by Jess | Jul 1, 2024 | BACK TO BASICS, Bonus Video, Git Changing | Advanced, Patron Season 12, Seasons, Series, Subscriber Content, Transcripts
`Somatic experiencing is a powerful tool for trauma recovery, especially for those with complex PTSD. This episode explores practical techniques for reconnecting with your body, including nature-based practices, mindful movement, and lifestyle adjustments. The podcast emphasizes the importance of finding safe spaces and personalized approaches to embodiment. By prioritizing body awareness and integrating it into daily life, individuals can process emotions more effectively, manage stress, and increase their window of tolerance. While challenging, these practices can lead to significant improvements in overall well-being and mental health.
by Jess | Jul 1, 2024 | Audio Podcasts | Subscribers, BACK TO BASICS, Git Educated | Intermediate, Patron Season 12, Seasons, Series, Subscriber Content
Somatic experiencing is a powerful tool for trauma recovery, especially for those with complex PTSD. This episode explores practical techniques for reconnecting with your body, including nature-based practices, mindful movement, and lifestyle adjustments. The podcast emphasizes the importance of finding safe spaces and personalized approaches to embodiment. By prioritizing body awareness and integrating it into daily life, individuals can process emotions more effectively, manage stress, and increase their window of tolerance. While challenging, these practices can lead to significant improvements in overall well-being and mental health.
by Jess | Jun 29, 2024 | BACK TO BASICS, Bonus Video, Git Changing | Advanced, Patron Season 12, Seasons, Series, Subscriber Content
Somatic experiencing is a crucial component of trauma recovery, particularly for those dealing with Complex PTSD. This approach helps individuals reconnect with their bodies and process stored trauma responses. While cognitive approaches provide important context, true healing involves both top-down (mental) and bottom-up (bodily) processes. Somatic experiencing can be challenging and overwhelming, especially for those new to trauma recovery. It’s important to approach this work with professional guidance and to recognize that everyone’s journey is unique. By integrating somatic and cognitive approaches, individuals can work towards a more regulated and integrated system, allowing for more effective healing and personal growth.
by Jess | Jun 29, 2024 | BACK TO BASICS, Git Changing | Advanced, Patron Season 12, Seasons, Series, Subscriber Content, Workbooks
Somatic Experiencing (SE) is a powerful approach to trauma recovery that focuses on reconnecting with the body and processing stored emotions. This slide deck offers an introduction to SE, explaining its importance in addressing trauma-related stress responses and the challenges beginners may face. It provides practical tips and experiments for incorporating SE into daily life, emphasizing the role of nature, movement, and self-care. By learning to listen to our bodies and honor our biological needs, we can work towards healing and improved well-being.
by Jess | Jun 27, 2024 | Public Content, Public Podcast, Public Season 04, self-defense mechanisms
This podcast episode explores immature self-defense mechanisms in trauma recovery, focusing on acting out, help-rejecting complaining, and passive aggression. It discusses how these behaviors develop from childhood experiences and persist into adulthood, affecting relationships and personal growth. The episode examines the functions of these mechanisms and their impact on emotional regulation and social interactions. By understanding these patterns, listeners can gain insights into their own behaviors and those of others, potentially leading to more effective coping strategies and improved self-awareness.
by Jess | Jun 27, 2024 | Outside Resources, Patron Season 12, Seasons, self-defense mechanisms, Series
In case you’re interested in learning more about self-passive aggression, here are a few helpful resources I found for the episode! Psychology Today: Self-Sabotage as Passive Aggression Toward the Self (Pt 5/5) Passive Aggression Toward the Self Mindfulness...
by Jess | Jun 26, 2024 | Bonus Video, Git Changing | Advanced, Patron Season 12, Seasons, self-defense mechanisms, Series, Subscriber Content
“Concealed discharge of resentment / disappointment created by a lifetime of unmet needs.” Let’s talk about the depths of Passive Aggression… how it originates in childhood neglect… and how it helps absolutely no one to move forward while...
by Jess | Jun 26, 2024 | Bonus Video, Git Changing | Advanced, Patron Season 12, Seasons, self-defense mechanisms, Series, Subscriber Content
“Concealed discharge of resentment / disappointment created by a lifetime of unmet needs.” Let’s talk about the depths of Passive Aggression… how it originates in childhood neglect… and how it helps absolutely no one to move forward while...
by Jess | Jun 25, 2024 | BACK TO BASICS, Git Changing | Advanced, Patron Season 12, Seasons, Workbooks
This comprehensive slide deck exploration of mindfulness, metacognition, and traumatic training offers valuable insights for trauma recovery. By understanding how our past experiences shape our automatic responses, we can begin to rewire maladaptive behaviors. Mindfulness and metacognition serve as powerful tools for neutral self-observation, allowing us to question ingrained beliefs and make conscious decisions aligned with our present reality. The concept of “traumatic training” helps explain how childhood experiences can lead to lifelong patterns, while also offering hope for change through mindful awareness and intentional behavioral recalibration.
by Jess | Jun 21, 2024 | Audio Podcasts | Subscribers, BACK TO BASICS, Git Educated | Intermediate, Patron Season 12, Seasons, Subscriber Content, Transcripts
In our last BtB episode I used some poorly-understood words. Let’s define “Mindfulness,” “MetaCognition,” and “Traumatic Training” as we use a common example of a traumatic lesson-turned-maladaptive-habit that rails so many of...
by Jess | Jun 19, 2024 | Audio Podcasts | Subscribers, Git Educated | Intermediate, Patron Season 12, Seasons, self-defense mechanisms, Series, Subscriber Content
Endless energy to voice problems, no attempt to find solutions? It’s Help-Rejecting Complaining; the self-defense mechanism driven by resentment about unmet needs. Transcript: Hey fuckers! We are back to continue our discussion of defense mechanisms, starting...
by Jess | Jun 16, 2024 | Bonus Video, Git Changing | Advanced, Patron Season 12, Seasons, self-defense mechanisms, Series, Subscriber Content, Transcripts
Endless energy to voice problems, no attempt to find solutions? It’s Help-Rejecting Complaining; the self-defense mechanism driven by resentment about unmet needs. Transcript: Hey fuckers! We are back to continue our discussion of defense mechanisms, starting...
by Jess | Jun 15, 2024 | BACK TO BASICS, Bonus Video, Git Educated | Intermediate, Public Content, Public Podcast, Public Season 04, Seasons, Subscriber Content, Transcripts
This podcast episode explores the fundamental concepts of trauma recovery, addressing the sources of trauma, the importance of self-reflection, and the process of emotional learning. It discusses how childhood experiences, generational trauma, and societal influences shape our behaviors and thought patterns. The episode emphasizes the need for self-awareness, recontextualization of past experiences, and the identification of personal needs. It also touches on the potential role of spirituality in healing and the impact of technology addiction on recovery efforts. The overall message encourages listeners to take an active role in their own healing process.
by Jess | Jun 13, 2024 | Bonus Video, Git Changing | Advanced, Patron Season 12, Seasons, self-defense mechanisms, Series, Subscriber Content, Transcripts
Here’s the diagnostic criteria for “acting out” as a defense mechanism! Fig. 1 Defense Hierarchy Transcript: Hey fuckers. I know I said we were done with acting out and ready to move on, but no, I found this other part of the paper that I wanted to...
by Jess | Jun 13, 2024 | Audio Podcasts | Subscribers, Git Educated | Intermediate, Patron Season 12, Seasons, self-defense mechanisms, Series, Subscriber Content
PS – Here’s the diagnostic criteria for “acting out” as a defense mechanism! Fig. 1 Defense Hierarchy
by Jess | Jun 13, 2024 | Bonus Video, Git Changing | Advanced, Patron Season 12, Seasons, self-defense mechanisms, Series, Subscriber Content, Transcripts
Our first individual defense mechanism! Let’s talk about Acting Out (the immediate transmutation of emotion to action without considering consequences) and its functions. Fig. 1 Defense Hierarchy Transcript: Alright fuckers, we’re back to start talking...
by Jess | Jun 13, 2024 | Audio Podcasts | Subscribers, Git Educated | Intermediate, Patron Season 12, Seasons, self-defense mechanisms, Series, Subscriber Content
Our first individual defense mechanism! Let’s talk about Acting Out (the immediate transmutation of emotion to action without considering consequences) and its functions. Fig. 1 Defense Hierarchy
by Jess | Jun 12, 2024 | Bonus Video, Git Changing | Advanced, Patron Season 12, Seasons, self-defense mechanisms, Series, Subscriber Content, Transcripts
Let’s start working our way through the self-defense mechanisms that define our relationships and lives. First up, the least mature level: Action Defenses. It might explain a lot about the people who raised you. Fig. 1 Defense Hierarchy Transcript: Greetings...
by Jess | Jun 12, 2024 | Audio Podcasts | Subscribers, Git Educated | Intermediate, Patron Season 12, Seasons, self-defense mechanisms, Series, Subscriber Content
Let’s start working our way through the self-defense mechanisms that define our relationships and lives. First up, the least mature level: Action Defenses. It might explain a lot about the people who raised you. Fig. 1 Defense Hierarchy References: Di Giuseppe...
by Jess | Jun 12, 2024 | Bonus Video, Git Changing | Advanced, Patron Season 12, Seasons, self-defense mechanisms, Series, Societal Trauma (RAT WARS), Subscriber Content, Transcripts
As we start discussing defense mechanisms, a Fucker thinks about the tactics used by employers and employees… and how they feel “all too close to home,” making them extra potent sources of abuse. Fig. 1 Defense Hierarchy Transcript: What’s up...
by Jess | Jun 5, 2024 | Outside Resources, Patron Season 12, Seasons
I’m not a financial adivsor, I can’t tell you what this new law means for you / your 401K… But I want to share this information for the abuse survivors among us who need a rapid cash influx to get out of a bad situation. Share the news, if you can....
by Jess | Jun 4, 2024 | Git Changing | Advanced, Next Evolution, Patron Season 12, Seasons, self (with a small s), Series, Subscriber Content, Transcripts
In this preview of new things already underway… As we talk about reality and processing, the Dunning-Kruger Effect comes to mind. Transcript Hey fuckers! Welcome back and happy June? How is it already June of 2024? My brain does not comprehend time very well...
by Jess | Jun 4, 2024 | Audio Podcasts | Subscribers, Git Educated | Intermediate, Next Evolution, Patron Season 12, Seasons, self (with a small s), Series, Subscriber Content
In this preview of new things already underway… As we talk about reality and processing, the Dunning-Kruger Effect comes to mind.
by Jess | Jun 2, 2024 | Narcs, Abuse, Safety, Next Evolution, Patron Season 12, Research, Research Redux 2024, Seasons, self (with a small s)
Picking up from our discussion of intellectualizing, rationalizing, narcs, and processing styles, let’s talk about REALITY TESTING. (The thing that keeps us from living via wildly inaccurate narrations). Why is it so challenging? How do we do it? And how do we...
by Jess | May 26, 2024 | Patron Season 12, Bonus Video, Git Changing | Advanced, Research Redux 2024, Seasons, self (with a small s), Subscriber Content, Transcripts
Y’all wanted to keep talking “implications of narc research,” and ya’ve not been forgotten! Let’s talk Nuance and Subtlety vs. t-brains. Transcript: Hey, fuckers. Yeah, I am back, back, back again. So here we are with another unexpected...
by Jess | May 26, 2024 | Subscriber Content, Bonus Video, Git Changing | Advanced, Narcs, Abuse, Safety, Next Evolution, Patron Season 12, Research Redux 2024, Seasons, self (with a small s), Transcripts
Narcissistic behavior and decision making: how smart ARE narcissists, really? How do they make decisions? And how do these thought processes differ between grandiose and vulnerable subtypes?
by Jess | May 21, 2024 | Patron Season 12, Bonus Video, Git Changing | Advanced, Narcs, Abuse, Safety, Next Evolution, Seasons, self (with a small s), Subscriber Content, Transcripts
Did I forget to say something yesterday, or plan to make this most important point separately? Intellectualizing -> SHOULDING ON and SHUTTING DOWN your own experience. Video available to all! Good to see ya again. Transcript: Fuckers! Hello. I am back. Is it...
by Jess | May 20, 2024 | Bonus Video, Git Changing | Advanced, Narcs, Abuse, Safety, Next Evolution, Patron Season 12, Seasons, self (with a small s), Subscriber Content, Transcripts
So Fucking What Part 1 So Fucking What Part 2 Transcript: Well, hey there fuckers. Happy anniversary. This officially is four years of doing this podcast for me and for some of you four years of tuning in. I also have to say holy shit, that’s insane to...
by Jess | May 13, 2024 | Subscriber Content, Bonus Video, Git Changing | Advanced, Narc Recovery, Narcs, Abuse, Safety, Patron Season 12, Research, Research Redux 2024, Seasons, self (with a small s), Transcripts
We have returned, for personality disorder x defense mechanisms Pt II. The major finding of our last show was… self-defense mechanisms work in a way that we didn’t quite have our finger on before. Previously, my brain assumed that self-defense was about defending...
by Jess | May 13, 2024 | Audio Podcasts | Subscribers, Git Educated | Intermediate, Narc Recovery, Narcs, Abuse, Safety, Patron Season 12, Research Redux 2024, Seasons, self (with a small s), Subscriber Content
The discussion continues! What’s the REAL purpose of these common self-defense tactics? Advanced fuckers can check out the video version, and see the transcript, here!
by Jess | May 8, 2024 | Subscriber Content, Bonus Video, Git Changing | Advanced, Narc Recovery, Patron Season 12, Refind & Empower yer Self, Research, Research Redux 2024, Seasons, self (with a small s), Transcripts
Transcript: This is a section that got left out of our last big research episode on Disintegrated, integrity-lacking, narcs. If you’ve been sitting around, thinking “do I have a fucked up personality organization akin to narcissism or worse?” here are some...
by Jess | May 8, 2024 | Bonus Video, Git Changing | Advanced, Narc Recovery, Patron Season 12, Refind & Empower yer Self, Research, Research Redux 2024, Seasons, self (with a small s), Subscriber Content, Transcripts
References: Caligor E: Narcissism in the Psychodynamic Diagnostic Manual. In Ogrodniczuk, J: Treating Pathological Narcissism. Washington DC, APA Book, 2013, pp. 63-79....
by Jess | May 7, 2024 | Subscriber Content, Bonus Video, Git Changing | Advanced, Patron Season 12, Refind & Empower yer Self, Seasons, self (with a small s), Transcripts, Workbooks
May I divert your attention to a video version of this post from SUV living after fleeing my family in 2021. ENJOY THE GROWTH and Cheers Fuckers Transcript: Hey there motherfuckers, it’s Jess. And isn’t this end of the pandemic something? Yeah, I can tell...
by Jess | May 7, 2024 | Subscriber Content, Bonus Video, Git Changing | Advanced, Patron Season 12, Refind & Empower yer Self, Seasons, self (with a small s), Transcripts
I thought this was a good time to revisit some powerful and highly ranked episodes from the past before we transition into talking about defense mechanisms. Let’s go back and recall the lessons learned during depersonalization recovery as we continue talking...
by Jess | May 7, 2024 | Subscriber Content, Bonus Video, Exercises, Git Changing | Advanced, Patron Season 12, Seasons, self (with a small s), Transcripts
Your self needs to see how it’s been strong and what wiles it has to this day, to offset your self-estimations that may inaccurately center around weakness and disempowerment, doubt and exhaustion.
by Jess | Apr 25, 2024 | Subscriber Content, Bonus Video, Git Changing | Advanced, Patron Season 12, Seasons, self (with a small s), Transcripts
Contents Part 1 – Introduction Part 2 – Self-sufficiency and Credit Part 3 – Self Authority Part 4 – Empowerment & Entitlement Part 5 – You are Human & Self Forgiveness Part 6 – Intrinsic Motivated Life Part 1- Introduction...
by Jess | Apr 24, 2024 | Public Content, Narc Recovery, Narcs, Abuse, Safety, Public Blog, Public Podcast, Public Season 04, Research Redux 2024, Seasons, self (with a small s), Series
This podcast episode explores the disorganized personality structuring of narcissists, explaining how their lack of integration affects their behavior and relationships. It discusses different levels of personality organization and how narcissists’ fragmented psyches lead to inconsistent and often manipulative actions. The episode draws parallels between narcissistic behaviors and childlike reactions, offering insights into why narcissists may seem unpredictable or intentionally deceptive. It also touches on the importance of self-integration in developing personal integrity and maintaining healthy relationships.
by Jess | Apr 17, 2024 | Seasons, Git Changing | Advanced, Patron Season 12, Research Redux 2024, self (with a small s), Subscriber Content, Transcripts
Transcript Hi Fuckers! We’re back to talk about the structural disorganization of narcissists, and, therefore, the reasons why they haven’t a trustworthy bone in their bodies over any duration of time. It’s part two! If you’re starting here… I mean, do you, but...
by Jess | Apr 17, 2024 | Patron Season 12, Git Educated | Intermediate, Narcs, Abuse, Safety, Next Evolution, Research Redux 2024, Seasons, self (with a small s), Subscriber Content
The end of intellectualizing. Time to apply the knowledge we just gathered for our own narc dealings.
by Jess | Apr 17, 2024 | Subscriber Content, Audio Podcasts | Subscribers, Git Educated | Intermediate, Narcs, Abuse, Safety, Patron Season 12, Research Redux 2024, Seasons, self (with a small s)
Let’s compare narcissism to the levels of personality functioning that range from “mature” to “psychopathological,” with all the neuroticism and borderline functioning in between. References: Caligor E: Narcissism in the Psychodynamic...
by Jess | Apr 12, 2024 | Patron Season 12, Audio Podcasts | Subscribers, Git Educated | Intermediate, Narcs, Abuse, Safety, Research, Research Redux 2024, Seasons, self (with a small s), Subscriber Content
There is NO INTEGRITY WITHOUT INTEGRATION, and these fuckers use relationships as stand-ins for doing the work.
by Jess | Apr 12, 2024 | Git Changing | Advanced, Narcs, Abuse, Safety, Patron Season 12, Research, Research Redux 2024, Seasons, self (with a small s), Series, Subscriber Content, Transcripts
Transcript Hey Fuckers! Anyone else had an intense couple of weeks? Between the three jobs I’m working, the family system rearranging out of my favor again, and the eclipse which has kept me from sleeping for the past four nights straight… It’s been a trying...
by Jess | Apr 6, 2024 | Audio Podcasts | Subscribers, Git Educated | Intermediate, Narc Recovery, Narcs, Abuse, Safety, Parts & Disintegration, Parts x Internal Family System, Patron Season 12, Research Redux 2024, Seasons, self (with a small s), Series, Subscriber Content
References: Di Pierro R, Fanti E. Self-Concept in Narcissism: Profile Comparisons of Narcissistic Manifestations on Facets of the Self. Clin Neuropsychiatry. 2021 Aug;18(4):211-222. doi: 10.36131/cnfioritieditore20210404. PMID: 34909036; PMCID: PMC8650183....
by Jess | Apr 6, 2024 | Subscriber Content, Git Changing | Advanced, Narc Recovery, Narcs, Abuse, Safety, Parts & Disintegration, Parts x Internal Family System, Patron Season 12, Research Redux 2024, Seasons, self (with a small s), Series, Transcripts
Yooooo Fuckers! As long as we’re talking about self and healing these days, I wanted to share with you – the tier that likes to think as deeply as possible about this content for ya damn self – some of the material that I chopped out of the research...
by Jess | Apr 2, 2024 | Subscriber Content, Git Changing | Advanced, Narc Recovery, Narcs, Abuse, Safety, Parts & Disintegration, Parts x Internal Family System, Patron Season 12, Research Redux 2024, Seasons, self (with a small s), Series, Transcripts
Hey, I just wanted to say…. Feel good about yourself and don’t let anyone or anyTHING change that, ever. It’s the answer to all your problems. … … … And YOU just want to say, “Fuck you, dumb bitch, you think I haven’t heard that before? If I could will myself to feel...
by Jess | Apr 2, 2024 | Subscriber Content, "Self" - the solution to CPTSD, Bonus Video, Git Changing | Advanced, Holistic Healing, Narcs, Abuse, Safety, Parts & Disintegration, Parts x Internal Family System, Patron Season 12, Refind & Empower yer Self, Research Redux 2024, Seasons, self (with a small s), Series, Transcripts
Transcript: I thought it would be a good idea to do a little refresher on some concepts that we discuss often, but never can be spoken to enough. Especially as we’re discussing the concept of self, as a component of healing and resiliency. AND, as part of a much...
by Jess | Apr 2, 2024 | "Self" - the solution to CPTSD, Audio Podcasts | Subscribers, Git Educated | Intermediate, Holistic Healing, Narcs, Abuse, Safety, Parts & Disintegration, Parts x Internal Family System, Patron Season 12, Refind & Empower yer Self, Research Redux 2024, Seasons, self (with a small s), Series, Subscriber Content
In our last paper we heard that “self” isn’t well defined in psychology… then layer in the innate healing capability of the “Self” and we’re all fucked. Let’s discuss “the self” as well as its unearthly...
by Jess | Mar 28, 2024 | Patron Season 12, Audio Podcasts | Subscribers, Git Educated | Intermediate, Narcs, Abuse, Safety, Research Redux 2024, Seasons, self (with a small s), Series, Subscriber Content
“Dr. Ramani says there’s no such thing as Healthy Narcissism.” EXACTLY FUCKER! Let’s clear up what’s been throwing some of us off. And let’s visualize this narc discussion as the polarized spectrum it really is, while we’re at...
by Jess | Mar 27, 2024 | Public Content, Narc Recovery, Public Blog, Public Season 04, Seasons, Series
This podcast episode explores the concept of “adaptive narcissism” and its potential benefits for trauma recovery and psychological resilience. It challenges common perceptions of narcissism, discussing how certain traits associated with grandiose narcissism, such as self-sufficiency and vanity, can be protective against PTSD symptoms. The episode emphasizes the importance of developing a healthy sense of uniqueness and authenticity while avoiding harmful aspects of narcissism like entitlement and exploitativeness.
by Jess | Mar 22, 2024 | Subscriber Content, Narc Recovery, Narcs, Abuse, Safety, Patron Season 12, Research Redux 2024, Seasons, self (with a small s), Series, Transcripts
So oftentimes in this weird role I find myself in, I also find myself wondering “are my words working?” With such an internal-work-based-position, it can be really hard to know if I’m explaining how things from the outside are connecting with these – here comes...
