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Narcs: NO INTEGRITY WITHOUT INTEGRATION pt I

Narcs: NO INTEGRITY WITHOUT INTEGRATION pt I | Video+Transcript

Transcript Hey Fuckers! Anyone else had an intense couple of weeks? Between the three jobs I’m working, the family system rearranging out of my favor again, and the eclipse which has kept me from sleeping for the past four nights straight… It’s been a trying...
BONUS Supplement: 3 Theories of self Structure Developed in Narcissistic Upbringings | Transcript

BONUS Supplement: 3 Theories of self Structure Developed in Narcissistic Upbringings | Transcript

References: Di Pierro R, Fanti E. Self-Concept in Narcissism: Profile Comparisons of Narcissistic Manifestations on Facets of the Self. Clin Neuropsychiatry. 2021 Aug;18(4):211-222. doi: 10.36131/cnfioritieditore20210404. PMID: 34909036; PMCID: PMC8650183....
BONUS Supplement: 3 Theories of self Structure Developed in Narcissistic Upbringings | Transcript

BONUS Supplement: 3 Theories of self Structure Developed in Narcissistic Upbringings | Transcript

Yooooo Fuckers!  As long as we’re talking about self and healing these days, I wanted to share with you – the tier that likes to think as deeply as possible about this content for ya damn self – some of the material that I chopped out of the research...
“Feel good about yourself.” For Real. Building self Esteem x Parts Work | Transcript

“Feel good about yourself.” For Real. Building self Esteem x Parts Work | Transcript

Hey, I just wanted to say…. Feel good about yourself and don’t let anyone or anyTHING change that, ever. It’s the answer to all your problems. … … … And YOU just want to say, “Fuck you, dumb bitch, you think I haven’t heard that before? If I could will myself to feel...
self vs. Self | Video+Transcript

self vs. Self | Video+Transcript

Transcript: I thought it would be a good idea to do a little refresher on some concepts that we discuss often, but never can be spoken to enough. Especially as we’re discussing the concept of self, as a component of healing and resiliency. AND, as part of a much...
self vs. Self | Video+Transcript

self vs. Self

In our last paper we heard that “self” isn’t well defined in psychology… then layer in the innate healing capability of the “Self” and we’re all fucked. Let’s discuss “the self” as well as its unearthly...
Comment-Inspired Followup! “Adaptive Narcissism” doesn’t exist & visualizing the spectrum of narcpathology

Comment-Inspired Followup! “Adaptive Narcissism” doesn’t exist & visualizing the spectrum of narcpathology

“Dr. Ramani says there’s no such thing as Healthy Narcissism.” EXACTLY FUCKER! Let’s clear up what’s been throwing some of us off. And let’s visualize this narc discussion as the polarized spectrum it really is, while we’re at...
4.3. Healing with “Adaptive Narcissism” and Uniqueness | Leveraging Stigma for Permissive self-Healing

4.3. Healing with “Adaptive Narcissism” and Uniqueness | Leveraging Stigma for Permissive self-Healing

This podcast episode explores the concept of “adaptive narcissism” and its potential benefits for trauma recovery and psychological resilience. It challenges common perceptions of narcissism, discussing how certain traits associated with grandiose narcissism, such as self-sufficiency and vanity, can be protective against PTSD symptoms. The episode emphasizes the importance of developing a healthy sense of uniqueness and authenticity while avoiding harmful aspects of narcissism like entitlement and exploitativeness.

Comment-Inspired Followup! “Adaptive Narcissism” doesn’t exist & visualizing the spectrum of narcpathology | Transcript

Comment-Inspired Followup! “Adaptive Narcissism” doesn’t exist & visualizing the spectrum of narcpathology | Transcript

So oftentimes in this weird role I find myself in, I also find myself wondering “are my words working?” With such an internal-work-based-position, it can be really hard to know if I’m explaining how things from the outside are connecting with these – here comes...
Transcript+Video | Your Ailing ‘self’ and How to Fix It… with GranAdaptiveNarcissism

Transcript+Video | Your Ailing ‘self’ and How to Fix It… with GranAdaptiveNarcissism

Friends, hello! Announcements in case you’ve missed some recordings or are generally new: Thanks for being here, a part of the recovery community. If you don’t know, I’m some working class motherfucker with a boatload of student loans ala trying to improve my life and...
Your Ailing self and How to Fix It… with GranAdaptiveNarcissism

Your Ailing self and How to Fix It… with GranAdaptiveNarcissism

What’s missing in our lives that keeps us from being our most resilient and authentic self? Time to rethink our self-editing lessons of the past. References: Di Pierro R, Fanti E. Self-Concept in Narcissism: Profile Comparisons of Narcissistic Manifestations on...
4.2. Filial Obligation Narratives, Ambivalence, Perception, and Guilt

4.2. Filial Obligation Narratives, Ambivalence, Perception, and Guilt

This podcast episode explores the complex topic of filial obligation, discussing various philosophical perspectives on children’s duties towards their parents. It examines the relationship between ambivalence, guilt, and caregiver burden in parent-child dynamics. The episode also considers cultural differences in approaching filial piety, including Confucian views on self-realization through familial duty. It addresses the factors that influence the perception and outcomes of filial caregiving, offering listeners insights to navigate these challenging family decisions.

4.1. Making of a Vulnerable Narcissist

4.1. Making of a Vulnerable Narcissist

This podcast episode explores the concept of vulnerable narcissism and its relationship to trauma recovery. It discusses how recovery resources like time, space, and energy can be misused, potentially leading to the development of narcissistic traits. The episode examines the characteristics of vulnerable narcissists, including their tendency towards negative time orientation and manipulative behaviors, and how these traits may stem from unresolved trauma.

Your Ailing self and How to Fix It… with GranAdaptiveNarcissism

VulNarcs and Past Negative Time Orientation; Using Time, Space, Energy for Growth or Narcissism

We need time, space, and energy for recovery. But what happens if we mal-use those resources? Today, we’re diving into a resaerch paper on the connections between VulNarcs and Past Negative Time Orientation, including how angry rumination and withdrawal...
Transcript | VulNarcs and Past Negative Time Orientation; Using Time, Space, Energy for Growth or Narcissism

Transcript | VulNarcs and Past Negative Time Orientation; Using Time, Space, Energy for Growth or Narcissism

So, I hope you listened to that little introduction to 2024 that I just released. As I told you, I’m…. quitting this show. This is either the FINAL season or, finally, the season in which I get my groove back and can’t stop dancing to the music. I’m not sure which....

Guilt vs Shame, vs the Ego. Or, “Why our relationships suck.”

OKAY MY MOTHA FUCKS. Months ago in August we spoke about the challenge of apologizing, for real, with the purpose of repairing relational ruptures. And all the ways that our relationships crumble when we don’t do those things. Then in September we discussed the...
Sex vs. Parts, Programs, and Expectations | Sex on CPTSD pt I

Sex vs. Parts, Programs, and Expectations | Sex on CPTSD pt I

This podcast episode explores the complex relationship between trauma, CPTSD, and sexuality. It discusses how childhood narratives, early experiences, and adult adaptations can create conflicting internal “parts” that influence sexual behavior and attitudes. The episode introduces the concept of examining sexual dysfunction through the lens of Internal Family Systems, encouraging listeners to understand their sexual history and patterns for better integration and healing.