Actual self-Love pt I: Qualifying Obstacles
What stands in the way of self-love? We discuss relational barriers from the past and criteria you might be holding against yourself. Heads up, it’s a “weeks-years of reflection” sortof episode. Transcript: Hey there, friends and fuckers. We are here...
“Worker rescued after allegedly left stranded on Colorado mountain by colleagues.” What did we recently say about work families?
Just a quick “lol but not” on this one! The story below made me think of this recent post from TMFRs. “How to deal with Mind Games in the Workplace” – Reminder: CPTSD primes us for abusive work experiences that ‘feel like home’ NEWS: Office retreat gone...
“Why can’t I show joy to others?”
The danger of showing appreciation? It’s disempowering according to the past. Let’s talk about reasons and solutions. Transcript: Hey, fuckers. Thanks for tuning in. I’ve got a little follow-up and a listener question to address per the asceticism...
Pub Pod 4.8 Self Compassion; the Daily Battle for Recovery
Education and Responsibility are important for t-recovery… But progress peters when self-punishment predominates. Without self-compassion, regression becomes reality. Let’s talk about the requirement for self-compassion and 5 ways to do it. Download the slides...
Personal: Family Patterning & Deprivation Default Mode
Trauma Thoughts | Identifying and Deprogramming Cognitive Bullshit
“whoops that’s a trauma thought.” -all of us. Logical fallacies, overgeneralizations, B&W rulings, toxic positivity; these are brains on t-bullshit. Transcript: Greetings and welcome, fuckers. We’re here for another Back to Basics episode...
Self Compassion vs. Asceticism: Joyless Living as self-Defense
Living in misery because it feels safer that way? Yeah, it’s a trauma problem. Let’s talk about deprivation as defense, and reframing those trauma thoughts. Transcript: Yaaaaa fuckers! We are here today to talk about kind of a crossover topic between...
Required: self-Compassion for Post-traumatic Growth in CPTSD Recovery
If there’s one thing I regret in the making of TMFRs and my own recovery effort… It’s the self-scrutinizing approach which eventually eclipsed the original recovery measure that enabled any of this project and progress: Self-compassion. Don’t...
The War of self-Compassion (CPTSD Recovery)
A pitfall in recovery; self-compassion is replaced by self-work, which puts us back in a traumatized mindspace. Compassion is critical to heal. Will you take up the brave challenge? Transcript: Motherfuckers! We are here this week with an assortment of posts to offer...
Joyfully risk-taking, fucking up, and healing trauma
Followup post! Fucking up isn’t shameful, it’s required for healing..A joyful approach to risk-taking and mistake-making enables post-traumatic growth. How can you reframe the danger of mistakes and celebrate your FUs, proudly? Transcript: Fuckers! Hey...
Avoiding & Compassionately Rectifying “Abuse Supporting Stupidity”
Followup post! How can we combat the brain’s tendency to willfully protect itself while maintaining a self-compassionate view on our behaviors? Transcript: Hey, fuckers. I wanted to come back with a little follow up on a bit of a ragtag post that I put out a few...
SUBC Shame Followup: Psych & Neurobio: Your brain vs. imagined realities
“I didn’t think that would work but it did.” Followup that shame ‘sode. Today lez talk about WHY leaning into your worst fears works via psychology and neurobiology. Transcript: Hey motherfuckers, today I wanted to come back and touch upon some...
REPOST: CPTSD relationship dynamics, explained
Thought I’d share a video with all tiers!
Let’s see “Relationships” in a visual format and understand our relationship templates that create the same dynamics over and over again… Thanks, Behavioral Science!
“My partner has CPTSD, how do I convince them to seek treatment?”
A common question, answered. But if you’re new to CPTSD learnin, it might make ya mad. (sorry). Stay tuned for the most trauma-educated advice I can lend. Transcript: Seasons, greetings, and salutations, fuckers. Today we have a listener question, which is a...
“How to deal with Mind Games in the Workplace” – Reminder: CPTSD primes us for abusive work experiences that ‘feel like home’
Stumbled upon this Forbes article about dealing with covertly manipulative / abusive coworkers. “How To Deal With Mind Games In The Workplace” And I’m thrilled, yet disheartened, that this is an article in such a big publication. Excerpt: For...![[ pt 2 ] No BS: Using self-defense knowledge for healing self and other pt 2 | Video+Tscript](https://i0.wp.com/t-mfrs.com/wp-content/uploads/2024/07/2.png?resize=1080%2C675&ssl=1)
[ pt 2 ] No BS: Using self-defense knowledge for healing self and other pt 2 | Video+Tscript
Back to compassionate understanding and acting in the face of immature self-defense mechanisms! A few additions to Passive Aggression, then we’re onto Splitting and Projective Identification. Turns out, it’s an insightful emotional episode for those of us...
No BS: Using self-defense knowledge for healing self and other pt I
“To be insane in insane circumstances is to be sane.” We’re tapping compassion & healing, not criticism & wounding, as we utilize self-defense research for good, pt I. Let’s talk about practical steps towards healing our self and others...
How to overcome trauma shame? A “lean into it” approach.
You asked, I answer. How to overcome shame surrounding traumatic events? I have a bottom-up approach that targets the hell your brain already believes you’re living though… so we might as well process, re-evaluate, and recontextualize your worst...