by Jess | Apr 25, 2024 | Bonus Video, Git Changing | Advanced, Patron Season 12, Seasons, Subscriber Content, Transcripts
Part 1 Your self Authority, Authenticity, Integrity Pt I Yo Fuckers! You know what I’m giving you this week? A surprise. Let’s rap with a short episode for (roughly) each day, via exercises aimed at helping you refind and re-empower your authentic self. With a small...
by Jess | Apr 24, 2024 | Narc Recovery, Public Blog, Public Content, Public Podcast, Public Season 4, Seasons, Series
Whatup fam. But, in a non-insulting way. Back for another installment of “what’s been happening on the tr-motherfucking platforms this month!” And there are a few things to tell you. We’ve transitioned into talking shit about abusers. Last month we discussed...
by Jess | Apr 17, 2024 | Git Educated | Intermediate, Patron Season 12, Seasons, Subscriber Content
The end of intellectualizing. Time to apply the knowledge we just gathered for our own narc dealings.
by Jess | Apr 17, 2024 | Git Educated | Intermediate, Patron Season 12, Seasons, Subscriber Content
Let’s compare narcissism to the levels of personality functioning that range from “mature” to “psychopathological,” with all the neuroticism and borderline functioning in between.
by Jess | Apr 12, 2024 | Git Educated | Intermediate, Patron Season 12, Seasons, Subscriber Content
There is NO INTEGRITY WITHOUT INTEGRATION, and these fuckers use relationships as stand-ins for doing the work.
by Jess | Mar 28, 2024 | Audio Podcasts | Subscribers, Git Educated | Intermediate, Patron Season 12, Research Redux 2024, Seasons, Series, Subscriber Content
“Dr. Ramani says there’s no such thing as Healthy Narcissism.” EXACTLY FUCKER! Let’s clear up what’s been throwing some of us off. And let’s visualize this narc discussion as the polarized spectrum it really is, while we’re at...
by Jess | Mar 22, 2024 | Narc Recovery, Patron Season 12, Seasons, Series, Subscriber Content, Transcripts
So oftentimes in this weird role I find myself in, I also find myself wondering “are my words working?” With such an internal-work-based-position, it can be really hard to know if I’m explaining how things from the outside are connecting with these – here comes...
by Jess | Mar 22, 2024 | Bonus Video, Git Changing | Advanced, Narc Recovery, Patron Season 12, Research Redux 2024, Seasons, Series, Subscriber Content, Transcripts
Friends, hello! Announcements in case you’ve missed some recordings or are generally new: Thanks for being here, a part of the recovery community. If you don’t know, I’m some working class motherfucker with a boatload of student loans ala trying to improve my life and...
by Jess | Mar 22, 2024 | Audio Podcasts | Subscribers, Git Educated | Intermediate, Patron Season 12, Research Redux 2024, Seasons, Series, Subscriber Content
What’s missing in our lives that keeps us from being our most resilient and authentic self? Time to rethink our self-editing lessons of the past.
by Jess | Mar 8, 2024 | Git Changing | Advanced, Narc Recovery, Patron Season 12, Seasons, Series, Subscriber Content, Transcripts, Workbooks
Alright fuckers, lets rap. Am I putting out too much content? Perhaps. Truthbetold my brain is running several different programs right now that are starting to seem verrrrry difficult to manage all of them and I WILL be slowing down my output in the coming...
by Jess | Mar 8, 2024 | Patron Season 12, Research Redux 2024, Seasons, Series
Why has this article been so revitalizing? Well, the research results are challenging a lifetime of stigma. Let’s talk about family, culture, and witch hunts while redefining some misused words that could boost our resiliency. THEN, some reflection questions for...
by Jess | Mar 7, 2024 | Bonus Video, Git Changing | Advanced, Narc Recovery, Patron Season 12, Seasons, Series, Subscriber Content, Transcripts
Hey Fuckers! Welcome. I’m back in the saddle – returned to my real microphone after an unexpectedly prolonged travel stint where my brain went “oh, shit, you know in the absence of the continual strain, it’s clear that our daily surroundings were really crushing...
by Jess | Mar 6, 2024 | Audio Podcasts | Subscribers, Git Educated | Intermediate, Patron Season 12, Seasons, Subscriber Content
Entitlement, exploitativeness, vanity, and resiliency… We learned a lot in our last paper rundown. Let’s circle back to pull out and expand upon the key points with additional research.
by Jess | Mar 2, 2024 | Audio Podcasts | Subscribers, Filial Obligation and Entrapment, Git Educated | Intermediate, Patron Season 12, Research Redux 2024, Series, Subscriber Content
Let’s hit the points that have been lingering since our double release last week and dive into community comments.
by Jess | Mar 1, 2024 | Git Changing | Advanced, Private Blog, Subscriber Content
Advanced Fuckers! The time has come – I need to release some of what I’ve been working on. ✨✨ Introducing the first round of Private Micro-communities (micrommunities) on the new platform! ✨✨ Here’s the group rationale: We’re all here for...
by Jess | Feb 22, 2024 | Filial Obligation and Entrapment, Public Blog, Public Content, Public Podcast, Public Season 4, Seasons, Series
Let’s talk about filial obligation. Again. Why? Because it’s coming for all of us and it’s surrounded most of us, all along. One day the family will likely need help due to age or other issues. And at every age, you’ve likely gotten the impression that you were...
by Jess | Feb 22, 2024 | Git Changing | Advanced, Patron Season 12, Subscriber Content, Transcripts
Today, I bring you a paper that we can all thank our fellow Motherfucker for. Alex, thank you for sending this my way. I don’t even want to give a big introduction. I just want to jump into a paper that has – I shit you not – helped me understand...
by Jess | Feb 22, 2024 | Filial Obligation and Entrapment, Git Changing | Advanced, Patron Season 12, Seasons, Series, Subscriber Content, Transcripts
Episode linkVideo link I know I keep doing this thing where I’m like “OH! One more point!” But. I have about three more points. First: I would be remiss not to revisit the Filial Piety debate We touched, just briefly, at the end of episode four on the fact that...
by Jess | Feb 22, 2024 | Filial Obligation and Entrapment, Git Changing | Advanced, Patron Season 12, Seasons, Series, Subscriber Content, Transcripts
So in all this Filial talk, the real question that I keep bringing up may be…. Why bother discussing it? We can run ourselves mentally and emotionally ragged trying to weigh the pros and cons… and that’s before the spiritual and physical tolls hit us, probably, in...
by Jess | Feb 22, 2024 | Bonus Video, Git Changing | Advanced, Patron Season 12, Research, Seasons, Subscriber Content
Why would you want to watch my face read? IDK, but I’ve been told I *should* do this. So I finally gave it a shot. NOTE: extremely awkward. Lemme know!
by Jess | Feb 22, 2024 | Audio Podcasts | Subscribers, Filial Obligation and Entrapment, Git Educated | Intermediate, Patron Season 12, Seasons, Series, Subscriber Content
Count this as an extra dive into 3 research papers. What’s the connection between perception, caregiving burden, parent-child ambivalence, and guilt? . Next up: A Narc episode that I couldn’t download out of my recording software at time of this...
by Jess | Feb 22, 2024 | Audio Podcasts | Subscribers, Git Educated | Intermediate, Patron Season 12, Seasons, Subscriber Content
How is narcissism potentially “necessary for psychological adjustment to adversity”? Your usual self-analyses might implode with this episode. Thank you to Alex for sending in this paper!
by Jess | Feb 16, 2024 | Audio Podcasts | Subscribers, Filial Obligation and Entrapment, Git Educated | Intermediate, Patron Season 12, Seasons, Series, Subscriber Content
Let’s bring this back down to earth. Philosophies meet t-real life and 2 additional research studies, as we draw our final conclusions on Filial Morality.
by Jess | Feb 16, 2024 | Audio Podcasts | Subscribers, Filial Obligation and Entrapment, Git Educated | Intermediate, Patron Season 12, Seasons, Series, Subscriber Content
After all these academic approaches to the debate of Filial Obligation, let’s hear from a RL MF on his philosophy and boundaries. Check out the first part of Dominic’s story here. Thank you again, Dominic and Kyle, for your...
by Jess | Feb 3, 2024 | Audio Podcasts | Subscribers, Filial Obligation and Entrapment, Git Educated | Intermediate, Patron Season 12, Seasons, Series, Subscriber Content
Just one major point today as a catalyst to throwing your own thoughts in a perspectual blender. What if Filial Obligation isn’t about your parents?
by Jess | Jan 30, 2024 | Public Blog, Public Content, Public Season 4
Hey Fuckers, it has been a beat. I was going to say “sorry,” but aren’t we all trying to train ourselves out of that bad habit? Rather than claiming our lives, our time, our health, our autonomy, we, instead, apologize for having the burden of existing. Pretty...
by Jess | Jan 30, 2024 | Audio Podcasts | Subscribers, Filial Obligation and Entrapment, Git Educated | Intermediate, Patron Season 12, Seasons, Series, Subscriber Content
We KNOW what comes from Filial Obligation with abusive people… anxiety, depression, sense of incapacity and entrapment, hopelessness, suicidality… and yet, we’re still torn. So, what’s going on? . Let’s explore 5 Western philosophies on...
by Jess | Jan 30, 2024 | Audio Podcasts | Subscribers, Git Educated | Intermediate, Patron Season 12, Seasons, Subscriber Content
A big Q from John; Answered. And what the hell happened with all these “new” (old) Narc episodes dropping?
by Jess | Jan 20, 2024 | Audio Podcasts | Subscribers, Git Educated | Intermediate, Patron Season 12, Seasons, Subscriber Content
Back to your comments! Let’s share your words on VulNarc observations around needs, manipulation, and negativity.
by Jess | Jan 20, 2024 | Audio Podcasts | Subscribers, Git Educated | Intermediate, Patron Season 12, Seasons, Subscriber Content
The crossover between VulNarcs and FilOb is considerable. Hell, parental duty is how many of us get acquainted with the term. Cue the years of manipulation. So, today, let’s open a three part discussion on Filial Obligation as a moral duty. First, talking about...
by Jess | Jan 15, 2024 | Git Educated | Intermediate, Patron Season 12, Subscriber Content
Had another thought about the connection between VulNarcdom and the traumatized phases it seems to be encapsulated in. Then, had the thought, “but I don’t have a way to record right now… so this is worthless…” … But, says who? Who can guarantee that no one will...
by Jess | Jan 15, 2024 | Git Educated | Intermediate, Patron Season 12, Seasons, Subscriber Content
Had another thought about the connection between VulNarcdom and the traumatized phases it seems to be encapsulated in. Then, had the thought, “but I don’t have a way to record right now… so this is worthless…” … But, says who? Who can guarantee that no one will...
by Jess | Jan 13, 2024 | Git Changing | Advanced, Narc Recovery, Patron Season 12, Seasons, Series, Subscriber Content, Transcripts
Unexpected delivery, knocking at your door. Hey Fuckers. FIrst of all, it’s Friday morning after the ‘nouncement, and I see there are a buncho comments coming in about those last two posts. Thank you, I appreciate you, and I have things to say. But not...
by Jess | Jan 13, 2024 | Audio Podcasts | Subscribers, Git Educated | Intermediate, Patron Season 12, Seasons, Subscriber Content
Not to skim over your kindly comments, but I’ll sob… Let’s do a bitesized summary/expansion of our VulNarc talk and add some community wisdom to the mix. Talkin’ filial obligation, defensiveness, and moderating anxiety when waiting for...
by Jess | Jan 12, 2024 | Audio Podcasts | Subscribers, Git Educated | Intermediate, Patron Season 12, Seasons, Series, Subscriber Content, Time Distortions
We need time, space, and energy for recovery. But what happens if we mal-use those resources? Today, we’re diving into a resaerch paper on the connections between VulNarcs and Past Negative Time Orientation, including how angry rumination and withdrawal...
by Jess | Jan 12, 2024 | Audio Podcasts | Subscribers, Git Educated | Intermediate, Patron Season 12, Seasons, Subscriber Content
For those who don’t like surprises, here’s what’s next for TMFRs.
by Jess | Jan 12, 2024 | Git Changing | Advanced, Narc Recovery, Patron Season 12, RECOVERY, Research, Seasons, Series, Subscriber Content, Time Distortions, Transcripts
So, I hope you listened to that little introduction to 2024 that I just released. As I told you, I’m…. quitting this show. This is either the FINAL season or, finally, the season in which I get my groove back and can’t stop dancing to the music. I’m not sure which....
by Jess | Dec 31, 2023 | Audio Podcasts | Subscribers, Git Educated | Intermediate, Patron Season 11, Seasons, Subscriber Content
A short n lite NY diddy. Let’s talk abruptly-popular words in 2023, what they mean about the common collective, and where we might be headed.
by Jess | Dec 31, 2023 | Git Changing | Advanced, Patron Season 11, Seasons, Subscriber Content, Transcripts
Hoooo Fuckers, I’m literally counting down the hours until this shitstain of a year is over. 35 and a half at time of recording! And I almost forgot to do something that I really wanted to do before the time was up. To write this minisode. Here’s the gist. Every...
by Jess | Dec 30, 2023 | Audio Podcasts | Subscribers, Git Educated | Intermediate, Patron Season 11, Seasons, Subscriber Content
Some personal accounting. Through the PTSDs and back – the ignominious origins of the 2024 reflection episode and results so far. If you make it til the end, quiet in the comments please 😉 FYEO 🍻 Cheers, Fucker. . Here are those steps of the exercise...
by Jess | Dec 29, 2023 | Exercises, Git Changing | Advanced, Patron Season 11, Refind & Empower yer Self, Seasons, Series, Subscriber Content, Transcripts
Time to make sure we don’t relive the same year out of habit or hellish survival mechanisms gone wild. Let’s look at your ‘ole patterning and see what you really value, chart out behavioral changes, and build self-trust. Steps Roles Trolls Goals...
by Jess | Dec 23, 2023 | CPTSD Relationship Downfalls, Git Changing | Advanced, NonViolent Communication, Patron Season 11, Seasons, Series, Subscriber Content, Transcripts
OKAY MY MOTHA FUCKS. Months ago in August we spoke about the challenge of apologizing, for real, with the purpose of repairing relational ruptures. And all the ways that our relationships crumble when we don’t do those things. Then in September we discussed the...
by Jess | Dec 23, 2023 | Filial Obligation and Entrapment, Git Changing | Advanced, Holiday Survival, Patron Season 11, Seasons, Subscriber Content, Transcripts
So around Tgiving we had a shorter episode release discussing the issues with “gratitude” after a long life of childhood and adult trauma. Namely, that we don’t always have the things or circumstances we need in order for our nervous systems to actually be aware...
by Jess | Dec 23, 2023 | CPTSD Relationship Downfalls, Git Changing | Advanced, Patron Season 11, Seasons, Series, Subscriber Content, Transcripts
Helllooooo Fuckers! As part of our “rounding out reasons relationships wreck us” emphasis in 2023, and as a piece of our holiday prep for the forthcoming Nightmares before Christmas. Or whatever you observe. I ALSO thought it would be fitting to release this post. A...
by Jess | Dec 23, 2023 | CPTSD Relationship Downfalls, Education, LIVING with Complex Trauma, Public Content, Public Podcast, Public Season 03, Seasons, Series
HEY MOTHERFUCKER. HO, HO, HO, you’re getting some extra shows this month. The spirit has overtaken me. By the way, my name is Jess. Someone recently told me they’d been listening for months and just figured that out, so apparently I don’t say it often. I...
by Jess | Dec 23, 2023 | Git Changing | Advanced, Holiday Survival, Patron Season 11, Seasons, Series, Subscriber Content, Transcripts
Hey Fuckers. I’m just sitting here, eating some eggs, thinking about you all, the past, and the future… and felt inclined to get a jump start on our upcoming 2023 reflection close-out and visioning for 2024. In fact, I realized that it’s going to be a great time...
by Jess | Dec 21, 2023 | Audio Podcasts | Subscribers, Filial Obligation and Entrapment, Git Educated | Intermediate, Holiday Survival, Patron Season 11, Seasons, Series, Subscriber Content
There’s plenty to be grateful for this holiday. If you spend time with family, it’ll be right in front of your face. Hail your recovery and Merry Holidays, Motherfucker. ❄️🍻❄️
by Jess | Dec 21, 2023 | Audio Podcasts | Subscribers, CPTSD Relationship Downfalls, Git Educated | Intermediate, NonViolent Communication, Patron Season 11, Seasons, Subscriber Content
What’s the difference between shame and guilt? And how do they mandate relationship wreckage? As always, Idunno. But here’s one perspective.
by Jess | Dec 15, 2023 | Audio Podcasts | Subscribers, Git Educated | Intermediate, Patron Season 11, Seasons, Subscriber Content
Can’t wrap a year on relationships without talking abuse tactics. Let’s discuss DARVO and SAPIEN – strategies to be mindful of (in others & yourself) this holiday season and beyond.
by Jess | Dec 13, 2023 | Bonus Episodes, CPTSD Relationship Downfalls, Git Changing | Advanced, Patron Season 11, Seasons, Series, Subscriber Content, Transcripts
BONUS EDITION: Find extra content in this version. Well hello and welcome to a surprise show, for all of us. The world didn’t end after the last episode, so we’re coming back for another romp. Some feedback from that prior post. (Now that I’m back on the same...
