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VulNarcs and Past Negative Time Orientation; Using Time, Space, Energy for Growth or Narcissism

VulNarcs and Past Negative Time Orientation; Using Time, Space, Energy for Growth or Narcissism

We need time, space, and energy for recovery. But what happens if we mal-use those resources? Today, we’re diving into a resaerch paper on the connections between VulNarcs and Past Negative Time Orientation, including how angry rumination and withdrawal...
Transcript | VulNarcs and Past Negative Time Orientation; Using Time, Space, Energy for Growth or Narcissism

Transcript | VulNarcs and Past Negative Time Orientation; Using Time, Space, Energy for Growth or Narcissism

So, I hope you listened to that little introduction to 2024 that I just released. As I told you, I’m…. quitting this show. This is either the FINAL season or, finally, the season in which I get my groove back and can’t stop dancing to the music. I’m not sure which....

Guilt vs Shame, vs the Ego. Or, “Why our relationships suck.”

OKAY MY MOTHA FUCKS. Months ago in August we spoke about the challenge of apologizing, for real, with the purpose of repairing relational ruptures. And all the ways that our relationships crumble when we don’t do those things. Then in September we discussed the...
Sex vs. Parts, Programs, and Expectations | Sex on CPTSD pt I

Sex vs. Parts, Programs, and Expectations | Sex on CPTSD pt I

This podcast episode explores the complex relationship between trauma, CPTSD, and sexuality. It discusses how childhood narratives, early experiences, and adult adaptations can create conflicting internal “parts” that influence sexual behavior and attitudes. The episode introduces the concept of examining sexual dysfunction through the lens of Internal Family Systems, encouraging listeners to understand their sexual history and patterns for better integration and healing.

3.12a. Transference, Projection, Monkey-barring, Displacement

3.12a. Transference, Projection, Monkey-barring, Displacement

This podcast episode explores various forms of transference in relationships and mental health, including projection, monkey-barring, and displacement. It discusses how these cognitive patterns can affect interpersonal dynamics and therapy outcomes. The episode emphasizes the importance of self-reflection and critical thinking in recognizing and addressing these patterns for improved emotional intelligence and relationship health.

3.11. Ten Destructive Responses that Set Off Trauma Defenses

3.11. Ten Destructive Responses that Set Off Trauma Defenses

This podcast episode explores ten destructive responses to avoid in sensitive conversations, based on NonViolent Communication principles. It discusses why people use these responses and their impact on relationships. The episode provides insights into improving communication skills, especially during stressful holiday interactions with family. It emphasizes the importance of empathy, active listening, and self-awareness in fostering healthier interpersonal dynamics.

VulNarcs and Past Negative Time Orientation; Using Time, Space, Energy for Growth or Narcissism

8. DAMAGING Responses to Vulnerable Conversation: Examples 1-5

What shuts down effective communication efforts? Well, we’ve got 10 “unrecommended” responses for you. We’ll talk about WHY people use them, what they convey, how they impact the relationship forever, how to de-program them from yourself, and how to course-correct the...
3.10. Chronic deprivation, self-sabotage, psychosomatic illness, and abuse dynamics

3.10. Chronic deprivation, self-sabotage, psychosomatic illness, and abuse dynamics

This podcast episode explores the concept of chronic self-deprivation and its roots in childhood neglect. It discusses how unrecognized personal needs can lead to self-sabotage, psychosomatic illness, and codependency. The episode offers insights into breaking these patterns by identifying and fulfilling a comprehensive range of human needs, emphasizing the importance of self-care in trauma recovery and personal growth.

7. Self-sabotage and psychosomatic illness V. your SUBC shittery | Important Workbook!

7. Self-sabotage and psychosomatic illness V. your SUBC shittery | Important Workbook!

Notes: We have rigid rules about what needs are “allowed” for us in normal circumstances. Those rules often create webs of mandatory needs related to the original over-satiated needs. i.e. rigidly over-exercising -> medical needs, nutritional needs,...
VulNarcs and Past Negative Time Orientation; Using Time, Space, Energy for Growth or Narcissism

BONUS Breaking the spell of feeling “neglected, ignored, and rejected” – Naming your real feelings and needs

The title says it all? We learned that “projected, false, judgmental” emotional words are a big part of our vocabularies that holds us back. So, let’s redefine those words and pull meaning from them. What are we REALLY trying to say and how can we...