10.39 Why “authentic love” doesn’t last: Parts on Parts violence between partners PT I
What’s the basis for our initial deep connections? And where does that get lost along the way? Locking both partners in “mutual personal hells” that tap on our worst self-fears and oldest wounds. Gotta say, this one probably needs to be heard by...
10.38 Inca’s self-compassionate life reintegration success | MFs Speak!
Let’s talk about the results of getting internally acquainted and honest with our conscious and subconscious parts; pursuing healing life changes and re-examining our “purpose” on the planet. Thanks to Inca, as always, for these life updates and...
10.37 Practical Self Compassion with Shelby | MFs Speak!
Recognize thyn own parts before they try to control others! Let’s hear more about the model of nonviolent communication that relies on first understanding what lurks inside of us and ties in IFS work to achieve the goal, via the mouth of our community comrade...
10.35 VIT: Shelby and Emotional Intelligence > Cognitive Controlling in Relationship | MFs Speak!
Today let’s hear from Shelby, in a most excellent rundown of the importance of emotional intelligence, internal awareness, managing our time orientation, and using multilayered perspectives to stay rooted in the reality of the present. It’s a great episode...
10.34 VIT BONUS | Uncovering layers of relationship narratives and unfulfilled needs
If we need internal VIT to form healthy external relationships, how do we get started? Most of us don’t know what our relationship wounds and needs really are, or the ways we use self-defense strategies to stop ourselves from finding out. So let’s run down...
Videum! Vulnerable Relationship Issues and YOUR Parts
Time to dood together! Let’s summarize the main points of the month in watercolors, and bring a little light to the parts problems. Git knowin thyself’s parts, MFs. And build that inner VIT. Cheers and GL in there 🍻🍻...
10.33 Happy Anniversary Happy Hour! Gotta gush, git personal, and give good news
Lemme just car-record some real talk at you. And chat about what’s really going down behind all the research. Thanks for 3 unexpected years together, Fuckers! We did this together, and it wouldn’t be possible without you. 🍻 New public Discord channels...
Community Discussion! Does an “inescapable hell” describe your relationships too?
Looking back at your relationship history… does it always seem to result in unresolvable, mutual, torture? Or have you found ways to break the cycle and make progress, even after conflict has entered the picture? Check the poll and share what you’ve...
10.32 Projection, unfulfilled needs, abuse, and self-fulfilling prophecies | YOUR parts in Relationship Pt II
What challenges come up in relationship when we’re not attending to our own inner worlds? Talking about conscious and subconscious identities creating relational trauma – for us and them.
10.31 Disorganized attachment through IFS | YOUR Parts in Relationship Pt I
We want what we fear most: relationships. Now let’s look at the problem from an IFS viewpoint. How do your parts fuck up your relationship attempts? It’s a long, ongoing conversation. Let’s get started by learning about common parts problems that...Community Discussion! Are relationships on your to-do list, or has isolation been too relieving?
There’s a time for going solo AND many benefits to connecting with others… So where do you land these days? Let’s find out how Muffs currently feel about the role (and danger) of relationships, in general. Poll it out and share whatever you’ve...
VIT: When the perp is your savior by Leanne | MFs Speak!
We all probably realized it: our VIT issues generally start with the FOO (family of origin). But can you remember the specific, early, instances that planted those seeds? Let’s hear from our good pal Leanne, discussing an extremely young and impactful experience...
10.29 VIT & the Workplace. Back to work after 1 year of med leave with Incanthatus | MFs Speak!
Ever found yourself in a position of revealing your mental health struggles with coworkers, bosses, and red-taping practitioners? Let’s hear on life updates from Incanthatus that challenged those anti-VIT instincts. Returning to the office after a year of...
Video short from the community! VIT issues, summarized in a few seconds
Just wanted to share this submission from AL on the recent vulnerability/intimacy/trust poll! It had me rolling. This is the ~MF life~
10.28 BONUS BONUS | Examining grating relationship triggers and redesigning future dynamics for need fulfillment
Ever feel like you “react wrong” to “normal things” in relationships? (Hand is raised sky high over here) Let’s do a mini exercise, looking at past relationship patterns that created agitation and disconnection. Start exploring their...Community discussion! How do YOU feel about close, connective relationships?
We’ve been talking about relationships from a semi-avoidant perspective… but where have YOU settled with your perspectives on VIT? Answer the poll and tell us the deets in the comments below! And let’s practice connecting. 🍻 34 votes...
10.27 Re-examining and rebuilding relationships influenced by parental patterns with Black, Inca, and Misa | MFs Speak!
Let’s talk about relationship revelations, reconnections, and rebuilds. Especially, as they relate to direct and indirect parental relationships.. and mother. Here’s a tale of rewriting old, traum-insideous, dynamics to create healing ones. Today...
10.26 BONUS | Examining yer VIT narratives and assumptions
We don’t like letting people get too close. We have our reasons. Plenty of em. Let’s take a look at what those reasons are and question their validity.
10.25 VIT Pt III – “Ah hell no” – Learned Obstacles to Vulnerability, Intimacy, and Trust in Relationships
Why don’t we sign up for close connections anymore? Let’s use this extra weekend in April to talk about it from an experiential standpoint, integrating what we’ve heard from the research with real life brain operations.
BONUS Video! Vulnerability, Intimacy, and Trust – the issues and the healing measures
Time to dood down. Let’s look at some illustrated points from the research we’ve done this month! What are our challenges with VIT? Where do they come from? How do we start healing them? A quick rundown. And how do we feel about watercolors? Cuz I’m...
BONUS Workbook! Vulnerability, Intimacy, Trust| Bases of Post-traumatic Growth
Here’s yer workbook for pt II of the VIT conversation! Research excerpts and main points, illustrative doodles, and reflection questions found here! Remember, this is also filed away on the Private Community Blog! Find the link to the google doc there....
10.24 Vulnerability, Intimacy, and Trust pt II – Fostering relational personality traits
So, we’ve heard a lot of the trauma-hangups around intimate relationships… now how do we work to rewire those instincts? Fan of doods? Clearly me too. Check out the video breakdown on VIT and the workbook to see em all, in context! Not finding those posts?...
Repost! Stress-based Illnesses
Hey my Fuckers! This month in the Discord server we’re talking about a past episode from January 2021 – Stress Based Illnesses! Problem being, it was create pre-Patreon. So I’m posting it now! Feel free to comment below, or hit up the discussion...A big Q about the values of TMFR members
Hey high-tier Muffs! Thanks for being such a big part of this project. You’re keeping it alive with your support and I’m so grateful to have internet-stumbled into each other! Your feedback means the world to me, and I’m hoping for your opinion on...
BONUS Workbook! Vulnerability, Intimacy, Trust | Barriers to Connective Relationships
Hey MFs! Hope March went out like a lamb for you… and thanks, always, for being here! Here’s yer workbook for pt I of the VIT conversation! Research excerpts and main points, illustrative doodles, and reflection questions found here! (attached) Remember,...
10.23 Vulnerability, Intimacy, and Trust pt I – Why we can’t form meaningful relationships
We want relationships, we fear relationships, we sortof fuck up relationships…. But all from an adaptive, self-protective place. Let’s talk about the barriers to healthy relationship essentials – developing cognitive programs barring vulnerability,...
10.22 Intro to Yer Brain vs. Relationships | Vulnerability, Trust, Intimacy, Parts, and Communication
We’re heading into a long spell of deep diving. Talking about what stops us from having close interpersonal relationships… and what fucks them up even once they’re rolling.
10.21 Interview pt II: IFS, Parts, and Alters with Kyle and Inca | MFs Speak!
And the conversation keeps rolling. Today, diving in deeper with parts and alters, straight from the mouths of the MFs who lead the systems revolution. Don’t fergit – Kyle and Inca are here for your feedback, Qs, and thanks! Shout it out on the Patreon...
10.20 Interview: IFS, Parts, and Alters with Kyle and Inca | MFs Speak!
Enough of my droning. Let’s hear from two of the community experts on parts and alters, talking together about their experiences with system work. Massive thanks to Kyle and Incanthatus for putting this together! Hit them up through the post to share your thanks...
BONUS Workbook! IFS Getting Started Yerself
Here’s the attenuated version of the podcast post, interwoven with my doods to demonstrate the concepts, and your reflection questions at the end! Also find this posted in the TMFRs private blog – along with the full transcripts for each episode!...
Video: IFS Transference in Doods
We can talk and talk and talk. Or I can show you how this works. Let’s see some brains being developed into parts, and how we actually want to operate those machines! Thanks for letting me draw 🙂 hope to do more of this! Catch all the doods in the Workbooks...
Workbook! IFS Controversies, addressed
Been messing with the format 🙂 Here’s the attenuated version of the podcast post, interwoven with my doods to demonstrate the concepts, and your reflection questions at the end! Also find this posted in the TMFRs private blog – along with the full...
10.17 Clearing up Controversies around IFS | Tune in if you’ve had hangups
So we introduced Internal Family Systems last month… but from that little book report, it’s clear that there’s a lot of resistance around some of the points of IFS. Rather than moving on, I’d prefer to give you the greenlight to trying to work...
10.16 BONUS Loneliness x IFS with Gaslight Jess | MFs Speak!
It was February 24th, 2008. We were standing outside in the snow at 1am, dragged into the tundra by cops. Leading to one particular experience of loneliness that can only be described by a particular Anthem. Talking about getting back in touch with exiled parts...
10.15 BONUS Jess the Misanthropic Drunken Loner | MFs Speak
Loneliness – an all or nothing experience. For this MF, because it’s so closely linked to manager and exiled parts. Credit I might get a cease and desist letter about? Days N Daze. Check out these wonderful dirtbags here, if you haven’t laid eyes on...
10.13 Juri and the legacy burdens | MFs Speak!
Let’s hear from an alter of our pal of the Discord and MF community today! Talking about the depths of IFS legacy burdens (AKA the parts pains passed down through generations). You know the deal – comment your gratitude for this share to Juri (and all of...
10.12 Leanne’s Parts Work by IFS MFs Speak!
Today our good chum Leanne speaks about easing her way into the parts work, and her first attempt applying IFS to the system. Two recordings in one, MFs. Lots to reflect on, especially while starting your own self-system-studies. Be sure to give Leanne a hand for her...
10.11 Jess and IFS in Family Recontact | MFs Speak!
So my year started out in a potentially-disasterous way, I expected complete brain-destruction… But instead, it wound up being the most clarifying and healing journey I’ve taken. All due to real-time application of IFS and understanding the ways I was...
Bonus video! IFS Pt II
Now let’s talk about WORKING with those parts, with an easy visual! Good to see you all, thanks for being here, MFs! And Hail yer damn Self. 🍻
10.10 BONUS: Tools to accompany IFS work | “Letting Go” and “Brainspotting”
Coming back with some extra techniques to apply alongside yer IFS work to deepen the heal and parts accessibility! Today, let’s talk about “Letting Go” by Richard R Hawkins and “Brainspotting” by David Grand.
10.9 Internal Family Systems (IFS) Pt II – How to heal your Self
So you know more about your polarized inner world from last time – how it can be seen spread between three clarifying categories of “parts.” Today, we’re going to talk about actually healing those parts. We don’t try to manage...
Bonus! IFS Video Pt I
Let’s whiteboard this conversation for a simplified rundown! Hope your parts are becoming clear, and so are those vicious cycles. Hail all your functional (but nervous) adaptations! And cheers, Fuckers 🍻The secret password is…
So there’s a new organizational creation for yas to check out. Transcripts for each episode, in a blog for your viewing ease!Find the resource hereOR go to t-mfrs.com, hover over “community,” and choose “Private Patreon Blog” to...
10.8 Internal Family Systems (IFS) Therapy Pt I – Intro and Background
We’ve talked “parts” plenty of times. But today, we’re discussing the framework that actually helps us to understand the often polarized “roles” in our brains, which were drafted from experiences in our broader social systems....
10.6 Incanthatus x Shelby Interview Pt III | MFs Speak!
In this final segment of the conversation, Incanthatus and Shelby dive into loneliness and relationship challenges on CPTSD. Want the whole thing? Catch parts I and II at the Git Connected tier and above. Be sure to holler at yer MFs, and let Inca know if you’re...
10.5 BONUS Incanthatus x Shelby Interview Pts I & II | MFs Speak!
A TMFR first! Our community captain, Incanthatus, meets with fellow friend of the Blanket Fort, Shelby, to talk all things CPTSD.
10.4 Leanne “Alone is not Lonely” | MFs Speak!
You know the voice by now… it’s our MF from downunda, Leanne! She’s back today to talk about the RELIEF of being alone after a lifetime of serving others, and finding safe community outside the home. For some of us, being alone is not always lonely....
10.3 AL’s maladaptive dreaming and the exhausting relationship dance | MFs Speak!
Let’s hear from our friend of the community, AL (Alicia), for the first time! Hear about being the preacher’s daughter, exiling friend groups, and maladaptive dreaming as a coping tool. And nah, MF, ya got a GREAT voice and words.