5.39 Rerelease | Archie As a Metaphor
Born “different.” Overcoming challenges that “normal” species members don’t even notice. Constantly falling on his face. Flailing. Sometimes, freezing up with overstimulation. But always getting up and trying again. Today, I’m...
✭✭ 5.33 Progress Halted: Your Trauma-Self
This episode explores the concept of the “trauma self” and its impact on recovery. We delve into how traumatic experiences can create rigid neural patterns that resist change, leading to fixed mindsets and avoidant behaviors. The discussion highlights the importance of recognizing these patterns in ourselves and others, particularly in relationships. By understanding the trauma self, we can begin to challenge our resistance to growth and develop more flexible, adaptive ways of thinking and behaving. While the journey is challenging, awareness and consistent effort can help us move beyond the limitations of our trauma-based neural networks.
5.27 Workbook| YOU v. BRAIN Neural Network Reprogramming
Companion exercises to YOU v. BRAIN series. So you’ve got neural branches and limbs forming diverse networks in your head that control your thoughts and emotions. When your head is a living nightmare… how can you start to understand the neural structures...
✭✭✭ 5.25 YOU v. YER BRAIN
In trauma recovery, separating our sense of self from our brain function can be a powerful tool. This episode explores the concept that we are not our brains, bodies, experiences, emotions, or thoughts. By challenging societal narratives about the brain and consciousness, we can reframe our self-perception and reduce shame associated with trauma responses. Understanding the limitations of current scientific knowledge about consciousness helps us approach our healing journey with more self-compassion. This perspective shift can alleviate some of the emotional distress and self-judgment that often accompany trauma, allowing for a more balanced approach to recovery.
5.16 End of a Toxic Relationship
Hey, want to hear me realizing the “lost cause” of my toxic relationship? You know, the one that changed my life and started a MF trauma community. Also, the one that’s creepily like living with my mother? Mhmm… it’s a lot of our recent talks,...
BS | Implications and Life-Declusterfucking Applications of Fragmented Personalities
Want to listen to this? Check the Podcast! Thirsty for more details on your brain mechanisms? I’ve gottem. Check patreon.com/traumatizedmotherfuckers to get the full, hour long version of the article, podcasted for your ease of consumption. And get ALL the full...
5.11 Bonus May AMA | “How’d you use ABA to realize your VulNarc parent?”
It’s a long story, starting with ABA, moving through parts theory, and ending at “holy fuck, my whole life has been shaped by covert abuse.” So how’s your springtime been?
BS | Common Presentations of Fragmented Personalities
Ready to rethink how you think about your trauma life? Because this is just the bite-sized summary of a much longer issue. Check the Podcast to listen to this mini-serving. Then check patreon.com/traumatizedmotherfuckers to get the hour-long version of the FULL...
5.10 BS | Common Presentations of Fragmented Personalities (Your Life Destruction, Explained)
This is the summary version of the full-length episode! So we’ve talked endlessly about HOW neural networks (fragmented personalities) develop through trauma on a biological basis. Today, we’re talking about how that looks from the outside, per Healing the...
Sorry for my absence – so this vaccine is no joke.
Hey errone! Seeing some comments that I’ve been AWOL on. Uh, sorry, I’ve been living in bed popping ibuprofen, speaking to no one, and waiting for the sweet relief of death… So… 1) love seeing your feedback on the fragmented personalities...
5.8 BS | Neurological Basis of Fragmented Personalities (Your Trauma Life on Survival Neural Networks)
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✭✭✭✭ 5.7 Neurological Basis of Fragmented Personalities (Your Trauma Life on Survival Neural Networks)
This episode explores the concept of fragmented personalities in trauma survivors from a neurobiological perspective. Drawing on Janina Fisher’s work, it explains how neural networks form different personality parts as adaptive responses to trauma. The discussion covers survival responses, the development of a “get shit done” personality, and how understanding these mechanisms can reduce self-blame and shame. This framework offers a new way to interpret seemingly contradictory behaviors and emotions in trauma survivors, potentially aiding in recovery and self-compassion.
5.4 Post-pandemic Wilds (Anxiety-Depression-Obsession-Deintegration)
So everything changed in the past month. In the aftermath, we’re feeling a bit wild, huh? Up, down, obsessed, depressed, overloaded, anxious, excited, and dreadful. What’s going on with the internal chaos, and what can we do to reintegrate our ideas of...
BS | Fuck Off Boomers; The Covert Narc Echo Chamber
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Fuck Off Boomers; The Covert Narc Echo Chamber
Looking a bit long for the casual read? Yeah, this is the transcript to a whole podcast… and I’m thorough. Luckily, this full episode is available wherever you podcast! Be sure to check it out, and take a dive into the 100 free trauma recovery episodes...
4.28 Fuck Off Boomers; The Covert Narc Echo Chamber
Why do so many of our parents have the same unfortunate covert abuse tactics in their front pocket? Why did we grow up with an unhealthy narrative about self-worth and self-accountability? Where did all this narcissistic energy come from, originally? Well, I was going...
✭✭ 4.27 Parent Narcissists and CPTSD
Last time we learned about a new type of Narc; the “Covert” variety… who sound an awful lot like our mothers, collectively. So what happens if you WERE raised by a Narcissist mom, in particular? What are the common characteristics of the relationship? What...
Bite Sized | Raised by Narcissists
Ready to rethink how you think about your trauma life? Because this is just the bite-sized summary of a much longer issue. Check the Podcast to listen to this mini-serving. Then check patreon.com/traumatizedmotherfuckers to get the hour-long version of the FULL...
Raised by Narcissists
Looking a bit long for the casual read? Yeah, this is the transcript to a whole podcast… and I’m thorough. Luckily, this full episode is available wherever you podcast! Be sure to check it out, and take a dive into the 100 free trauma recovery episodes...
Abuser Escalation Tactics (Narc only? Or across the board?)
So, there’s nothing like getting out nice and early for a long job/hike to shake connections out of your head. Finally getting up and out by 7am again, and feeling great. This morning, my brain was consumed by: vividly dreaming of a lost love 8 years ago,...
5 Things to Know If You Are the ‘Favorite Person’ of Someone With Borderline Personality Disorder
Just a shameless repost. This article seems important to share, because so many of us don’t understand what a “healthy” relationship looks like. (You know, self included until VERY recently. And that has been a years’ long process of learning.)...
4.26 Bite Sized | Defining Covert (Vulnerable) Narcissists
Quick takes from the full episode, ready to consume in one sitting. Have you been convinced that everything about you was “wrong?” Does someone in your life make you feel… “off,” in a way that’s anxious, fearful, defeated, and...
✭✭✭✭ 4.25 Defining Covert (Vulnerable) Narcissists
This episode explores the concept of covert narcissism, a less recognized but equally damaging form of narcissistic personality disorder. It delves into the characteristics of vulnerable narcissists, the signs of being in a relationship with one, and the psychological impact on their victims. The discussion emphasizes the importance of recognizing subtle manipulation tactics and trusting one’s bodily responses to potentially toxic relationships. While not diagnostic, this information can help individuals better understand their experiences and seek appropriate support in trauma recovery.
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Bite Sized | The Stigma of Covert Abuse [Beware the Nice Guy]
Ready to rethink how you think about your trauma life? Because this is just the bite-sized summary of a much longer issue. Check the Podcast to listen to this mini-serving. Then check patreon.com/traumatizedmotherfuckers to get the hour-long version of the FULL...
Stigma of Covert Abuse
Looking a bit long for the casual read? Yeah, this is the transcript to a whole podcast… and I’m thorough. Luckily, this full episode is available wherever you podcast! Be sure to check it out, and take a dive into the 100 free trauma recovery episodes...
4.24 Bite Sized | Stigmatizing Covert Abuse
Back with a quick, consumable rundown of the full episode on Abuse Stigma. For the complete recording… uh… click again. You’ve probably realized, abuse is a dirty topic not to happily discussed in the public sphere. Victims are blamed. Cases are dismissed....
✭✭ 4.23 Stigmatizing Covert Abuse [AKA Beware the Nice Guy]
You’ve probably realized, abuse is a dirty topic not to happily discussed in the public sphere. Victims are blamed. Cases are dismissed. And perpetrators are enabled. But what’s the point of our ignorance towards domestic abuse? Is there a reason why we...
4.22 Guest | Monica, on Acknowledging and Overcoming Parental Abuse
Taking advantage of an amazing MF who shared her story with me last week. Today, Monica proves her Motherfuckerdom by sharing her tales of growing up with two unhealthy parents, what she’s learned since separating herself, and moving forward in her (is this...
Coping with Covert Abuse and Black Sheep Syndrome
Looking a bit long for the casual read? Yeah, this is the transcript to a whole podcast… and I’m thorough. Luckily, this full episode is available wherever you podcast! Be sure to check it out, and take a dive into the 100 free trauma recovery episodes...
✭ 4.21 Coping Strategies for Covert Abuse and Black Sheep Syndrome
So that last episode was an unexpected doozy, huh? (Still mortified.) Well, I’m back in Illinois and ready to clear the air with some actual LESSONS from this mess. In the past two weeks, here’s where I’ve been, what I’ve realized, and what my...
Wholesale Failure
You know, I actually talk up punk on the show for a reason besides my own lifelong interest. I think it can be a tool. Hear me out. It’s not a coincidence that so many punks are CPTSD roadies. Punk is full of connective lyrics about hard times. It features a mix...
The neuroscience of changing core beliefs and behaviors
Today I’m talking about two things, inspired by the AMAs from March. You’ll notice that they’re seemingly separate issues… but, actually, they’re built on the same neurological problem… with a similar new-connection-forming remedy....
“Favorite Person” in BPD
People with BPD often experience intense attachment to a single person: they determine our mood, our identity, and our self-worth. They are called our Favourite Person. I remember my first favorite person. She played the part of Dorothy, in a local Little Theatre...
✭ 4.20 [TW] Personal | Covert Abuse and the Utility of Self-Harm
TRIGGER WARNING: emotional abuse, suicidal ideation, and self-harm. Childhood abuse can come with a lot of overt violence and aggression… or it might be more subtle than that. Years after tackling the obvious trauma, it might be a bit crisis inducing to realize...
✭✭ 4.19 Neuroscience of changing core beliefs and behaviors
It’s the Ask Me Anything results from March – talking about the specifics of changing your trauma-born core beliefs and behaviors with a neuroscience background approach. Understand what you’re trying to accomplish, reach your goal more efficiently....
Fragmented Relationships from Fragmented Selves; Good vs Bad
You know those times when you can’t escape a particular person, place, thing, or idea? Everywhere you go, you hear about a certain F-list celebrity, you see a travel destination all over social media out of nowhere, you can’t avoid the whatever-doodle of the week when...
The fragmented “self.”
Hey Fuckers, jumping in for one quick correction. I’ll be honest. I recorded this, listened to it, and realized that my haphazardly thrown together final topic at the end is excluding something important. I’m not re-recording this thing, because I don’t have that kind...
✭✭ 4.15 “Fragmented” Relationships
Expanding on fragmented personality via lessons from Janina Fisher and John Welwood (TMFR recommended authors). One of the ways we make sense of early trauma is black and white, “good or bad,” thinking. Our abusers are good OR bad, but nothing in between....
✭✭ 4.14 Fragmented Personality; Intro to Dissociative Identity Disorder
“Who am I and why am I like this?” Dipping a toe into dissociative personalities. What are the proposed mechanisms that lead to a “fragmented self?” Talking about losing ourselves to our trauma adaptations, survival systems, negative...
✭✭ 4.13 Core Beliefs
It’s the February Ask Me Anything! How do you spot core beliefs, how do you change them, and how do you know when you’ve cleared the cache? Time to talk about Fucked Up Core Beliefs and all the ways they shape our lives without our permission. To...
CPTSD and Core Beliefs
Happy Wednesday Fuckers! I’m back! On a regular schedule! Probably. We’ll see how I feel by tomorrow. I do have a backlog of material to get out as y’all keep piling new interesting questions on my plate. Time will tell. Anyways, I’m doing a short intro today to...
Outside Article: Absolute language in negativity
Not my article, just sharing some good information. Annnd maybe coming back to this in an episode about core beliefs, come Wednesday. Hint. This Small Change in Your Language Can Help Downplay Negativity This Small Change in Your Language Can Help Downplay Negativity...
4.12 Guest | Cassie; on Achieving, Education, and Employment after Childhood Trauma
Last time, Cassie relayed her early experience with childhood sexual abuse and shame. Today, she’s back! Talking about quiet defiance leveraged against religious and sexual trauma through educational and professional achievement, refusing to bend to social or...
Data Driven Trauma Recovery (Pts I-III)
Continuing on with this tirade of “here’s how one idiot thinks that trauma recovery can be approached and maintained”… Sorry, I mean it when I promise, I’ll be done trying to tell you what to do reaaaal soon here. Today I wanted to tie...
Friendship Dissolutions
So this is normally my school day, but I’m feeling the need to dig into something else this morning. The past events of this weekend, annnnd the past nearly two years. Because, if you hadn’t heard, relationships are hard and I like to embarrass myself by telling you...
4.11 Friendship Dissolutions
Ever lose, you know, your best friends in a time of trauma responsiveness and spend years ruminating about it? Yeah, well here’s what I can say about my recent return to the skwad. Reflecting on trauma-reactions without reason, how my emotional brain got things...