Welp, if you've followed along with the show, you know where I've been with "family relationships." Increasingly NC...
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Rewiring your deepest wounds with conflict resolution
Welllll… we’re at it again. Having more “drive the point home” thoughts after reflecting on what was recently said....
Rewiring your deepest wounds with conflict resolution
What if relational conflict was the answer to healing self-destructive thoughts and harmful lifelong narratives?
Workbook | Non-apology Apologies
Notes: Relationships can't heal unless we come together from self-undefensive places, make efforts to understand the...
14 types of non-apology apologies & how-to do them better
How we say "I'm sorry" really matters. Let's talk about ways that people do it poorly, and what those half-assed...
Workbook! Relational rupture, without repair | The real problem in our relationships
Notes: We human animals focus on "conflict avoidance" as the measure of a good relationship - but conflict is...
Ignoring Red Flags; a real life nightmare
Alert: change in programming! And I'll tell ya why. This month we talked about the real difficulty in starting healthy...
10.51 Assessing potential partner’s “parts” through their social systems
We internalize the external systems we have to engage with, structuring our brains to be similar (or counteractively...
BONUS Video! Visualizing “relationship dynamics”
"Relationship" can seem like a nebulous cloud. So let's keep breaking it down. How can we understand...
Workbook! Sensing “energies” in potential partners, and what it all means
Key points: (IMO) Assigning moralistic judgments ("good," "bad," "nice person") to new relational partners is not...
10.50 Sensing “energies” in potential partners, and what it all means
If the IFS approach isn’t for you, this episode might be. Let’s talk about the validity of “energy” as the biological...
10.49 Somatic understanding of “Parts” in others… before you commit to a shitlationship
We can’t predict what the future will hold or rigidly mentalize about other people’s brains, but we CAN be real with...
BONUS Video! Interpersonal dynamics, explained by Behavioral Science
Each relationship is a learned "dynamic." Each dynamic is a series of common interactions. Each...
10.48 Extra “survival Fs” to give in relationship; Fronting and Feigning
We all know about the 4 survival Fs at this point. But how about the additional F reactions- Fronting and Feigning?...
Workbook! Extra F’s to give in relationships
Notes: We react with "survival Fs" when we sense our safety is in question. I propose there are at least 2 additional...
10.47 Enough Fluff – Relational “Real Talk” | Setting course for July
The past months of material may have been a shock to the system – where’s all this idealistic relational information...