Posts Tagged "conflict"

Guilt vs Shame, vs the Ego. Or, “Why our relationships suck.”

Dec 23, 2023 | CPTSD Relationship Downfalls, Git Changing | Advanced, NonViolent Communication, Patron Season 11, Seasons, Series, Subscriber Content, Transcripts

OKAY MY MOTHA FUCKS. Months ago in August we spoke about the challenge of apologizing, for real, with the purpose of...

Gratitude II | Christmas Edition

Dec 23, 2023 | Filial Obligation and Entrapment, Git Changing | Advanced, Holiday Survival, Patron Season 11, Seasons, Subscriber Content, Transcripts

So around Tgiving we had a shorter episode release discussing the issues with “gratitude” after a long life of...

Shame vs. Guilt

Dec 21, 2023 | Audio Podcasts | Subscribers, CPTSD Relationship Downfalls, Git Educated | Intermediate, NonViolent Communication, Patron Season 11, Seasons, Subscriber Content

What's the difference between shame and guilt? And how do they mandate relationship wreckage? As always, Idunno. But...

NVC shame, parts, and major points with Shelby | MFs Speak!

Oct 20, 2023 | Bonus Episodes, Git Changing | Advanced, MFs Speak!, NonViolent Communication, Patron Season 11, Seasons, Series, Subscriber Content

Today let's take a relcalibration break to hear the other major points hidden in NonViolent Communication. Straight...

5. The “Goodness” of Deprived Needs Workbook | NVC Continued

Sep 29, 2023 | Git Changing | Advanced, NonViolent Communication, Patron Season 11, Subscriber Content, Transcripts, Workbooks

NOTES Depression is the reward we get for being good children. We're taught what needs we're allowed to pay attention...

5. The “Goodness” of Deprived Needs | NVC Continued

Sep 29, 2023 | Audio Podcasts | Subscribers, Git Educated | Intermediate, NonViolent Communication, Patron Season 11, Seasons, Series, Subscriber Content

NonViolent Communication has more to tell us.  Today, we're talking about "the reward we get for being 'good' -...

BONUS! NVC x IFS Conceptual Overlap

Sep 25, 2023 | Bonus Episodes, Git Changing | Advanced, NonViolent Communication, Patron Season 11, Seasons, Series, Subscriber Content

When does an unmet need become a "burden"? What does conflict signify? What's the answer to resolving interpersonal...

BONUS! NVC x IFS Conceptual Overlap

Sep 25, 2023 | Bonus Episodes, Git Changing | Advanced, NonViolent Communication, Patron Season 11, Series, Subscriber Content, Transcripts

Hey y’all!  Welcome to another bonus episode and thank you so much for supporting the project to this degree....

4. Rewiring yer Brain with NonViolent Communication

Sep 22, 2023 | Git Changing | Advanced, NonViolent Communication, Patron Season 11, Subscriber Content, Transcripts, Workbooks

Notes:NonViolent Communication suggests our needs drive our emotions, which drive our perceptions.From that point, our...

3.9a NonViolent (Effective) Communication

Sep 15, 2023 | Blog, Education, NonViolent Communication, Public Blog, Public Content, Public Season 03, RECOVERY, Seasons

Hey Fuckers! Hope you’ve been diving into spooky season early and enthusiastically. Idk about you, but this is the...

2. Effective (NonViolent) Communication Steps 1-2

Sep 8, 2023 | Audio Podcasts | Subscribers, Git Educated | Intermediate, NonViolent Communication, Patron Season 11, Seasons, Series, Subscriber Content

Last time we learned the basic 4 steps of NVC - now let's get into the full conversation. Tiny neurolinguistic details...

3.8b Shitpologies (AKA non-apology apologies)

Sep 1, 2023 | Blog, Public Blog, Public Content, Public Season 03, Vulnerability, Intimacy, and Trust, YOUR Parts in Relationship

Yoooooo my Fuckers. Welcome back. Thank you for being here, learning about the wild things brains do. And thank you,...

3.8a The Key to Healing Relational Ruptures (and two people)

Aug 16, 2023 | Public Blog, Public Content, Public Season 03, Vulnerability, Intimacy, and Trust

My Fuckers. Hello. It feels like it’s been a while and I hope life hasn’t been railing you too hard in the interim....

Workbook | Non-apology Apologies

Aug 12, 2023 | Git Changing | Advanced, Patron Season 11, Seasons, Subscriber Content, Uncategorized, Workbooks

Notes: Relationships can't heal unless we come together from self-undefensive places, make efforts to understand the...

14 types of non-apology apologies & how-to do them better

Aug 11, 2023 | Audio Podcasts | Subscribers, Git Educated | Intermediate, Patron Season 11, Seasons, Subscriber Content

How we say "I'm sorry" really matters. Let's talk about ways that people do it poorly, and what those half-assed...

Extra Fs to give in Relationships

Jul 28, 2023 | Blog, Public Blog, Public Season 03, Vulnerability, Intimacy, and Trust, YOUR Parts in Relationship

Check out the workbook version of this post by subscribing to the Git Changing tier on Patreon and then heading to the...