by Jess | Sep 30, 2023 | Bonus Video, Git Changing | Advanced, NonViolent Communication, Patron Season 11, Seasons, Series, Subscriber Content
Let’s break down “behavioral strings” and see what we can learn about deprivation, triggers, and emotional spirals. NVC on BS on t-recovery, GO!
by Jess | Sep 29, 2023 | Git Changing | Advanced, NonViolent Communication, Patron Season 11, Subscriber Content, Transcripts, Workbooks
NOTES Depression is the reward we get for being good children. We’re taught what needs we’re allowed to pay attention to as children, we struggle to break those patterns as adults. This creates lifetimes of deprivation in the effort to be...
by Jess | Sep 29, 2023 | Blog, Education, LIVING with Complex Trauma, NonViolent Communication, Public Blog, Public Content, Public Season 03, RECOVERY, Seasons
Ohhhh Fuckers, welcome back! We have so much to pick up on, from where we left off last time and I hope you’re ready to dive in. Can we all agree, again, that Fall fucking rules? I hope you’re living your best weirdo life out there right now. What an enigma of a...
by Jess | Sep 29, 2023 | Audio Podcasts | Subscribers, Git Educated | Intermediate, NonViolent Communication, Patron Season 11, Seasons, Series, Subscriber Content
NonViolent Communication has more to tell us. Today, we’re talking about “the reward we get for being ‘good’ – depression,” and everything else that stands in the way of fulfillment.
by Jess | Sep 25, 2023 | Bonus Episodes, Git Changing | Advanced, NonViolent Communication, Patron Season 11, Seasons, Series, Subscriber Content
When does an unmet need become a “burden”? What does conflict signify? What’s the answer to resolving interpersonal conflict and healing ourselves? Let’s talk about the intense conceptual crossover between NonViolent Communication and Internal...
by Jess | Sep 25, 2023 | Bonus Episodes, Git Changing | Advanced, NonViolent Communication, Patron Season 11, Series, Subscriber Content, Transcripts
Hey y’all! Welcome to another bonus episode and thank you so much for supporting the project to this degree. This tier makes my world go round. Your interest and financial backing keep me motivated and keep the lights on. So, sincerely, sending all my...
by Jess | Sep 23, 2023 | Bonus Video, Git Changing | Advanced, NonViolent Communication, Patron Season 11, Seasons, Series, Subscriber Content
If Rosenberg WASN’T designing NVC with trauma recovery in mind… Idk wtf he was doin. Here’s how to intuitively apply NVC to t-brain rehab!
by Jess | Sep 22, 2023 | Git Changing | Advanced, NonViolent Communication, Patron Season 11, Subscriber Content, Transcripts, Workbooks
Notes:NonViolent Communication suggests our needs drive our emotions, which drive our perceptions.From that point, our behaviors are also affected.Going into an interpersonal interaction with unmet needs primes you for creating conflict via projections.Behavioral...
by Jess | Sep 22, 2023 | Audio Podcasts | Subscribers, Git Educated | Intermediate, NonViolent Communication, Patron Season 11, Seasons, Series, Subscriber Content
Better communication? Great. A recovered t-brain from the same process? Now we’re fckn talkin bud. Today, we’re discussing the most important aspects of NVC – and they have very little to do with other people. Well… except for understanding why...
by Jess | Sep 16, 2023 | Bonus Episodes, Git Changing | Advanced, NonViolent Communication, Patron Season 11, Seasons, Series, Subscriber Content, Workbooks
It’s a full length Bonus episode! Let’s cover additional examples / pointers from Rosenberg and run through 4 application-checking exercises together.
by Jess | Sep 16, 2023 | Bonus Episodes, CPTSD Relationship Downfalls, Exercises, Git Changing | Advanced, NonViolent Communication, Patron Season 11, Subscriber Content, Workbooks
We work on transforming our relationships until the next trigger arises … and then we find ourselves back in the healing work … which increases our internal capacities … which in turn increases the quality of our communication with ourselves and others … which flows...
by Jess | Sep 15, 2023 | CPTSD Relationship Downfalls, Git Changing | Advanced, NonViolent Communication, Patron Season 11, Research, Subscriber Content, Transcripts, Uncategorized, Vulnerability, Intimacy, and Trust, Workbooks, YOUR Parts in Relationship
Key Points: 4-step process: Separate your observations from your evaluations. Explore, identify, and take ownership of your feelings that are driving the evaluation. Explore, identify, and take ownership of your needs that are driving the feelings, that are driving...
by Jess | Sep 15, 2023 | Blog, Education, NonViolent Communication, Public Blog, Public Content, Public Season 03, RECOVERY, Seasons
Hey Fuckers! Hope you’ve been diving into spooky season early and enthusiastically. Idk about you, but this is the time of year when the world feels aligned with my insides. Dark, dank, morbid, weird and creepy. Maybe a little too close to the veil. Yeah, it’s time to...
by Jess | Sep 15, 2023 | Audio Podcasts | Subscribers, Git Educated | Intermediate, NonViolent Communication, Patron Season 11, Seasons, Series, Subscriber Content
Time to talk about deprivation driving our shitty emotions and the surprising complex world of requests vs. demands. Let’s finish our NLP x relationships conversation and underlying t-relevant concepts… but only if you’re up for it. Cheers! Detailed...
by Jess | Sep 8, 2023 | Bonus Video, CPTSD Relationship Downfalls, Git Changing | Advanced, NonViolent Communication, Patron Season 11, Subscriber Content, Transcripts, Uncategorized, Vulnerability, Intimacy, and Trust, Workbooks
Key points: NonViolent Communication consists of 4 steps: 1) separate observations from evaluations2) identify and claim emotions3) identify and claim unmet needs underlying emotions4) make a request Today, we cover points 1&2 in depth, in two videos, with an...
by Jess | Sep 8, 2023 | Audio Podcasts | Subscribers, Git Educated | Intermediate, NonViolent Communication, Patron Season 11, Seasons, Series, Subscriber Content
Last time we learned the basic 4 steps of NVC – now let’s get into the full conversation. Tiny neurolinguistic details and enormous universal concepts that make the process work – or doom it to fail. Today, we’ll cover steps 1 & 2 of...
by Jess | Sep 2, 2023 | Bonus Video, Git Changing | Advanced, NonViolent Communication, Patron Season 11, Subscriber Content, Transcripts
My whiteboard and face are back after needing a self-care break! Let’s run through the 4 steps of NVC, in preparation for the deep details comin at you next week “A major pain point in our relationships involves getting stuck in cycles of reactive...
by Jess | Sep 1, 2023 | Blog, Public Blog, Public Content, Public Season 03, Vulnerability, Intimacy, and Trust, YOUR Parts in Relationship
Yoooooo my Fuckers. Welcome back. Thank you for being here, learning about the wild things brains do. And thank you, especially, to the friends who help me keep this thing (and myself) alive while also learning the full details of everything we talk about here (and so...
by Jess | Sep 1, 2023 | Audio Podcasts | Subscribers, Patron Season 11, Seasons, Subscriber Content
Why is “humaning” so hard? Well it doesn’t help that roughly none of us know how to speak to each other without control tactics, projections, and mind-reading expectations. This month, we’re talking about NonViolent Communication (NVC) in great...
