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Actual self-Love pt 5.25: More self-Practicuum & Hard/Soft Rationale
Another calm, peaceful, easy listenin' videpisode for practice self-being. We talk rationale, modelling, and the crux...
self-Love pt 5: Practicuum BEGINS | Being with Your self Without Destructing
Onto the behavioral change! Your mission: engaging in new actions that allow you to see, feel, and hear your self....
Back to Basics: What IS Abuse? In 2024 terms. With examples.
The question that fucks with us all, on both ends of the relationship dynamic. How do we define "abuse"? And how can...
CMNTY Catchup: VulNarc Feedback and the Announcement
Back to your comments! Let's share your words on VulNarc observations around needs, manipulation, and negativity.
3.11. Ten Destructive Responses that Set Off Trauma Defenses
This podcast episode explores ten destructive responses to avoid in sensitive conversations, based on NonViolent Communication principles. It discusses why people use these responses and their impact on relationships. The episode provides insights into improving communication skills, especially during stressful holiday interactions with family. It emphasizes the importance of empathy, active listening, and self-awareness in fostering healthier interpersonal dynamics.
3.8b Shitpologies (AKA non-apology apologies)
This podcast episode explores the concept of non-apology apologies and their impact on relationships. It discusses various types of ineffective apologies, such as “I’m sorry if,” “I’m sorry, you know I,” “I’m sorry but,” and “I’m sorry you.” The episode emphasizes the importance of taking responsibility, acknowledging the other person’s experience, and offering genuine amendments for repairing relationships. It also touches on the upcoming topic of nonviolent communication as a more effective way to handle conflicts and maintain healthy relationships.
10.47 Enough Fluff – Relational “Real Talk” | Setting course for July
The past months of material may have been a shock to the system – where’s all this idealistic relational information...
“Recovery Emotions vs. Life Obligations” Mailbag!
This podcast episode addresses the challenge of balancing trauma recovery and therapy with daily responsibilities like work and parenting. It discusses the potential impact of therapy on emotional stability and functionality, offering strategies to manage these effects. The episode explores the concept of Internal Family Systems and suggests ways to accommodate healing work within a busy life, including potential career changes. It also touches on broader societal issues that complicate mental health recovery.
EXTRA | Hardening isn’t Healing
Explore the difference between hardening and healing in trauma recovery. This podcast episode discusses how protective strategies can sometimes hinder true healing, emphasizing the importance of balance and vulnerability. Learn about the challenges of black-and-white thinking in trauma responses and the value of finding middle ground. Gain insights into developing healthier approaches to relationships and personal growth post-trauma.
9.26 Sara and the NC decision | MFs Speak
Our pal Sara sits down to discuss the decision to go NC with her mother, the factors that had to be put into place,...
9.24 ❄ Merry Fistmas MF | Mental Preparation Points
Hear those bells ringing. Get clear on what you're facing this weekend and see it as an opportunity for doing right by...
2.12. Challenges of breaking the cycle | AKA – generational upset, NC, a new world
Explore the challenges and importance of breaking generational trauma cycles. Learn about family resistance to change, the impact on relationships, and the personal and societal benefits of trauma recovery. Understand the transmissibility of both trauma and healing, and discover strategies for maintaining recovery efforts despite opposition. Gain insights into the long-term effects of breaking trauma cycles on personal growth and future generations.
2.10. The resources needed for brain recovery | AKA – mediums for new perspectives
Explore the essential resources needed for trauma brain recovery: time, space, and energy. Learn about the challenges of modern life in creating these resources and discover strategies for prioritizing self-care and setting boundaries. Understand the importance of restructuring daily life to support brain healing and cognitive restructuring. Gain insights into planning for long-term changes to support ongoing trauma recovery.
2.5. Entrapment, defeat, suicidality, and relationships | AKA – it’s not worth your whole life
Explore the concept of entrapment in relationships and its impact on trauma recovery. Learn about the challenges of leaving toxic relationships, dealing with self-doubt, and the potential link between entrapment and suicidal thoughts. Discover strategies for setting boundaries, changing relationship dynamics, and recognizing when it’s time to end a relationship. Gain insights into building self-capacity and autonomy after trauma.
2.4. Filial obligation and family re-immersion | AKA – the family system trap
Explore the complexities of family obligations and re-immersion for trauma survivors. Learn about the challenges of filial duty, the impact on mental health, and strategies for navigating family dynamics. Discover the importance of setting boundaries, self-reflection, and balancing personal well-being with family expectations. Gain insights into managing emotional triggers and maintaining progress in trauma recovery while dealing with family obligations.