by Jess | Oct 27, 2023 | Audio Podcasts | Subscribers, Git Educated | Intermediate, NonViolent Communication, Patron Season 11, Seasons, Subscriber Content
What shuts down effective communication efforts? Well, we’ve got 10 “unrecommended” responses for you. We’ll talk about WHY people use them, what they convey, how they impact the relationship forever, how to de-program them from yourself, and how to course-correct the...
by Jess | Oct 20, 2023 | NonViolent Communication, Public Blog, Public Content, Public Season 03, Seasons, Series
NonViolent Communication language x unmet needs Hey Fuckers. Guess who’s showing up a week late on this platform? It’s this guy. You know why? Because this guy (ng’d) has finally started paying attention to their level of chronic self-deprivation. AKA – The...
by Jess | Oct 20, 2023 | Bonus Episodes, Git Changing | Advanced, MFs Speak!, NonViolent Communication, Patron Season 11, Seasons, Series, Subscriber Content
Today let’s take a relcalibration break to hear the other major points hidden in NonViolent Communication. Straight from the person who introduced me to NVC.
by Jess | Oct 15, 2023 | Bonus Episodes, Git Changing | Advanced, Patron Season 11, Seasons, Subscriber Content
Trying a new thing! Leading your reflections and opening space for new community building! ~~ Get your Reflection Qs from the NVC #7 Workbook, in audio form ~~ Hear me clarify, expand, and rephrase questions. Helping you to get the most out of your trauma archeology...
by Jess | Oct 14, 2023 | Bonus Video, Git Changing | Advanced, Patron Season 11, Seasons, Subscriber Content
If we deprive ourselves long enough? The SUB-C starts looking for new means of getting our needs met. Let’s whiteboard about it.
by Jess | Oct 14, 2023 | Bonus Episodes, Git Changing | Advanced, Patron Season 11, Seasons, Subscriber Content
If we’re masters at masking our own needs so recovery becomes impossible… how can we start to figure out the ways we’re depriving ourselves?
by Jess | Oct 14, 2023 | Audio Podcasts | Subscribers, Git Educated | Intermediate, Patron Season 11, Seasons, Subscriber Content
How do deprived and “unallowed” needs connect with our accrual of CPTSD and abuse-acceptance? Let’s talk about our FOO’s coercive control tactics for ~13 minutes.
by Jess | Oct 13, 2023 | Git Changing | Advanced, NonViolent Communication, Patron Season 11, Private Blog, Series, Subscriber Content, Transcripts, Workbooks
Notes: We have rigid rules about what needs are “allowed” for us in normal circumstances. Those rules often create webs of mandatory needs related to the original over-satiated needs. i.e. rigidly over-exercising -> medical needs, nutritional needs,...
by Jess | Oct 13, 2023 | Audio Podcasts | Subscribers, Git Educated | Intermediate, NonViolent Communication, Patron Season 11, Seasons, Series, Subscriber Content
Just a quick point to drive home several times over. No, you’re not CHOOSING self-destruction. Check “Nobody should believe me” wherever you podcast.
by Jess | Oct 13, 2023 | Audio Podcasts | Subscribers, Git Educated | Intermediate, NonViolent Communication, Patron Season 11, Seasons, Series, Subscriber Content
So we love to deprive ourselves “for goodness” – but what happens when your subconscious has enough? Today, talking about ways our SUB-C connives against us, creating extraordinary circumstances that allow us to fulfill our “unallowed...
by Jess | Oct 7, 2023 | Bonus Episodes, Git Changing | Advanced, NonViolent Communication, Patron Season 11, Seasons, Series, Subscriber Content
So we just finished looking at precise & accurate emotions… ARE there any instances in which “false, projected feelings” are valid? Can self-abuse words be helpful? And how does that concept connect with our parts work ala IFS?
by Jess | Oct 7, 2023 | Bonus Episodes, Git Changing | Advanced, NonViolent Communication, Patron Season 11, Seasons, Series, Subscriber Content
The title says it all? We learned that “projected, false, judgmental” emotional words are a big part of our vocabularies that holds us back. So, let’s redefine those words and pull meaning from them. What are we REALLY trying to say and how can we...
by Jess | Oct 7, 2023 | Audio Podcasts | Subscribers, Git Educated | Intermediate, NonViolent Communication, Patron Season 11, Seasons, Series, Subscriber Content
How do we mask our needs from ourselves, fruitlessly dumping energy into areas of life that won’t return any chemical pr physical reward? Lettuce talk about what I’m calling “secondary (preferred) needs” – as they relate to...
by Jess | Oct 6, 2023 | Bonus Video, Git Changing | Advanced, NonViolent Communication, Patron Season 11, Series, Subscriber Content, Transcripts, Workbooks
Eek. Talk about self-deprivation……. no, really, let’s talk about self-deprivation, masquerading as “meeting our most important needs.” Notes: Ya know, I gave a decent summary in the episode this time ’round. Here it is again: We...
