by Jess | Aug 31, 2023 | Brain Operations, My Stories, Patron Season 11, Public Rereleases, Seasons, Series
WTF Mates! Patreon didn’t publish on the 25th. Have this one “late” and sorry about that Fuckers! See you tomorrow in the *new stuff* – NonViolent Communication! Born “different.” Overcoming challenges that...
by Jess | Aug 25, 2023 | Public Blog, Brain Operations, My Stories, Patron Season 11, Public Content, Public Rereleases
Motivational figure, wealth of joy, and dedicated learner despite everything that was against him. For a lot more on Archie’s legend, check his tale here follow his story on IG here and check the blog category for Archie. Always Hail Archie. So. How DO you write...
by Jess | Aug 21, 2023 | Seasons, Bonus Episodes, Git Changing | Advanced, Patron Season 11, Subscriber Content
Ever have your family members directly state your core CPTSD wounds aloud, with no idea what they’re saying? I have. Let’s talk about the “reasonable expectation for safety” being an unreasonable request in our families of origin. And our...
by Jess | Aug 21, 2023 | Bonus Episodes, Git Changing | Advanced, Patron Season 11, Seasons, Subscriber Content
So let’s say I don’t have “the best relationship” with my eldest brother. For years, this has been written off by others as “sibling rivalry”… which hasn’t felt like the most accurate label. What are we really...
by Jess | Aug 21, 2023 | Seasons, Bonus Episodes, Git Changing | Advanced, Patron Season 11, Subscriber Content
Warning of lesser sound quality! How bout a headphone-recorded off the cuff episode, reflecting on the utility and challenges of reconnecting with that FOO (family of origin)? Cuz that’s where this MF has been… and the results have been...
by Jess | Aug 21, 2023 | Seasons, Bonus Episodes, Git Changing | Advanced, Patron Season 11, Subscriber Content
My brothers and I have some relatively unexamined trauma between us… until recent years. Here’s what I’m finding out, through my family, about myself, and the generational trauma trends that make it obvious “most of our conflict has nothing to...
by Jess | Aug 21, 2023 | Seasons, Bonus Episodes, Git Changing | Advanced, Patron Season 11, Subscriber Content
Welp, if you’ve followed along with the show, you know where I’ve been with “family relationships.” Increasingly NC for years. Then, in 2023, filial obliation called. And I hesitantly dove back in. Let’s talk about what’s been...
by Jess | Aug 19, 2023 | Subscriber Content, Patron Season 11, Transcripts, Vulnerability, Intimacy, and Trust, YOUR Parts in Relationship
Welllll… we’re at it again. Having more “drive the point home” thoughts after reflecting on what was recently said. Who’s ready for another unexpected post? Cuz here we go. Ps – my brain must be feeling better, because it’s got a lot to say lately, and the energy with...
by Jess | Aug 18, 2023 | Seasons, Audio Podcasts | Subscribers, Patron Season 11, Subscriber Content
What if relational conflict was the answer to healing self-destructive thoughts and harmful lifelong narratives?
by Jess | Aug 16, 2023 | Public Content, Public Blog, Public Season 03, Vulnerability, Intimacy, and Trust
My Fuckers. Hello. It feels like it’s been a while and I hope life hasn’t been railing you too hard in the interim. Me? Oh I’ve just been recovering from my more recent railings. So, on a related note. Let’s keep talking about relationships, huh? Lemme just...
by Jess | Aug 12, 2023 | Git Changing | Advanced, Patron Season 11, Seasons, Subscriber Content, Workbooks
Notes: Relationships can’t heal unless we come together from self-undefensive places, make efforts to understand the other person’s experience, speak to the wounds we’ve touched on/created, and offer sincere amendments to our missteps. Unfortunately,...
by Jess | Aug 11, 2023 | Seasons, Audio Podcasts | Subscribers, Git Educated | Intermediate, Patron Season 11, Subscriber Content
How we say “I’m sorry” really matters. Let’s talk about ways that people do it poorly, and what those half-assed apologies actually mean. Then… how to do them better.
by Jess | Aug 5, 2023 | Subscriber Content, Blog, Patron Season 10, Private Blog, Vulnerability, Intimacy, and Trust, YOUR Parts in Relationship
Notes: We human animals focus on “conflict avoidance” as the measure of a good relationship – but conflict is inevitable and an opportunity for growth. The real crux of relationships is knowing how to repair ruptures between us and devoting ourselves...
by Jess | Aug 4, 2023 | Seasons, Patron Season 10, Vulnerability, Intimacy, and Trust, YOUR Parts in Relationship
Turns out, relational rupture will always take place to some extent. But what really matters is repairing the connection with a simple phrase, “you’re seen, you’re heard, you’re understood, and you’re still loved,” after conflict....
