Your Ailing self and How to Fix It… with GranAdaptiveNarcissism
What’s missing in our lives that keeps us from being our most resilient and authentic self? Time to rethink our self-editing lessons of the past. References: Di Pierro R, Fanti E. Self-Concept in Narcissism: Profile Comparisons of Narcissistic Manifestations on...
STIGMA vs. Adaptive Narcissism (pt III)
Audio version is here Transcript: Alright fuckers, lets rap. Am I putting out too much content? Perhaps. Truthbetold my brain is running several different programs right now that are starting to seem verrrrry difficult to manage all of them and I WILL be slowing down...
STIGMA vs. Adaptive Narcissism (pt III)
Why has this article been so revitalizing? Well, the research results are challenging a lifetime of stigma. Let’s talk about family, culture, and witch hunts while redefining some misused words that could boost our resiliency. THEN, some reflection questions for...
Transcript+Video | Discussion: Adaptive Narcissism vs. PTS Resilience
Hey Fuckers! Welcome. I’m back in the saddle – returned to my real microphone after an unexpectedly prolonged travel stint where my brain went “oh, shit, you know in the absence of the continual strain, it’s clear that our daily surroundings were really crushing...
Discussion: Adaptive Narcissism vs. PTS Resilience
Entitlement, exploitativeness, vanity, and resiliency… We learned a lot in our last paper rundown. Let’s circle back to pull out and expand upon the key points with additional research.
Adaptive Narc and Ambivalent Feels Community Catchup
Let’s hit the points that have been lingering since our double release last week and dive into community comments.
🚀 MICROMMUNITIES ARE HERE!!! 🚀
Advanced Fuckers! The time has come – I need to release some of what I’ve been working on. ✨✨ Introducing the first round of Private Micro-communities (micrommunities) on the new platform! ✨✨ Here’s the group rationale: We’re all here for...
4.2. Filial Obligation Narratives, Ambivalence, Perception, and Guilt
This podcast episode explores the complex topic of filial obligation, discussing various philosophical perspectives on children’s duties towards their parents. It examines the relationship between ambivalence, guilt, and caregiver burden in parent-child dynamics. The episode also considers cultural differences in approaching filial piety, including Confucian views on self-realization through familial duty. It addresses the factors that influence the perception and outcomes of filial caregiving, offering listeners insights to navigate these challenging family decisions.
Adaptive Narcissism and PTSD Resiliency pt I
Today, I bring you a paper that we can all thank our fellow Motherfucker for. Alex, thank you for sending this my way. I don’t even want to give a big introduction. I just want to jump into a paper that has – I shit you not – helped me understand...
Parent-Child Ambivalence, Guilt, and Care Perception | Extra Research
Episode linkVideo link I know I keep doing this thing where I’m like “OH! One more point!” But. I have about three more points. First: I would be remiss not to revisit the Filial Piety debate We touched, just briefly, at the end of episode four on the fact that...
FINALE: Six Predictive Pillars of Filial Outcomes | Return to FilOb pt 4
So in all this Filial talk, the real question that I keep bringing up may be…. Why bother discussing it? We can run ourselves mentally and emotionally ragged trying to weigh the pros and cons… and that’s before the spiritual and physical tolls hit us, probably, in...
Video version? Parent-Child Ambivalence, Guilt, and Care Perception | Extra Research
Why would you want to watch my face read? IDK, but I’ve been told I *should* do this. So I finally gave it a shot. NOTE: extremely awkward. Lemme know!
Parent-Child Ambivalence, Guilt, and Care Perception | Extra Research
Count this as an extra dive into 3 research papers. What’s the connection between perception, caregiving burden, parent-child ambivalence, and guilt? . Next up: A Narc episode that I couldn’t download out of my recording software at time of this...
Adaptive Narcissism and PTSD Resiliency pt I
How is narcissism potentially “necessary for psychological adjustment to adversity”? Your usual self-analyses might implode with this episode. Thank you to Alex for sending in this paper! References: Montoro, C. I., de la Coba, P., Moreno-Padilla, M.,...
FINALE: Six Predictive Pillars of Filial Outcomes | Return to FilOb pt 4
Let’s bring this back down to earth. Philosophies meet t-real life and 2 additional research studies, as we draw our final conclusions on Filial Morality.
“What do I owe this decrepit asshole?” by Dominic | FilOb Community Feedback
After all these academic approaches to the debate of Filial Obligation, let’s hear from a RL MF on his philosophy and boundaries. Check out the first part of Dominic’s story here. Thank you again, Dominic and Kyle, for your...
One Scrambling View: “It’s about you” | Return to FilOb pt III
Just one major point today as a catalyst to throwing your own thoughts in a perspectual blender. What if Filial Obligation isn’t about your parents?
4.1. Making of a Vulnerable Narcissist
This podcast episode explores the concept of vulnerable narcissism and its relationship to trauma recovery. It discusses how recovery resources like time, space, and energy can be misused, potentially leading to the development of narcissistic traits. The episode examines the characteristics of vulnerable narcissists, including their tendency towards negative time orientation and manipulative behaviors, and how these traits may stem from unresolved trauma.
Yer Subconscious Narratives on Filial Obligation | FilOb Revisited pt II
We KNOW what comes from Filial Obligation with abusive people… anxiety, depression, sense of incapacity and entrapment, hopelessness, suicidality… and yet, we’re still torn. So, what’s going on? . Let’s explore 5 Western philosophies on...
CMNTY: Escaping the Narc Cycle & All Deez Archived Releases
A big Q from John; Answered. And what the hell happened with all these “new” (old) Narc episodes dropping?
CMNTY Catchup: VulNarc Feedback and the Announcement
Back to your comments! Let’s share your words on VulNarc observations around needs, manipulation, and negativity.
Filial Obligation Revisited pt 1: Upsetting Eastern Perspectives
The crossover between VulNarcs and FilOb is considerable. Hell, parental duty is how many of us get acquainted with the term. Cue the years of manipulation. So, today, let’s open a three part discussion on Filial Obligation as a moral duty. First, talking about...
Another VulNarc Hypothesis: asking for help and manipulation
Had another thought about the connection between VulNarcdom and the traumatized phases it seems to be encapsulated in. Then, had the thought, “but I don’t have a way to record right now… so this is worthless…” … But, says who? Who can guarantee that no one will...
Another VulNarc Hypothesis: asking for help and manipulation
Had another thought about the connection between VulNarcdom and the traumatized phases it seems to be encapsulated in. Then, had the thought, “but I don’t have a way to record right now… so this is worthless…” … But, says who? Who can guarantee that no one will...Supplemental Summary of VulNarcs v. Recovery & Some Community Comments
Unexpected delivery, knocking at your door. Hey Fuckers. FIrst of all, it’s Friday morning after the ‘nouncement, and I see there are a buncho comments coming in about those last two posts. Thank you, I appreciate you, and I have things to say. But not...
Supplemental Summary of VulNarcs v. Recovery & Some Community Comments
Not to skim over your kindly comments, but I’ll sob… Let’s do a bitesized summary/expansion of our VulNarc talk and add some community wisdom to the mix. Talkin’ filial obligation, defensiveness, and moderating anxiety when waiting for...
VulNarcs and Past Negative Time Orientation; Using Time, Space, Energy for Growth or Narcissism
We need time, space, and energy for recovery. But what happens if we mal-use those resources? Today, we’re diving into a resaerch paper on the connections between VulNarcs and Past Negative Time Orientation, including how angry rumination and withdrawal...
The Final Round.
For those who don’t like surprises, here’s what’s next for TMFRs.
Transcript | VulNarcs and Past Negative Time Orientation; Using Time, Space, Energy for Growth or Narcissism
So, I hope you listened to that little introduction to 2024 that I just released. As I told you, I’m…. quitting this show. This is either the FINAL season or, finally, the season in which I get my groove back and can’t stop dancing to the music. I’m not sure which....
Top Words of 2023
A short n lite NY diddy. Let’s talk abruptly-popular words in 2023, what they mean about the common collective, and where we might be headed.Top Words of 2023
Hoooo Fuckers, I’m literally counting down the hours until this shitstain of a year is over. 35 and a half at time of recording! And I almost forgot to do something that I really wanted to do before the time was up. To write this minisode. Here’s the gist. Every...
NY2024 Exercise Origin
Some personal accounting. Through the PTSDs and back – the ignominious origins of the 2024 reflection episode and results so far. If you make it til the end, quiet in the comments please 😉 FYEO 🍻 Cheers, Fucker. . Here are those steps of the exercise...
Get your fucking shit aligned, 2024
Time to make sure we don’t relive the same year out of habit or hellish survival mechanisms gone wild. Let’s look at your ‘ole patterning and see what you really value, chart out behavioral changes, and build self-trust. Steps Roles Trolls Goals...Guilt vs Shame, vs the Ego. Or, “Why our relationships suck.”
OKAY MY MOTHA FUCKS. Months ago in August we spoke about the challenge of apologizing, for real, with the purpose of repairing relational ruptures. And all the ways that our relationships crumble when we don’t do those things. Then in September we discussed the...Gratitude II | Christmas Edition
So around Tgiving we had a shorter episode release discussing the issues with “gratitude” after a long life of childhood and adult trauma. Namely, that we don’t always have the things or circumstances we need in order for our nervous systems to actually be aware...Abuse Acronyms: DARVO and SAPIEN
Helllooooo Fuckers! As part of our “rounding out reasons relationships wreck us” emphasis in 2023, and as a piece of our holiday prep for the forthcoming Nightmares before Christmas. Or whatever you observe. I ALSO thought it would be fitting to release this post. A...
Sex vs. Parts, Programs, and Expectations | Sex on CPTSD pt I
This podcast episode explores the complex relationship between trauma, CPTSD, and sexuality. It discusses how childhood narratives, early experiences, and adult adaptations can create conflicting internal “parts” that influence sexual behavior and attitudes. The episode introduces the concept of examining sexual dysfunction through the lens of Internal Family Systems, encouraging listeners to understand their sexual history and patterns for better integration and healing.
Reflecting on your “cycles” in 2023
Hey Fuckers. I’m just sitting here, eating some eggs, thinking about you all, the past, and the future… and felt inclined to get a jump start on our upcoming 2023 reflection close-out and visioning for 2024. In fact, I realized that it’s going to be a great time...
HOLIDAY TIME: Gratitude II (a better attitude)
There’s plenty to be grateful for this holiday. If you spend time with family, it’ll be right in front of your face. Hail your recovery and Merry Holidays, Motherfucker. ❄️🍻❄️
Shame vs. Guilt
What’s the difference between shame and guilt? And how do they mandate relationship wreckage? As always, Idunno. But here’s one perspective.
Abuse Acronyms to Know: DARVO & SAPIEN
Can’t wrap a year on relationships without talking abuse tactics. Let’s discuss DARVO and SAPIEN – strategies to be mindful of (in others & yourself) this holiday season and beyond.
BONUS ED: Sex on CPTSD pt II
BONUS EDITION: Find extra content in this version. Well hello and welcome to a surprise show, for all of us. The world didn’t end after the last episode, so we’re coming back for another romp. Some feedback from that prior post. (Now that I’m back on the same...
End of Year Extra: Your Cycles
A Fucker loves to “close out the year.” Let’s take a look at the cycles you’ve been through and identify important lessons learned.
Sex on CPTSD pt II
The world didn’t end after the last post and I have more to say. Let’s talk about identifying if your sexual life is healthy and clear some additional points.
3.12a. Transference, Projection, Monkey-barring, Displacement
This podcast episode explores various forms of transference in relationships and mental health, including projection, monkey-barring, and displacement. It discusses how these cognitive patterns can affect interpersonal dynamics and therapy outcomes. The episode emphasizes the importance of self-reflection and critical thinking in recognizing and addressing these patterns for improved emotional intelligence and relationship health.
Sex, parts, programming, and needs
So, Fuckers. We’re “wrapping up” relationships as we round out 2023. Which isn’t really true, because CPTSD is so based IN relationships (the onset and the continued challenges we encounter) that we’ll never be done discussing them. But as for examining what...
Sex, parts, programming, and needs
We’ve talked about intimacy… but not *intimacy.* Diving into sex, let’s talk about childhood and adult programming through parts and need fulfillment strategies ala IFS and NVC… and rewiring sexual imbalances that don’t represent your...