by Jess | Jul 28, 2023 | Blog, Public Blog, Public Season 03, Vulnerability, Intimacy, and Trust, YOUR Parts in Relationship
Check out the workbook version of this post by subscribing to the Git Changing tier on Patreon and then heading to the Private Member Hub on this site! Each workbook includes the transcript and my doods… and also has bulleted summary notes at the top &...
by Jess | Jul 28, 2023 | Audio Podcasts | Subscribers, Git Educated | Intermediate, Patron Season 10, Seasons, Subscriber Content
Alert: change in programming! And I’ll tell ya why. This month we talked about the real difficulty in starting healthy relationships – choosing the right partner. We discussed honoring what we feel in our bodies around others and examining their social...
by Jess | Jul 21, 2023 | Audio Podcasts | Subscribers, Git Educated | Intermediate, Patron Season 10, Seasons, Subscriber Content
We internalize the external systems we have to engage with, structuring our brains to be similar (or counteractively the complete opposite). But no one else can see the many layers of programming we carry – and we’re often unaware of the ways the past is...
by Jess | Jul 15, 2023 | Bonus Video, Git Changing | Advanced, Patron Season 10, Seasons, Subscriber Content
“Relationship” can seem like a nebulous cloud. So let’s keep breaking it down. How can we understand “relationship dynamics” – especially as they relate to learned behaviors that contradict our true intentions? Have some...
by Jess | Jul 15, 2023 | Git Changing | Advanced, Patron Season 10, Transcripts, Workbooks
Key points: (IMO) Assigning moralistic judgments (“good,” “bad,” “nice person”) to new relational partners is not helpful. These are reductionary, easy to misinterpret, and can set us on unhealthy courses of action. Leaning on basic...
by Jess | Jul 14, 2023 | Audio Podcasts | Subscribers, Git Educated | Intermediate, Patron Season 10, Seasons, Subscriber Content
If the IFS approach isn’t for you, this episode might be. Let’s talk about the validity of “energy” as the biological force driving everything and something we can sense in others. Then, what those “energies” we detect might mean about the potential for the...
by Jess | Jul 14, 2023 | Audio Podcasts | Subscribers, Git Educated | Intermediate, Patron Season 10, Seasons, Subscriber Content
We can’t predict what the future will hold or rigidly mentalize about other people’s brains, but we CAN be real with ourselves about what lives inside of us that might NOT be able to healthily proceed with another person. Let’s talk about actually honoring your...
by Jess | Jul 14, 2023 | Blog, Public Blog, Public Season 03, YOUR Parts in Relationship
SO, if you’ve been listening along to all this relational talk for the past few months, you may have been thinking: “Sounds great, I’d love to have fulfilling, trustworthy relationships that appease some of that emotional and social loneliness we talked about back in...
by Jess | Jul 9, 2023 | Bonus Video, Git Changing | Advanced, Patron Season 10, Seasons, Subscriber Content
Each relationship is a learned “dynamic.” Each dynamic is a series of common interactions. Each interaction is a series of Behavioral Strings. So let’s talk about these shared Behavioral Strings – where each behavior acts as a...
by Jess | Jul 7, 2023 | Audio Podcasts | Subscribers, Git Educated | Intermediate, Patron Season 10, Seasons, Subscriber Content
We all know about the 4 survival Fs at this point. But how about the additional F reactions- Fronting and Feigning? Let’s talk about learned reactions that keep us feeling safe in relationship… while rotting out the connection, engaging manipulation tactics, and using...
by Jess | Jul 7, 2023 | Blog, Patron Season 10, Private Blog, Seasons, Subscriber Content, Transcripts, Workbooks, YOUR Parts in Relationship
Notes: We react with “survival Fs” when we sense our safety is in question. I propose there are at least 2 additional Fs that show up regularly in relationships. Fronting is the strategy of making yourself bigger, stronger, smarter, and more threatening....
by Jess | Jul 7, 2023 | Audio Podcasts | Subscribers, Git Educated | Intermediate, Patron Season 10, Seasons, Subscriber Content
The past months of material may have been a shock to the system – where’s all this idealistic relational information coming from? Well, first, let me tell you the personal situation behind the sea change. This month we’ll cover: How do you know when you’re “picking up...
by Jess | Jul 6, 2023 | Blog, Seasons
Episode Guide | FULL Version(Includes bonuses that are available to Advanced subscription tiers. Check your subscription for access.)Looking for something specific? Use “ctrl-f” to search the document for words that are on your brain. Search anything,...
