10.29 VIT & the Workplace. Back to work after 1 year of med leave with Incanthatus | MFs Speak!
Ever found yourself in a position of revealing your mental health struggles with coworkers, bosses, and red-taping practitioners? Let’s hear on life updates from Incanthatus that challenged those anti-VIT instincts. Returning to the office after a year of...
“Recovery Emotions vs. Life Obligations” Mailbag!
This podcast episode addresses the challenge of balancing trauma recovery and therapy with daily responsibilities like work and parenting. It discusses the potential impact of therapy on emotional stability and functionality, offering strategies to manage these effects. The episode explores the concept of Internal Family Systems and suggests ways to accommodate healing work within a busy life, including potential career changes. It also touches on broader societal issues that complicate mental health recovery.
“Recovery Emotions vs. Life Obligations” Mailbag!
This is the rough transcript of the podcast episode of the same name!Find it wherever you podcast, just search “traumatized motherfuckers” to listen.If you’re ready for a lot more MF learning, jump into the private podcast stream with over 300...
Video short from the community! VIT issues, summarized in a few seconds
Just wanted to share this submission from AL on the recent vulnerability/intimacy/trust poll! It had me rolling. This is the ~MF life~
BONUS BONUS | Examining grating relationship triggers and expected dynamics
Take a look at your past relationships. Ones that didn’t pan out ideally. Sit down, get comfortable, ground yourself (that means, feel into your damn feet), and try to get into a less brain-active place so you can direct your own thoughts. As always, don’t do any of...
10.28 BONUS BONUS | Examining grating relationship triggers and redesigning future dynamics for need fulfillment
Ever feel like you “react wrong” to “normal things” in relationships? (Hand is raised sky high over here) Let’s do a mini exercise, looking at past relationship patterns that created agitation and disconnection. Start exploring their...Community discussion! How do YOU feel about close, connective relationships?
We’ve been talking about relationships from a semi-avoidant perspective… but where have YOU settled with your perspectives on VIT? Answer the poll and tell us the deets in the comments below! And let’s practice connecting. 🍻 34 votes...
10.27 Re-examining and rebuilding relationships influenced by parental patterns with Black, Inca, and Misa | MFs Speak!
Let’s talk about relationship revelations, reconnections, and rebuilds. Especially, as they relate to direct and indirect parental relationships.. and mother. Here’s a tale of rewriting old, traum-insideous, dynamics to create healing ones. Today...
Special release | “Ah Hell Naw” Learned obstacles to forming close relationships
This podcast episode explores the challenges trauma survivors face in forming close relationships. It discusses how past experiences create fears around vulnerability, intimacy, and trust, leading to isolation and loneliness. The episode examines the internal conflicts and self-protective behaviors that can sabotage connections, offering insights into the complex dynamics of relationships for those with PTSD or complex trauma.
VIT Pt III -“Ah hell no” – Learned Obstacles to Vulnerability, Intimacy, and Trust in Relationships
So Fuckers, we’ve been talking relationship issues this year. Starting with loneliness and the many ways it overlaps with CPTSD. Then, using IFS we went diving into the ways our brains pattern themselves after the social influences in our environments, leaving us with...
BONUS | Examining yer VIT narratives and assumptions
So, talking obstacles to VIT this month. And let me guess, your head has been like “where do we fucking start, with the 20 foot wall we’ve built, the moat, the drawbridge, or the armed guards installed all around this castle?” Having relationships? We’ll do it if we...
10.26 BONUS | Examining yer VIT narratives and assumptions
We don’t like letting people get too close. We have our reasons. Plenty of em. Let’s take a look at what those reasons are and question their validity.
10.25 VIT Pt III – “Ah hell no” – Learned Obstacles to Vulnerability, Intimacy, and Trust in Relationships
Why don’t we sign up for close connections anymore? Let’s use this extra weekend in April to talk about it from an experiential standpoint, integrating what we’ve heard from the research with real life brain operations.
BONUS Video! Vulnerability, Intimacy, and Trust – the issues and the healing measures
Time to dood down. Let’s look at some illustrated points from the research we’ve done this month! What are our challenges with VIT? Where do they come from? How do we start healing them? A quick rundown. And how do we feel about watercolors? Cuz I’m...
Vulnerability, Intimacy, and Trust pt II – Fostering relational personality traits
Reminder! Hit up the workbook version of this post for the highlights, reflection questions, and full set of doods! It’s linked in the Bonus blog category and downloadable from the Patreon page. So last time we left off with a paper surrounding intimate partner...
BONUS Workbook | Vulnerability, Intimacy, Trust | Bases of Post-traumatic Growth
Reminder! This is the blogged version of the VIT pt I workbook. It’s not fancy in this form. Want the nice formatting? Yeah you do. VIT Workbook Pt IDownload TMFRsLet’s make sense of yer stupid fucking brainVulnerability, Intimacy, Trust| Bases of Post-traumatic...
BONUS Workbook! Vulnerability, Intimacy, Trust| Bases of Post-traumatic Growth
Here’s yer workbook for pt II of the VIT conversation! Research excerpts and main points, illustrative doodles, and reflection questions found here! Remember, this is also filed away on the Private Community Blog! Find the link to the google doc there....3.4 Vulnerability, Intimacy, and Trust Issues in Relationship
"So how do you feel about relationships? Complicated? You want them? You despise them? You fear them? You long for them? You try them? You exit them rapidly? Or you try to? You get stuck in them? And haunted by cycles of unfulfillment?" Today, let's...
10.24 Vulnerability, Intimacy, and Trust pt II – Fostering relational personality traits
So, we’ve heard a lot of the trauma-hangups around intimate relationships… now how do we work to rewire those instincts? Fan of doods? Clearly me too. Check out the video breakdown on VIT and the workbook to see em all, in context! Not finding those posts?...
3.4 Vulnerability, Intimacy, and Trust Issues in Relationship
Explore the challenges of vulnerability, intimacy, and trust in relationships for individuals with Complex PTSD. Learn about common relationship patterns, the importance of human connection in trauma recovery, and strategies for building healthier relationships. Discover how trauma impacts attachment styles and the potential for healing through supportive connections.