✭✭ 2.17 Early Days Rerelease: Deactivation, hot & cold relationships explained

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August 20, 2020

adaptation | black and white | deactivation | fawn or flight | fight or flight | maladaptive coping | martyrdom | relational trauma | relationship abandonment | S2E17 | survival skills

Ever heard of Deactivation? I hadn’t either. But it explains a lot about my do-or-die relationships and flighty nature. 

A die-hard companion. A martyr for relationships. A friend until the end. (READ: A codependent mess) UNTIL I’M NOT. Here for you one day, freaked out and disappeared the next. Is this a shitty personality, or survival instincts gone wrong? 

Time to research something new – Deactivation.

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