10.37 Practical Self Compassion with Shelby | MFs Speak!
Recognize thyn own parts before they try to control others! Let’s hear more about the model of nonviolent communication that relies on first understanding what lurks inside of us and ties in IFS work to achieve the goal, via the mouth of our community comrade...
10.36 VIT: Kyle and learning to receive kindness through internal work | MFs Speak!
GIVING VIT is hard enough… but how about receiving it? What happens when your parts don’t know how to accept kindness? When you’re still carrying memories of unfulfilled needs and learned fear of striving for their satiation? Today let’s hear...
10.35 VIT: Shelby and Emotional Intelligence > Cognitive Controlling in Relationship | MFs Speak!
Today let’s hear from Shelby, in a most excellent rundown of the importance of emotional intelligence, internal awareness, managing our time orientation, and using multilayered perspectives to stay rooted in the reality of the present. It’s a great episode...
Lessons in relational danger: “When the perp is your savior” by Leanne
This is the transcript of the recent release of the same name! For more episodes like these, from MFs like you, join us in the private podcast stream/community here! And help support this DIY trauma support effort while you connect. Take care, get inner werkin, and...
10.34 VIT BONUS | Uncovering layers of relationship narratives and unfulfilled needs
If we need internal VIT to form healthy external relationships, how do we get started? Most of us don’t know what our relationship wounds and needs really are, or the ways we use self-defense strategies to stop ourselves from finding out. So let’s run down...
Workbook! Disorganized attachment through IFS | YOUR Parts in Relationship Pt 2
Reminder! This is the blogged version of the workbook. It’s not fancy in this form. Want the nice formatting? Yeah you do. PT II Workbook VIT and YOUR PartsDownload TMFRsLet’s make sense of yer stupid fucking brainVIT in relationship and YOUR parts PT IIWhat’s...
Videum! Vulnerable Relationship Issues and YOUR Parts
Time to dood together! Let’s summarize the main points of the month in watercolors, and bring a little light to the parts problems. Git knowin thyself’s parts, MFs. And build that inner VIT. Cheers and GL in there 🍻🍻...
10.33 Happy Anniversary Happy Hour! Gotta gush, git personal, and give good news
Lemme just car-record some real talk at you. And chat about what’s really going down behind all the research. Thanks for 3 unexpected years together, Fuckers! We did this together, and it wouldn’t be possible without you. 🍻 New public Discord channels...
Community Discussion! Does an “inescapable hell” describe your relationships too?
Looking back at your relationship history… does it always seem to result in unresolvable, mutual, torture? Or have you found ways to break the cycle and make progress, even after conflict has entered the picture? Check the poll and share what you’ve...
10.32 Projection, unfulfilled needs, abuse, and self-fulfilling prophecies | YOUR parts in Relationship Pt II
What challenges come up in relationship when we’re not attending to our own inner worlds? Talking about conscious and subconscious identities creating relational trauma – for us and them.
Workbook! Disorganized attachment through IFS | YOUR Parts in Relationship Pt 1
Reminder! This is the blogged version of the workbook. It’s not fancy in this form. Want the nice formatting? Yeah you do. Workbook VIT and YOUR PartsDownload TMFRs Let’s make sense of yer stupid fucking brain VIT in relationship and YOUR parts What’s standing...
3.5 Shadow parts vs. successful relationships | Internal VIT for healthy connections
This podcast episode explores the impact of childhood trauma on adult relationships through the lens of Internal Family Systems. It discusses how unresolved inner conflicts and self-protective behaviors can sabotage connections, emphasizing the importance of self-awareness and inner work. The episode offers insights into healing childhood relationship trauma and building healthier connections by understanding and addressing our internal “parts.”
3.5 Shadow parts vs. successful relationships | Internal VIT for healthy connections
We MFs struggle to begin or maintain healthy relationship dynamics, with a lot of externalized finger pointing about why. “Abusers just flock to me.” But the truth is, the abuse recreation is mutual and it all starts in the place we attempt to willfully...
3.5 Shadow parts vs. successful relationships | Internal VIT for healthy connections
My Fuckers. Welcome back! And thanks for being here to learn about what’s been roughing up your relationships for a while now. Last month we talked about some of the obstacles to forming authentic, connective, healing relationships when we have histories of PTSD. Of...