Gratitude; a t-loaded word | Spanksgiving Special 2023
What happens when “gratitude” loses all meaning? Or even, acquires negative meaning? Let’s talk about why this holiday can be especially triggering, as forced “thankfulness” becomes a signal for self-abandonment.
Self-abandonment vs your best Spanksgiving | Surprise Spanksgiving Special
Let’s cut the brainy shit, the real answer to surviving the holidays is not abandoning yourself.
Revitalized Discussion Fawning X Unmet Needs
In 2021 the word of the year was Fawning. Today, let’s revisit those discussions while layering on our needs-deprivation conversation as we continue to prepare ourselves for the holidays.
BONUS: MY tips for t-communicating
What can this Fucker say about communicating on t-brains? Got plenty of lessons in reactivity to share. And yes, turns out “there are some adults who still need to hear this”
10b. How-TO Prepare to Respond Effectively
Responding to vulnerable disclosures can be as hard as issuing them. Let’s talk about how to set yourself up for responsive success, keeping trauma-brain fuckshittery in mind.
10a. Rationale: How-TO Respond Effectively
Wonky episode format and scheduling coming up! But here’s why. Let’s get into discussing the “How-TOs” of responding, now that we’ve told you what NOT to do.
11. How-TO Respond Effectively
What are the steps to effective responding that take massive pressure off your every word? Let’s talk about the keys to success, which open up room for less stressful communication to progress afterwards.
AMA! “What IS my bullshit?”
Got back from a windy hike this morning and decided to answer an email via video for you Fuckers. Lez talk about the difference between “human bullshit” (AKA the bullshit crust) and “lower level survival reactions.” Happy...
3.11. Ten Destructive Responses that Set Off Trauma Defenses
This podcast episode explores ten destructive responses to avoid in sensitive conversations, based on NonViolent Communication principles. It discusses why people use these responses and their impact on relationships. The episode provides insights into improving communication skills, especially during stressful holiday interactions with family. It emphasizes the importance of empathy, active listening, and self-awareness in fostering healthier interpersonal dynamics.
9. DAMAGING Responses to Vulnerable Conversation: Examples 6-10
Back to it! Here are the next 5 ways we commonly respond to others which shuts down discussion, fosters misunderstanding, and breeds contempt, according to the NVC experts.