Can't even keep up with posting these abusive work articles recently! Like this one and this one. Further evidence...
Posts in Category "Public Blog"
What is the “self”?
Trauma leaves us without a stable sense of self... and if that's the CPTSD symptom you've struggled to comprehend the...
“Worker rescued after allegedly left stranded on Colorado mountain by colleagues.” What did we recently say about work families?
Just a quick "lol but not" on this one! The story below made me think of this recent post from TMFRs. “How to deal...
Required: self-Compassion for Post-traumatic Growth in CPTSD Recovery
If there's one thing I regret in the making of TMFRs and my own recovery effort... It's the self-scrutinizing approach...
“How to deal with Mind Games in the Workplace” – Reminder: CPTSD primes us for abusive work experiences that ‘feel like home’
Stumbled upon this Forbes article about dealing with covertly manipulative / abusive coworkers. "How To Deal With Mind...
THE BASIC BEHAVIOR CHANGE NECESSARY FOR CHANGING TRAUMA PATTERNS / LIVING YOUR OWN LIFE (and becoming a positive force during this time of global-trauma-reactivity, while you’re at it)
Warning: general discussion of the world being a dumpsterfire and that burning nightmare being caused by unexamined...
On: Navigating Psychosomatic Illness in CPTSD Recovery
What a time to be sortof alive ... as I lay in bed, clutching my guts, chronically moving because low blood pressure...
Why “you’re the problem.” Dishonest Harmony vs. Honest Conflict in Generationally Traumatized Families
https://www.upworthy.com/dishonest-harmony-boomer-parent Stumbled upon an article this morning that provided two...
4.4. Pathological Structuring of Narcissists (Or, No Integrity without Integration)
This podcast episode explores the disorganized personality structuring of narcissists, explaining how their lack of integration affects their behavior and relationships. It discusses different levels of personality organization and how narcissists’ fragmented psyches lead to inconsistent and often manipulative actions. The episode draws parallels between narcissistic behaviors and childlike reactions, offering insights into why narcissists may seem unpredictable or intentionally deceptive. It also touches on the importance of self-integration in developing personal integrity and maintaining healthy relationships.
4.3. Healing with “Adaptive Narcissism” and Uniqueness | Leveraging Stigma for Permissive self-Healing
This podcast episode explores the concept of “adaptive narcissism” and its potential benefits for trauma recovery and psychological resilience. It challenges common perceptions of narcissism, discussing how certain traits associated with grandiose narcissism, such as self-sufficiency and vanity, can be protective against PTSD symptoms. The episode emphasizes the importance of developing a healthy sense of uniqueness and authenticity while avoiding harmful aspects of narcissism like entitlement and exploitativeness.
4.2. Filial Obligation Narratives, Ambivalence, Perception, and Guilt
This podcast episode explores the complex topic of filial obligation, discussing various philosophical perspectives on children’s duties towards their parents. It examines the relationship between ambivalence, guilt, and caregiver burden in parent-child dynamics. The episode also considers cultural differences in approaching filial piety, including Confucian views on self-realization through familial duty. It addresses the factors that influence the perception and outcomes of filial caregiving, offering listeners insights to navigate these challenging family decisions.
4.1. Making of a Vulnerable Narcissist
This podcast episode explores the concept of vulnerable narcissism and its relationship to trauma recovery. It discusses how recovery resources like time, space, and energy can be misused, potentially leading to the development of narcissistic traits. The episode examines the characteristics of vulnerable narcissists, including their tendency towards negative time orientation and manipulative behaviors, and how these traits may stem from unresolved trauma.
3.12a. Transference, Projection, Monkey-barring, Displacement
This podcast episode explores various forms of transference in relationships and mental health, including projection, monkey-barring, and displacement. It discusses how these cognitive patterns can affect interpersonal dynamics and therapy outcomes. The episode emphasizes the importance of self-reflection and critical thinking in recognizing and addressing these patterns for improved emotional intelligence and relationship health.
3.11. Ten Destructive Responses that Set Off Trauma Defenses
This podcast episode explores ten destructive responses to avoid in sensitive conversations, based on NonViolent Communication principles. It discusses why people use these responses and their impact on relationships. The episode provides insights into improving communication skills, especially during stressful holiday interactions with family. It emphasizes the importance of empathy, active listening, and self-awareness in fostering healthier interpersonal dynamics.
3.10. Chronic deprivation, self-sabotage, psychosomatic illness, and abuse dynamics
This podcast episode explores the concept of chronic self-deprivation and its roots in childhood neglect. It discusses how unrecognized personal needs can lead to self-sabotage, psychosomatic illness, and codependency. The episode offers insights into breaking these patterns by identifying and fulfilling a comprehensive range of human needs, emphasizing the importance of self-care in trauma recovery and personal growth.
3.9b Ending Deprivation and Rehabbing yer Brain with NonViolent Communication
This podcast episode explores how NonViolent Communication (NVC) can be used as a tool for trauma recovery and personal growth. It discusses challenging toxic beliefs, identifying unmet needs, and the impact of self-neglect on mental health. The episode emphasizes the importance of self-awareness and fulfilling personal needs as key components in breaking cycles of trauma and depression.