck exploration of mindfulness, metacognition, and traumatic training offers valuable insights for trauma recovery. By understanding how our past experiences shape our automatic responses, we can begin to rewire maladaptive behaviors. Mindfulness and metacognition serve as powerful tools for neutral self-observation, allowing us to question ingrained beliefs and make conscious decisions aligned with our present reality. The concept of “traumatic training” helps explain how childhood experiences can lead to lifelong patterns, while also offering hope for change through mindful awareness and intentional behavioral recalibration.
REALITY TESTING (con’t of Type I and II Processing)
Picking up from our discussion of intellectualizing, rationalizing, narcs, and processing styles, let's talk about...
YOUR RESILIENCY | Video+Bonus Qs to give your self some motherfucking credit (pt 7)
Your self needs to see how it’s been strong and what wiles it has to this day, to offset your self-estimations that may inaccurately center around weakness and disempowerment, doubt and exhaustion.
*NEW* BONUS – Building Community – Reflection Qs From NVC Ep 7
Trying a new thing! Leading your reflections and opening space for new community building! ~~ Get your Reflection Qs...
Self-sabotage and your needs
If we deprive ourselves long enough? The SUB-C starts looking for new means of getting our needs met. Let's whiteboard...
BONUS – Identify your hidden vs. over-emphasized needs
If we're masters at masking our own needs so recovery becomes impossible... how can we start to figure out the ways...
9.23 Physical reintegration Pt III: Life expansion!
Time to change lives, not just brains and trauma bubbles. Let's talk about self-expansion and life-expansion, as we're...
9.22 Physical Integration II: changes in immediate environment
Work on your insides, work on your outsides. First, in your home and immediate daily environment. Today, talking...
1.9. The trauma trap: avoidance, rigidity, isolation, and trauma-bubbles
Explore the concept of avoidance and isolation in complex trauma recovery. Learn about the “trauma bubble” and how it leads to neural rigidity and limited life experiences. Discover strategies for breaking the avoidance cycle, expanding cognitive flexibility, and challenging avoidant behavior patterns. Gain insights into the importance of neuroplasticity and exposure in trauma healing.