Top Words of 2023
Hoooo Fuckers, I’m literally counting down the hours until this shitstain of a year is over. 35 and a half at time of recording! And I almost forgot to do something that I really wanted to do before the time was up. To write this minisode. Here’s the gist. Every...
NY2024 Exercise Origin
Some personal accounting. Through the PTSDs and back – the ignominious origins of the 2024 reflection episode and results so far. If you make it til the end, quiet in the comments please 😉 FYEO 🍻 Cheers, Fucker. . Here are those steps of the exercise...
Get your fucking shit aligned, 2024
Time to make sure we don’t relive the same year out of habit or hellish survival mechanisms gone wild. Let’s look at your ‘ole patterning and see what you really value, chart out behavioral changes, and build self-trust. Steps Roles Trolls Goals...Guilt vs Shame, vs the Ego. Or, “Why our relationships suck.”
OKAY MY MOTHA FUCKS. Months ago in August we spoke about the challenge of apologizing, for real, with the purpose of repairing relational ruptures. And all the ways that our relationships crumble when we don’t do those things. Then in September we discussed the...Gratitude II | Christmas Edition
So around Tgiving we had a shorter episode release discussing the issues with “gratitude” after a long life of childhood and adult trauma. Namely, that we don’t always have the things or circumstances we need in order for our nervous systems to actually be aware...Abuse Acronyms: DARVO and SAPIEN
Helllooooo Fuckers! As part of our “rounding out reasons relationships wreck us” emphasis in 2023, and as a piece of our holiday prep for the forthcoming Nightmares before Christmas. Or whatever you observe. I ALSO thought it would be fitting to release this post. A...
Sex vs. Parts, Programs, and Expectations | Sex on CPTSD pt I
This podcast episode explores the complex relationship between trauma, CPTSD, and sexuality. It discusses how childhood narratives, early experiences, and adult adaptations can create conflicting internal “parts” that influence sexual behavior and attitudes. The episode introduces the concept of examining sexual dysfunction through the lens of Internal Family Systems, encouraging listeners to understand their sexual history and patterns for better integration and healing.
Reflecting on your “cycles” in 2023
Hey Fuckers. I’m just sitting here, eating some eggs, thinking about you all, the past, and the future… and felt inclined to get a jump start on our upcoming 2023 reflection close-out and visioning for 2024. In fact, I realized that it’s going to be a great time...
HOLIDAY TIME: Gratitude II (a better attitude)
There’s plenty to be grateful for this holiday. If you spend time with family, it’ll be right in front of your face. Hail your recovery and Merry Holidays, Motherfucker. ❄️🍻❄️
Shame vs. Guilt
What’s the difference between shame and guilt? And how do they mandate relationship wreckage? As always, Idunno. But here’s one perspective.
Abuse Acronyms to Know: DARVO & SAPIEN
Can’t wrap a year on relationships without talking abuse tactics. Let’s discuss DARVO and SAPIEN – strategies to be mindful of (in others & yourself) this holiday season and beyond.
BONUS ED: Sex on CPTSD pt II
BONUS EDITION: Find extra content in this version. Well hello and welcome to a surprise show, for all of us. The world didn’t end after the last episode, so we’re coming back for another romp. Some feedback from that prior post. (Now that I’m back on the same...
End of Year Extra: Your Cycles
A Fucker loves to “close out the year.” Let’s take a look at the cycles you’ve been through and identify important lessons learned.
Sex on CPTSD pt II
The world didn’t end after the last post and I have more to say. Let’s talk about identifying if your sexual life is healthy and clear some additional points.
3.12a. Transference, Projection, Monkey-barring, Displacement
This podcast episode explores various forms of transference in relationships and mental health, including projection, monkey-barring, and displacement. It discusses how these cognitive patterns can affect interpersonal dynamics and therapy outcomes. The episode emphasizes the importance of self-reflection and critical thinking in recognizing and addressing these patterns for improved emotional intelligence and relationship health.
Sex, parts, programming, and needs
So, Fuckers. We’re “wrapping up” relationships as we round out 2023. Which isn’t really true, because CPTSD is so based IN relationships (the onset and the continued challenges we encounter) that we’ll never be done discussing them. But as for examining what...
Sex, parts, programming, and needs
We’ve talked about intimacy… but not *intimacy.* Diving into sex, let’s talk about childhood and adult programming through parts and need fulfillment strategies ala IFS and NVC… and rewiring sexual imbalances that don’t represent your...
TRANSFERENCE VIDEO!
Been working on an all new experience for you, including animated videos! Let’s talk about Transference in the highest quality vid I’ve done in years. TransferenceProjectionMonkey-barringDisplacementAnd what to do about the Transference Trend in yer...Transcript | Emotional Transference, Displacement, Projection, Monkey-barring
Hey Fuckers! I’m going to talk at you for a minute before we get into the episode. Because I feel like we need to catch up. Because this is one of the few weeks this year I have been caught up – a member of consensus reality who’s operating on the same timeline...
Emotional Transference, Displacement, Projection, and Monkey-barring
“You should do an episode on Transference,” one of y’all said. I resisted, until “Displacement” became a point of fascination. Let’s talk about Transference (Classic) and the other forms (Projection, Monkey-barring,...