Dear dad. My unsent letter.
Hey, who wants an emotional one? Here it comes. Years ago, my therapist asked me to write this letter, fold it up, and burn it. I never did. The other day, it came streaming out unprovoked… My unsent letter to the dude that caused most of my family’s...3.4 Early Days Rerelease: Prolonged Freeze States
This podcast episode explores the concept of prolonged freeze states in complex trauma. The host discusses the physiological and psychological aspects of freeze responses, drawing from both personal experiences and scientific research. A study on rats is examined to understand the relationship between complex trauma and prolonged freeze behaviors. The episode highlights how freeze states can impact daily life and recovery for trauma survivors, emphasizing the need for further research and understanding in this area.
✭ 3.3 Early Days Rerelease: Emotional Dissociation (AKA Numbing)
This podcast episode explores emotional dissociation in the context of complex trauma. The host discusses the definition and signs of emotional detachment, drawing from both research and personal experiences. The episode delves into the origins of dissociation as a coping mechanism, its long-term effects, and the challenges of reintegrating emotions after prolonged numbness. The host shares their journey of navigating emotional extremes and offers insights into recognizing and addressing dissociative patterns in trauma recovery.
Mental Health In The Workplace: ACEs Role
Anyone else have trouble with work stress and triggering work environments (physical and social)? Holler. It’s been just over 3 months since I quit my super triggering and toxic job… and holy shit, I feel so much better NOT reporting in for the daily...Research: Freeze States
A lot of us describe getting “stuck” in a Freeze state following a triggering event or new trauma in our lives. I think most of us have heard plenty about Fight/Flight responses in regard to Trauma and PTSD. However, Freeze and Fawn responses are relatively new in our...✭✭ 3.2 Early Days Rerelease: ACEs and Work Environments
This podcast episode explores the impact of childhood trauma and adverse childhood experiences (ACEs) on workplace performance and mental health. The host discusses common challenges faced by trauma survivors in toxic work environments, including unpredictability, poor communication, and social dynamics. Personal experiences and research findings are shared to illustrate how complex trauma can affect job performance and overall well-being. The episode also touches on potential strategies for managing mental health at work and the benefits of independent contracting for trauma survivors.
3.1 Bonus | First Ever Ask Me Anything
Holler, look who isn’t spewing out 50 minutes of research and writing today! Instead, I’m addressing the AMA questions from the TMFR Patreon and sharing the answers with everyone. What’s my number one recovery tool, why did this project get started,...Relational “Deactivation” (AKA bitch, you so hot and cold)
I’ve been back at trauma reading and learning lately; a side-effect of preparing to go back to school AND having open access to scientific literature through the school’s online library. It feels like taking a step back into my old life. I might as well...3.0 Imposter Syndrome: Intro to Season Three
Ever get that voice in your head whispering sour nothings about your shortcomings and the false perceptions of others? Hey, me too. Annnd that’s especially true when I try to meld this CPTSD support project with my actual schooling in ABA. This week,...✭✭ 2.17 Early Days Rerelease: Deactivation, hot & cold relationships explained
This podcast episode explores the concept of relational deactivation in complex trauma survivors. The host discusses how this defense mechanism develops from childhood experiences of rejection and neglect, leading to challenges in adult relationships. Personal anecdotes illustrate the pattern of intense attachment followed by sudden detachment. The episode provides insight into why trauma survivors may struggle with maintaining consistent relationships and offers a framework for understanding these behaviors as protective responses rather than character flaws.
✭✭✭ Early Days Rerelease: 2.16 Shame and C-PTSD
This podcast episode explores the concept of shame in complex trauma, differentiating it from guilt and examining its impact on relationships and mental health. The host discusses shame’s physiological effects, coping strategies, and its role in trauma treatment. Drawing from personal experiences and research, the episode highlights the importance of addressing shame in trauma recovery and offers insights into recognizing and managing shame responses.
C-PTSD and physical symptoms
Photocredit @ Tia Trauma is a funny thing, huh? You’re keeping pace, holding a job, forging your way through a “normal” life, maybe even leading an “impressive” one… and then, things start going haywire. Maybe it starts with some increased anxiety… depressive spells...2.14 School: Applied Behavior Analysis and Trauma Recovery
Guess who’s going back to school? Mhmm, yer girl’s getting her M.S. in ABA (Applied Behavior Analysis) after years of putting off further formal education. What IS ABA, how has it helped in this ttrauma recovery journey, and how can it help other...Getting Educational: Shame and Complex Trauma
First, a personal spiel. Then, the research. Something has been on my mind – and in my gut lately. While staying with my mom for the past two months I’ve been reintroduced to a particular creeping sensation… one that is difficult to name or describe....The Trauma Genre; Punk rock saved my life
Ever look back at your life and think “huh, actually I guess I did alright, considering the clusterfuck?” when you’re forcing yourself to be honest? (or, let’s be real, when your therapist is telling you so.) Maybe it isn’t how you see yourself. Maybe you have a...2.13 Early Days Rerelease: Trauma and physical manifestions
This podcast episode explores the physical manifestations of trauma and PTSD, discussing common symptoms such as triggers, panic attacks, chronic exhaustion, digestive issues, and dissociation. The host explains the physiological basis for these symptoms and offers practical advice for managing them. The episode emphasizes the importance of holistic self-care, including proper nutrition, exercise, and stress management techniques, in trauma recovery. It also highlights the potential for improvement with consistent effort and professional help.
Lessons from a Cerebellar Hypoplasia dog: Week 2
Today marks the end of week two with my buddy Archie, a cerebellar hypoplasia dog that I’ve been fostering. Nah, this has nothing to do directly with trauma… but it’s definitely a crash course in dealing with my own shit while I tackle someone...Tia Shares her amazing art
I love getting thoughtful, sharing messages from other folks on their Trauma journey. Last night, I received a great one from a new member named Tia. Better yet – she sent ART! Check out her full Flickr profile here Here’s a quick art blurb from Tia:...✭ 2.12 Early Trauma Coping: Punk Rock Saved My Life
This podcast episode explores the impact of punk rock on trauma recovery and personal growth. The host shares their personal journey, discussing how punk rock provided community, identity, and coping mechanisms during challenging times. The episode delves into the long-term influence of punk culture on life choices, relationships, and self-expression. It highlights the role of music and alternative communities in overcoming childhood adversity and finding a sense of belonging.
“I’m doing well… no I’m not” C-PTSD and emotional roller coasters
One of the weirdest things for me on this CPTSD journey is realizing how my emotions change with the tides. And how unaware I can be of the gravitational pull. One day I say I’m doing great, the next day it feels like the end of the world. One moment I’m happy, the...NOTE TO SELF: Try to take care of yourself, asshole.
Another throwback post from a year or two ago! I would like to say that this has changed, but nah. That would be a motherfucking lie. To this day, I still have to leave this note-to-self on the docket. Enjoy this old, still relevant, article from an earlier iteration...2.11 Victim or Motherfucker? Has Trauma ever “helped”?
Unpopular opinion; early trauma gave me a lot of positive personality traits… you know, along with all the terrible ones. Am I a basketcase sometimes? Sure. Am I also resilient, responsible, good at reading people, and ready for disaster? Yer motherfucking...Lessons from 1 week as a Cerebellar Hypoplasia single dogmom
For over a year I’ve been trying to get a dog. Yes, I know, there are millions of needy dogs to choose from – what is the “trying” I speak of? How does this take a year? Well, I’m an emotional motherfucker with a heavy shame complex, back the fuck off. Believe...Getting started with Therapy
So, your head is a fucking nightmare. You know you have anxiety and depression… there are a few other things floating around… but you haven’t gotten the answers or coping tools to make a difference in your life. I feel you. For 20-something years I didn’t see a...2.10 Caring for everyone… but you
I’m great at taking care of everyone… but myself. Always dissociated. Always slave-driving. Always worried about everyone else. Sound right? What is this “self-care?” How does one “have fun?” Lessons from a life constructed of workaholism...2.9 Walkntalk | “All your fault,” shinner critic screams.
Shit inner critic, that is. Mine‘s been rearing his ugly fucking face in regards to personal relationships… Logical brain quietly disagrees.2.8 Early Days Rerelease: Traumastates – Like remembering a fever nightmare
This podcast episode explores the challenges of remembering and processing traumatic experiences during recovery. The host compares trauma states to fever dreams, discussing the difficulty in recalling exact details and emotions from periods of intense struggle. The episode highlights the physical and emotional symptoms of trauma and describes the gradual process of healing. It offers encouragement to those still experiencing trauma symptoms and emphasizes the possibility of recovery with proper support and therapy.
Back to MF school: Applied Behavior Analysis and Trauma
You know, besides this project… I do a hellovalot, ya’ll. I hint and I complain about my precrastinating ways of driving myself into the ground, but I don’t always explain the context. Admittedly, I’ve been keeping a big part of this outside...2.7 Complex obstacle; Starting therapy
What’s harder than living in hell everyday? Finding someone who can help you get out.A real MF; Meet my wheelchair pup, Archie
Guys… I’m a fucking sucker. Meet my new foster pup, Archie! Archie is a special guy. He has cerebellar hypoplasia, or CH, a genetic disorder that causes him to be uncoordinated. Essentially, his cerebellar – the part of the brain responsible for...✭✭ 2.6 What IS Complex Trauma? Off the Cuff
Spoilers: this episode is re-done in 2021! Check out the newer scripted version, which kicked off the new (shitty) year. When we discuss this C-PTSD thing… what the fuck are we really talking about? What is it? How does it happen? What are the long lasting...✭✭ 2.5 Relatable | Was it really “Trauma?”
“Or am I just sensitive?” It’s hard to know, when our culture has reduced “PTSD” to mean “Soldiers’ disease.” Oh, and your history-denying family? Yeah, they’re not helping either. What is “Trauma,” and...Astrology and Trauma. Learning about Chiron, the wounded healer
So, I found my astrology spirit animal this past week. Henceforth, go ahead and call me Chiron, the wounded healer. Or just Jess. Or stick with “Motherfucker.” If you think I’m dumb for talking about astrology, Jess from 2 years ago would thoroughly agree. If you...✭✭ 2.4 Early Days Rerelease: Emotional roller coasters; The rise is relative to the fall
This podcast episode explores the challenges of emotional instability in trauma recovery. The host shares personal experiences with rapid mood shifts, discussing how past trauma can affect current emotional regulation. The episode delves into the relativity of emotional experiences, the impact of negative self-talk, and the difficulties in communicating these experiences to others. It offers insights into the complexities of managing emotions for those with trauma backgrounds and encourages listeners to be patient with themselves in their healing journey.
My recovery is the project of a lifetime
I’ve had a major breakdown in mental health and positive thinking lately. You may have noticed; I’ve been working myself to the bone and complaining about how anxious my mindset has been. Churning out SO MUCH writing all the while. This is frustrating, because it’s...2.2 “I’m doing fine,” and other human lies
Did you know, Traumatized Motherfuckers started as a mental health recovery project called Guinea Living? Before I decided to go the polarizing and dark-humored route of calling everyone a Motherfucker, I was using some cutesy guinea pig art and talking about trauma...How it feels “recovering” from Trauma Brain
Found this in my old posts from my older site version of Traumatized Motherfuckers, circa Spring 2019. The long lost works from my early trauma-writing days. (I wouldn’t be a perfectionist self-sacrificer if I didn’t create things, tell myself they suck,...2.3 Early Days Rerelease: “I can’t” | Too inferior to fail
This podcast episode explores the mental obstacles faced by individuals recovering from trauma and how to overcome them. The host shares personal experiences with self-doubt, perfectionism, and fear of failure, discussing how these challenges can hinder personal growth and recovery. The episode emphasizes the importance of starting new habits despite discomfort, learning from failures, and breaking negative thought patterns. Listeners are encouraged to embrace imperfection and persevere through initial difficulties in their recovery journey.
2.2 Early Days Rerelease: “I’m doing fine,” and other human lies
This podcast episode explores the societal pressure to appear “fine” and its impact on mental health and personal connections. The host shares a past blog post discussing the isolating effects of constantly projecting happiness and the importance of recognizing shared human experiences. The episode encourages listeners to challenge self-defeating thought patterns and embrace emotional honesty in relationships. It emphasizes that mental health struggles are common and that vulnerability can lead to more authentic connections.
2.1 Early Days Rerelease: The masks we wear; Hiding mental illness
This podcast episode explores the concept of “masking” in trauma recovery, discussing how individuals often hide their true selves and struggles behind a facade of normalcy. The host shares personal experiences with developing and maintaining masks, from childhood through adulthood, and the impact this has had on relationships and self-perception. The episode also touches on the process of gradually removing these masks and the positive effects of embracing vulnerability and authenticity in recovery.
2.0 Live | I am the project of a lifetime
Compulsive workaholic for the sake of escaping your own life? Holler – lifetime member of the Overdoing It club. All that self-neglect in the name of accomplishing? It makes me lose sight of my complex trauma recovery. This past month of June, I was deep in a...Belief systems and trauma recovery
Sometimes… I dip my toe into an area that I quickly end up apologizing for. When I mention my spiritual beliefs, I always feel the need to qualify them with a quick disclaimer or a weak,”but what the fuck do I know – you do you.” I’m...Member post; Fred, on facing fears and worrying less
Fred is one of our most prolific sharers in the community. If you haven’t seen his amazing photography and the corresponding post, please go take a gander. I always enjoy his emails about the various adventures he finds living in Portugal, how he realized that...✭ Learn to enjoy saying goodbye to people you love
Alright, this might be a controversial/polarizing one. But that’s sortof what I specialize in, yeah? If you didn’t enjoy being called a Motherfucker and pushed with unsettling concepts, it’d be easy enough to close this window. Well, I’m back...1.19 It’s not “okay,” but I have gender triggers
An early episode, Summer 2020, redacted for… not being PC or un-trauma biased. And I MF know it. Sometimes our past experiences make us unfairly biased or easily triggered, and apparently I have a lot of bad times with a certain ‘male’ energy.Early Days Rerelease: Trauma Loops pt II: Stagnancy, terrible relationships, and self-abuse
This podcast episode explores the concept of “trauma loops” – repetitive patterns of behavior stemming from past traumatic experiences. The host discusses personal examples of these loops, including cycles of stagnancy and overwork, problematic relationships, escapist tendencies, and health obsessions. The episode also touches on positive patterns that can emerge from self-reflection and offers insights into breaking these cycles. The discussion aims to help listeners recognize similar patterns in their own lives and consider strategies for overcoming them.
Quick bit: Using anger for trauma recovery motivation?
This post is available via podcast! Give it a listen if you don’t need any more time staring at a gotdamn screen. Find it here, or search “Complex Trauma” in your favorite streaming service. Ya know, much of my initial mental health coping and...Member post: Izzy, on childhood trauma, eating disorders, and autoimmune responses
You know what I’m shouting about these days? This new Discord community that we’re running. It’s providing more community and naturally-flowing connection than I ever expected! I’m struggling to keep up with the convos… and shit,...1.16 Early Days Rerelease: Leveraging Anger in the war of Complex Trauma Recovery
This podcast episode explores the unconventional use of anger as a motivational tool in trauma recovery. The host discusses how accessing anger can provide energy and determination when other positive emotions feel out of reach. Drawing from personal experiences and punk rock influences, the episode offers insights into channeling difficult emotions constructively. The discussion also touches on the importance of eventually moving beyond anger towards forgiveness and healing.