Community Discussion! What tools have helped you stay committed to hard conversations and relations?
This month we talked about the U-Turn to Re-turn and several other methods to help us communicate more honestly / less defensively… What have YOU been able to put into place to overcome the distance created by defensive parts?Or are you still looking for...
Why “healthy communication and expectation” doesn’t exist: Parts on Parts violence between partners PT 2 | Video+Workbook
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This podcast episode explores the complexities of relationships and how our inner worlds affect our interactions with partners. It discusses how unresolved traumas and protective behaviors can influence relationship dynamics, often unconsciously. The episode examines different internal ‘parts’ – such as exiles, managers, and protectors – and how they manifest in partnerships. It touches on common communication challenges and the patterns that emerge when different internal parts interact. The discussion emphasizes the importance of self-awareness and healing in fostering healthier relationships. While not offering definitive solutions, this episode provides a framework for understanding some of the psychological underpinnings of relationship difficulties and the potential for growth through self-reflection.
Final VIT video release! Healing communication issues between parts in partners – pt 3
You got it, the tiny rundown on episode #3 of the month! Here’s the short and skinny on healing relationships using IFS x couples therapy x healthy communication… in doodles. And why it’s worth all the inevitable upset &...
VIT videos videos videos! A month in review pt I
We covered A LOT this month – so here’s the full rundown in doodles! Each short corresponds to an episode on the topic of Parts in Partners and building conscious relationships. Here’s part I – why we lose love and build resentment...
3.6b Overcoming spiraling conflicts in trauma-impacted relationships
You know the deal… This is the transcript of the bitesized”summary” episode by the same name!Listen to it free, wherever you stream. For the full research details, pulled from 3 honkin episodes… and so many bonuses… check...
Workbook-transcript! Healing hellish communication and re-instating authentic love | Parts on Parts violence between partners PT 3
Here’s ya major points, rough transcript, doodleys, and reflection Qs for the week’s episode! Download below. Hope it helps break down better communication tactics between parts in partners <3 Hail yer damn Self this weekend And cheers y’all VIT...
10.41 Healing hellish communication and re-installing authentic love | Parts on Parts violence between partners PT 3
With all these parts problems raging within relationships, how do we break the cycle? What are the self-regulation and communication tactics we need to learn to stop ourselves from fighting and fleeing away from fearful connections?
3.6 Lost love and authentic connection; the fragmented explanation
This is the transcript version of the podcast of the same name! Find it wherever you listen, just search “traumatized motherfuckers” or “complex trauma.” For the full details of the conversation (and the rest of this relational talk) hit...
Transcript-Workbook for Why “authentic love” doesn’t last: Parts on Parts violence between partners PT I
Doing a smarter thing starting this month! Here’s the transcript, main points summary, doods, and reflection Qs in one! Find it in less-pretty form on the private blog, or just get it right here! Download in attachments. Thanks y’all. Yer the best...
Lessons in relational danger: “When the perp is your savior” by Leanne
This is the transcript of the recent release of the same name! For more episodes like these, from MFs like you, join us in the private podcast stream/community here! And help support this DIY trauma support effort while you connect. Take care, get inner werkin, and...
Workbook! Disorganized attachment through IFS | YOUR Parts in Relationship Pt 2
Reminder! This is the blogged version of the workbook. It’s not fancy in this form. Want the nice formatting? Yeah you do. PT II Workbook VIT and YOUR PartsDownload TMFRsLet’s make sense of yer stupid fucking brainVIT in relationship and YOUR parts PT IIWhat’s...
Workbook! Disorganized attachment through IFS | YOUR Parts in Relationship Pt 1
Reminder! This is the blogged version of the workbook. It’s not fancy in this form. Want the nice formatting? Yeah you do. Workbook VIT and YOUR PartsDownload TMFRs Let’s make sense of yer stupid fucking brain VIT in relationship and YOUR parts What’s standing...
3.5 Shadow parts vs. successful relationships | Internal VIT for healthy connections
This podcast episode explores the impact of childhood trauma on adult relationships through the lens of Internal Family Systems. It discusses how unresolved inner conflicts and self-protective behaviors can sabotage connections, emphasizing the importance of self-awareness and inner work. The episode offers insights into healing childhood relationship trauma and building healthier connections by understanding and addressing our internal “parts.”
3.5 Shadow parts vs. successful relationships | Internal VIT for healthy connections
We MFs struggle to begin or maintain healthy relationship dynamics, with a lot of externalized finger pointing about why. “Abusers just flock to me.” But the truth is, the abuse recreation is mutual and it all starts in the place we attempt to willfully...
3.5 Shadow parts vs. successful relationships | Internal VIT for healthy connections
My Fuckers. Welcome back! And thanks for being here to learn about what’s been roughing up your relationships for a while now. Last month we talked about some of the obstacles to forming authentic, connective, healing relationships when we have histories of PTSD. Of...
“Recovery Emotions vs. Life Obligations” Mailbag!
This podcast episode addresses the challenge of balancing trauma recovery and therapy with daily responsibilities like work and parenting. It discusses the potential impact of therapy on emotional stability and functionality, offering strategies to manage these effects. The episode explores the concept of Internal Family Systems and suggests ways to accommodate healing work within a busy life, including potential career changes. It also touches on broader societal issues that complicate mental health recovery.
“Recovery Emotions vs. Life Obligations” Mailbag!
This is the rough transcript of the podcast episode of the same name!Find it wherever you podcast, just search “traumatized motherfuckers” to listen.If you’re ready for a lot more MF learning, jump into the private podcast stream with over 300...
BONUS BONUS | Examining grating relationship triggers and expected dynamics
Take a look at your past relationships. Ones that didn’t pan out ideally. Sit down, get comfortable, ground yourself (that means, feel into your damn feet), and try to get into a less brain-active place so you can direct your own thoughts. As always, don’t do any of...
Special release | “Ah Hell Naw” Learned obstacles to forming close relationships
This podcast episode explores the challenges trauma survivors face in forming close relationships. It discusses how past experiences create fears around vulnerability, intimacy, and trust, leading to isolation and loneliness. The episode examines the internal conflicts and self-protective behaviors that can sabotage connections, offering insights into the complex dynamics of relationships for those with PTSD or complex trauma.
VIT Pt III -“Ah hell no” – Learned Obstacles to Vulnerability, Intimacy, and Trust in Relationships
So Fuckers, we’ve been talking relationship issues this year. Starting with loneliness and the many ways it overlaps with CPTSD. Then, using IFS we went diving into the ways our brains pattern themselves after the social influences in our environments, leaving us with...
BONUS | Examining yer VIT narratives and assumptions
So, talking obstacles to VIT this month. And let me guess, your head has been like “where do we fucking start, with the 20 foot wall we’ve built, the moat, the drawbridge, or the armed guards installed all around this castle?” Having relationships? We’ll do it if we...
Vulnerability, Intimacy, and Trust pt II – Fostering relational personality traits
Reminder! Hit up the workbook version of this post for the highlights, reflection questions, and full set of doods! It’s linked in the Bonus blog category and downloadable from the Patreon page. So last time we left off with a paper surrounding intimate partner...
BONUS Workbook | Vulnerability, Intimacy, Trust | Bases of Post-traumatic Growth
Reminder! This is the blogged version of the VIT pt I workbook. It’s not fancy in this form. Want the nice formatting? Yeah you do. VIT Workbook Pt IDownload TMFRsLet’s make sense of yer stupid fucking brainVulnerability, Intimacy, Trust| Bases of Post-traumatic...3.4 Vulnerability, Intimacy, and Trust Issues in Relationship
"So how do you feel about relationships? Complicated? You want them? You despise them? You fear them? You long for them? You try them? You exit them rapidly? Or you try to? You get stuck in them? And haunted by cycles of unfulfillment?" Today, let's...
3.4 Vulnerability, Intimacy, and Trust Issues in Relationship
Explore the challenges of vulnerability, intimacy, and trust in relationships for individuals with Complex PTSD. Learn about common relationship patterns, the importance of human connection in trauma recovery, and strategies for building healthier relationships. Discover how trauma impacts attachment styles and the potential for healing through supportive connections.
BONUS Workbook | Vulnerability, Intimacy, Trust | Barriers to Connective Relationships
Reminder! This is the blogged version of the VIT pt I workbook. It’s not fancy in this form. Want the nice formatting? Yeah you do. VIT-WorkbookDownload TMFRs Let’s make sense of yer stupid fucking brain Vulnerability, Intimacy, Trust| Barriers to Connective...
Vulnerability, Intimacy, and Trust pt I – Why we can’t form meaningful relationships
Reminder! Hit up the workbook version of this post for the highlights, reflection questions, and full set of doods! It’s linked in the Bonus blog category and downloadable from the Patreon page. Why don’t all the images get slapped into this full...
Mailbag! Identifying CPTSD, understanding partners, and coping through relationship dissolutions
Explore real-life experiences of individuals dealing with Complex PTSD through listener-submitted stories. This mailbag episode addresses identifying CPTSD symptoms, supporting partners with trauma, and coping with life challenges. The host provides insights on trauma-informed therapy, relationship dynamics, and the importance of community support in the healing journey.
Mailbag! Identifying CPTSD, understanding partners, and coping through relationship dissolutions
Explore real-life experiences of individuals dealing with Complex PTSD through listener-submitted stories. This mailbag episode addresses identifying CPTSD symptoms, supporting partners with trauma, and coping with life challenges. The host provides insights on trauma-informed therapy, relationship dynamics, and the importance of community support in the healing journey.
BONUS Exercise | Victims and Villains
Ya know, I listen to a lot of stuff that is not directly mental health related. Actually, most of what I consume has nothing to statedly do with all this trauma stuff. It’s just indirectly implied. That’s where I get a lot of my learnings and why this show isn’t...
10.19 BONUS Exercise | Your “victims” and “villains”
IFS is a great approach, but sometimes it’s hard to get into those parts and characterize them with just “manager, exile, and distractor” labels. We might miss out on some of the neural bundles in there. Here’s another approach to getting...
10.18 Clarifying the Process and Benefits of IFS | Don’t give in to resistance, reap the relief
We’re back one more time to continue talking about Internal Family Systems from a less bookish approach. I wouldn’t keep at it if I didn’t think it mattered, I can tell you that much. So today, let’s talk about the best ways (so far) to...
3.3. Subconscious Self-loathing
Explore the concept of subconscious self-loathing in Complex PTSD and how Internal Family Systems (IFS) therapy can aid in recovery. Learn about integrating conflicting personality parts, understanding adaptive mental strategies, and developing self-acceptance. Discover how recognizing and working with different aspects of your psyche can lead to improved self-esteem and mental health.
EXTRA | Hardening isn’t Healing
Explore the difference between hardening and healing in trauma recovery. This podcast episode discusses how protective strategies can sometimes hinder true healing, emphasizing the importance of balance and vulnerability. Learn about the challenges of black-and-white thinking in trauma responses and the value of finding middle ground. Gain insights into developing healthier approaches to relationships and personal growth post-trauma.
3.3 Subconscious Self-loathing
Accepting parts you hate “Let’s say” you have a lingering sense of being “wrong.” You work with extreme focus and concern to be the best you possible. You find self-loathing to be a part of your routine, but might not understand why. For an unknown reason, perhaps, it...
IFS Notes | Controversies, addressed
Recommended: download the official file to get all the pretty pictures. Find it here! IFS-workbook-ControversiesDownload TMFRsLet’s make sense of yer stupid fucking brainIFS | Controversies, addressedThe words sound dumb, but the application will relieve you.Winter...
IFS Controversies
Look, Fuckers… we’re already getting a little “off plan” for the year here, but I think it’s a needed detour on our road trip. I was going to jump ahead this month into talking about a whole new topic. Vulnerability, Intimacy, and Trust in rebuilding relationships....
IFS, Letting Go, and Brainspotting
Let’s skip the intro on this one and dive in. We’ve been talking about Internal Family Systems and how to work with them safely, with lasting effects that calm down your insides. Today, we’re going to talk about ways to deepen the parts work in IFS, with two other...
Internal Family Systems Pt II
Alright, frens! Do we need to go through all the announcements again? We probably don’t need to go into all the announcements again. But here’s a few. Today, we’re covering part two of the research portion of this conversation – talking about Internal Family...
IFS workbook
IFS Part I – Background and introduction major takeaways Schwartz worked with children in a psychological treatment center, where he found that their progress didn’t last once they were reintroduced to their family system. He transitioned into Family Therapy...2. Healing self-contradicting brains with Internal Family Systems (IFS) Therapy
Ever feel like you’ve got a whole household of people contained in one skull? Fighting, just like they did in your family home? Turns out, that’s normal. Today, let’s talk about Internal Family Systems and the roles cemented in your brain....
3.2. Healing self-contradicting brains with Internal Family Systems (IFS) Therapy
Explore Internal Family Systems (IFS) therapy as a framework for understanding and healing complex trauma. Learn about the different types of internal parts, their roles, and interactions within the psyche. Discover how IFS can help address contradictory brain patterns, self-destructive behaviors, and feelings of being stuck. Gain insights into the healing process through self-understanding and acceptance, guided by the concept of the “Self” in IFS therapy.
Internal Family Systems (IFS) Pt I
So motherfuckers, welcome to month two of 2023! Hope you’re ready to be integrating all these lessons from the past few years with me, as I’m about to go into what’s called my “Christ year.” Which is all about… that. Integration of learned lessons. Yep, when you turn...
Intro | Early Day Episodes Rereleases
Explore the evolution of this CPTSD recovery podcast, from its early days to its current community-driven format. Learn about the host’s decision to rerelease early episodes, offering listeners a more personal and relatable perspective on trauma recovery. Discover how vulnerability and self-reflection have shaped the podcast’s content and direction, and find out about new community-focused initiatives in mental health support.
3.1. Loneliness and Isolation in CPTSD
Explore the complex relationship between loneliness, isolation, and trauma recovery in CPTSD. Learn about social and emotional loneliness, their roots in childhood trauma, and how loneliness can motivate post-traumatic growth. Discover the difference between loneliness and isolation, and understand the importance of self-connection in healing. Gain insights into reframing isolation as a tool for personal growth and recovery.
Loneliness Series | January 2023
Loneliness and CPTSD Pt I So here we are, Fuckers! Starting off this new year, officially, with our new show format. That’s two research episodes to introduce a topic and two weeks of MFs Speaks episodes to open, expand, and round out the conversation. Getting more...
SUB-C BONUS | Neurolinguistic exercise
WORDY EXERCISE So my Muffs, we left off talking about the Sub-C. The sub-con, if you’re privy to that distinction. Daily episode drop motherfuckers, holler. Anyways, I prompted you to get in touch with your subconscious by watching it more regularly and more...The Missing Transcripts (Mid 2021-2022)
SOOOOO let’s be honest. I’m restarting this blog effort to accompany the Patreon… but it’s coming with some big challenges. Life got fucked up somewhere around “my dog is rapidly dying as someone screams at me everyday” followed by...