3.4 Vulnerability, Intimacy, and Trust Issues in Relationship
"So how do you feel about relationships? Complicated? You want them? You despise them? You fear them? You long for them? You try them? You exit them rapidly? Or you try to? You get stuck in them? And haunted by cycles of unfulfillment?" Today, let's...
3.4 Vulnerability, Intimacy, and Trust Issues in Relationship
Explore the challenges of vulnerability, intimacy, and trust in relationships for individuals with Complex PTSD. Learn about common relationship patterns, the importance of human connection in trauma recovery, and strategies for building healthier relationships. Discover how trauma impacts attachment styles and the potential for healing through supportive connections.
BONUS Workbook | Vulnerability, Intimacy, Trust | Barriers to Connective Relationships
Reminder! This is the blogged version of the VIT pt I workbook. It’s not fancy in this form. Want the nice formatting? Yeah you do. VIT-WorkbookDownload TMFRs Let’s make sense of yer stupid fucking brain Vulnerability, Intimacy, Trust| Barriers to Connective...
Vulnerability, Intimacy, and Trust pt I – Why we can’t form meaningful relationships
Reminder! Hit up the workbook version of this post for the highlights, reflection questions, and full set of doods! It’s linked in the Bonus blog category and downloadable from the Patreon page. Why don’t all the images get slapped into this full...
Mailbag! Identifying CPTSD, understanding partners, and coping through relationship dissolutions
Explore real-life experiences of individuals dealing with Complex PTSD through listener-submitted stories. This mailbag episode addresses identifying CPTSD symptoms, supporting partners with trauma, and coping with life challenges. The host provides insights on trauma-informed therapy, relationship dynamics, and the importance of community support in the healing journey.
Mailbag! Identifying CPTSD, understanding partners, and coping through relationship dissolutions
Explore real-life experiences of individuals dealing with Complex PTSD through listener-submitted stories. This mailbag episode addresses identifying CPTSD symptoms, supporting partners with trauma, and coping with life challenges. The host provides insights on trauma-informed therapy, relationship dynamics, and the importance of community support in the healing journey.
BONUS Exercise | Victims and Villains
Ya know, I listen to a lot of stuff that is not directly mental health related. Actually, most of what I consume has nothing to statedly do with all this trauma stuff. It’s just indirectly implied. That’s where I get a lot of my learnings and why this show isn’t...
10.19 BONUS Exercise | Your “victims” and “villains”
IFS is a great approach, but sometimes it’s hard to get into those parts and characterize them with just “manager, exile, and distractor” labels. We might miss out on some of the neural bundles in there. Here’s another approach to getting...
10.18 Clarifying the Process and Benefits of IFS | Don’t give in to resistance, reap the relief
We’re back one more time to continue talking about Internal Family Systems from a less bookish approach. I wouldn’t keep at it if I didn’t think it mattered, I can tell you that much. So today, let’s talk about the best ways (so far) to...
3.3. Subconscious Self-loathing
Explore the concept of subconscious self-loathing in Complex PTSD and how Internal Family Systems (IFS) therapy can aid in recovery. Learn about integrating conflicting personality parts, understanding adaptive mental strategies, and developing self-acceptance. Discover how recognizing and working with different aspects of your psyche can lead to improved self-esteem and mental health.
EXTRA | Hardening isn’t Healing
Explore the difference between hardening and healing in trauma recovery. This podcast episode discusses how protective strategies can sometimes hinder true healing, emphasizing the importance of balance and vulnerability. Learn about the challenges of black-and-white thinking in trauma responses and the value of finding middle ground. Gain insights into developing healthier approaches to relationships and personal growth post-trauma.
3.3 Subconscious Self-loathing
Accepting parts you hate “Let’s say” you have a lingering sense of being “wrong.” You work with extreme focus and concern to be the best you possible. You find self-loathing to be a part of your routine, but might not understand why. For an unknown reason, perhaps, it...
IFS Notes | Controversies, addressed
Recommended: download the official file to get all the pretty pictures. Find it here! IFS-workbook-ControversiesDownload TMFRsLet’s make sense of yer stupid fucking brainIFS | Controversies, addressedThe words sound dumb, but the application will relieve you.Winter...
IFS Controversies
Look, Fuckers… we’re already getting a little “off plan” for the year here, but I think it’s a needed detour on our road trip. I was going to jump ahead this month into talking about a whole new topic. Vulnerability, Intimacy, and Trust in rebuilding relationships....
IFS, Letting Go, and Brainspotting
Let’s skip the intro on this one and dive in. We’ve been talking about Internal Family Systems and how to work with them safely, with lasting effects that calm down your insides. Today, we’re going to talk about ways to deepen the parts work in IFS, with two other...
Internal Family Systems Pt II
Alright, frens! Do we need to go through all the announcements again? We probably don’t need to go into all the announcements again. But here’s a few. Today, we’re covering part two of the research portion of this conversation – talking about Internal Family...
IFS workbook
IFS Part I – Background and introduction major takeaways Schwartz worked with children in a psychological treatment center, where he found that their progress didn’t last once they were reintroduced to their family system. He transitioned into Family Therapy...2. Healing self-contradicting brains with Internal Family Systems (IFS) Therapy
Ever feel like you’ve got a whole household of people contained in one skull? Fighting, just like they did in your family home? Turns out, that’s normal. Today, let’s talk about Internal Family Systems and the roles cemented in your brain....
3.2. Healing self-contradicting brains with Internal Family Systems (IFS) Therapy
Explore Internal Family Systems (IFS) therapy as a framework for understanding and healing complex trauma. Learn about the different types of internal parts, their roles, and interactions within the psyche. Discover how IFS can help address contradictory brain patterns, self-destructive behaviors, and feelings of being stuck. Gain insights into the healing process through self-understanding and acceptance, guided by the concept of the “Self” in IFS therapy.
Internal Family Systems (IFS) Pt I
So motherfuckers, welcome to month two of 2023! Hope you’re ready to be integrating all these lessons from the past few years with me, as I’m about to go into what’s called my “Christ year.” Which is all about… that. Integration of learned lessons. Yep, when you turn...
Intro | Early Day Episodes Rereleases
Explore the evolution of this CPTSD recovery podcast, from its early days to its current community-driven format. Learn about the host’s decision to rerelease early episodes, offering listeners a more personal and relatable perspective on trauma recovery. Discover how vulnerability and self-reflection have shaped the podcast’s content and direction, and find out about new community-focused initiatives in mental health support.
3.1. Loneliness and Isolation in CPTSD
Explore the complex relationship between loneliness, isolation, and trauma recovery in CPTSD. Learn about social and emotional loneliness, their roots in childhood trauma, and how loneliness can motivate post-traumatic growth. Discover the difference between loneliness and isolation, and understand the importance of self-connection in healing. Gain insights into reframing isolation as a tool for personal growth and recovery.
Loneliness Series | January 2023
Loneliness and CPTSD Pt I So here we are, Fuckers! Starting off this new year, officially, with our new show format. That’s two research episodes to introduce a topic and two weeks of MFs Speaks episodes to open, expand, and round out the conversation. Getting more...
SUB-C BONUS | Neurolinguistic exercise
WORDY EXERCISE So my Muffs, we left off talking about the Sub-C. The sub-con, if you’re privy to that distinction. Daily episode drop motherfuckers, holler. Anyways, I prompted you to get in touch with your subconscious by watching it more regularly and more...The Missing Transcripts (Mid 2021-2022)
SOOOOO let’s be honest. I’m restarting this blog effort to accompany the Patreon… but it’s coming with some big challenges. Life got fucked up somewhere around “my dog is rapidly dying as someone screams at me everyday” followed by...
SUB-C Series Looking Down Below
So in all this inner work we’ve been doing so far – starting back in July (? question mark?) with the “Refind and Reempower your full SELF” series and leading up to today… what we’re really trying to do, at the root of it… is to get to the REAL root of it....
Incanthatus and building trust in the New Year | MFs Speak!
Who dropped the ball on putting out a NY episode? This guy right here. Luckily, a MF was ON IT. Today, let’s hear from our community comrade, Incanthatus, reflecting on a lifetime without trustworthiness in Self or others… and the ways they intend to run...
2.12. Challenges of breaking the cycle | AKA – generational upset, NC, a new world
Explore the challenges and importance of breaking generational trauma cycles. Learn about family resistance to change, the impact on relationships, and the personal and societal benefits of trauma recovery. Understand the transmissibility of both trauma and healing, and discover strategies for maintaining recovery efforts despite opposition. Gain insights into the long-term effects of breaking trauma cycles on personal growth and future generations.
2.11. Forming new lives | AKA – reintegration efforts for lasting change
Explore the integration phase of trauma recovery, focusing on both internal and external processes. Learn about reconnecting with your body, managing anxiety, processing emotions, and integrating fragmented memories. Discover strategies for making behavioral changes, restructuring your environment, and overcoming fear to support long-term healing. Understand the importance of balancing inner work with external life changes for comprehensive trauma recovery.
2.10. The resources needed for brain recovery | AKA – mediums for new perspectives
Explore the essential resources needed for trauma brain recovery: time, space, and energy. Learn about the challenges of modern life in creating these resources and discover strategies for prioritizing self-care and setting boundaries. Understand the importance of restructuring daily life to support brain healing and cognitive restructuring. Gain insights into planning for long-term changes to support ongoing trauma recovery.
2.9. Loss of functionality | AKA – overcompensation, collapse, resisilence v. resistence
Explore the concept of loss of functionality in complex trauma recovery. Learn about personality parts, symptom masking, and the impact of trauma on executive functioning. Understand post-traumatic collapse and the importance of resilience in recovery. Discover strategies for managing symptoms and overcoming self-judgment during the healing process.
2.8. Internal battles | AKA – healing your disintegrated brain
Explore the concept of parts work in complex trauma recovery. Learn about fragmented personalities, how trauma impacts self-integration, and the importance of addressing these parts for healing. Understand the challenges of internal conflicts and self-limiting behaviors in CPTSD. Discover resources for understanding and working with parts to achieve a more integrated self and improved functionality in daily life.
2.7. Self-limiting modes of existence | AKA – life halting programs and parts battles
Explore the concept of self-limitation in complex trauma recovery. Learn about the various forms of self-limiting patterns, including beliefs, thoughts, emotions, behaviors, and structures. Understand how trauma impacts personality fragmentation and creates self-limiting modes of existence. Discover strategies for overcoming these limitations and integrating fragmented parts of the self for holistic healing.
2.6. Default Mode Network(DMN) | AKA – memory throwbacks, bodily disconnection, and sub-sensory fear
Explore the neurological basis of PTSD through the Default Mode Network (DMN). Learn how trauma affects memory systems, fear responses, and self-awareness. Understand the impact of DMN dysfunction on daily life for trauma survivors, including hypervigilance and disassociation. Gain insights into the challenges of trauma recovery and the neurological mechanisms behind persistent fear responses.
2.5. Entrapment, defeat, suicidality, and relationships | AKA – it’s not worth your whole life
Explore the concept of entrapment in relationships and its impact on trauma recovery. Learn about the challenges of leaving toxic relationships, dealing with self-doubt, and the potential link between entrapment and suicidal thoughts. Discover strategies for setting boundaries, changing relationship dynamics, and recognizing when it’s time to end a relationship. Gain insights into building self-capacity and autonomy after trauma.
2.4. Filial obligation and family re-immersion | AKA – the family system trap
Explore the complexities of family obligations and re-immersion for trauma survivors. Learn about the challenges of filial duty, the impact on mental health, and strategies for navigating family dynamics. Discover the importance of setting boundaries, self-reflection, and balancing personal well-being with family expectations. Gain insights into managing emotional triggers and maintaining progress in trauma recovery while dealing with family obligations.
2.3. “Perspective” | AKA – gaslighting, cognitive self-corruption, time distortions
Explore the role of perspective in trauma recovery and mental health. Learn how childhood experiences shape our perceptions and perspectives, and how these influence our adult lives. Understand the impact of family dynamics on perspective formation and the challenges of gaslighting. Discover strategies for self-validation and reframing trauma-related perspectives for healing and personal growth.
2.2. Retraumatization, backslides, and non-linear progress | AKA – current cult.ural triggerings
Explore the challenges of trauma recovery during turbulent times. Learn about the non-linear nature of healing, including retraumatization and recovery setbacks. Understand the stages of trauma recovery and how societal issues can trigger CPTSD symptoms. Discover strategies for self-compassion and stabilization in the face of collective trauma.
2.1. “Not bad enough to be trauma” | AKA – the aftermath is what matters
Explore the challenges of trauma recovery during turbulent times. Learn about the non-linear nature of healing, including retraumatization and recovery setbacks. Understand the stages of trauma recovery and how societal issues can trigger CPTSD symptoms. Discover strategies for self-compassion and stabilization in the face of collective trauma.
2.0. Intro to Season Two
In this introduction to season two of Traumatized Motherfuckers, the host addresses their absence and the personal challenges they’ve faced. The podcast aims to share insights gained from a healing community, offering support and understanding to those dealing with trauma, family issues, and life’s difficulties. The host emphasizes the non-linear nature of healing and the importance of community support, especially during challenging times like the holiday season. They encourage listeners to engage with the podcast’s resources and remind them of their inherent strength and capacity for growth.
9.6 | 1. Ripping off the bandaid | Holistically Heal with Body-Emotional Work
SHOULD I have released these posts first? Eh, maybe. DO they have some slightly wonky audio from time to time…. Yesh. But here it is, and it’s a solid episode. TAKE IT. Actual description: Good news, this MF host has been retraumatized! Which means…...
Filial Obligation & Anxiety… In All Yer Shit Relationships
Hey motherfuckers. Let’s jump into a topic that many of us feel, but probably few of us allow ourselves to put into words. Filial obligation and caregiving anxiety. Meaning, the servitude we often feel towards our family members – aging parents, in particular,...
8.22 Video audio: Relationships on a Loop
Dunno if it helps to hear without the video, but figured I’d do the work and let you tell me the answer. Here’s JUST THE AUDIO for the video that was released to everyone on Patreon! A short summary of what we covered last week. Let me know if it helps or helps no one...
Refinding the Self
You know by now… Hit up the audio version of this post wherever you podcast! If yer on the market for a million more shows like these, plus the biological, behavioral, and psychological bases of all our trauma shittery… You know where to go! Hit up the...
Life on Abuse | Achievement Addict
See you in the Fort. Cheers Fuckers! Brains develop cellular connections based on reinforcement and punishment. When a brain cannot receive reinforcements for its normal behaviors, it learns new ones. When that is a pervasive experience, being socially punished for...
Society and Trickle-down Trauma
This is the blog version of the same-named mini podcast episode. II yer up for more talk on society, brain development, and wtf is happening out there … come hang with 200+ hour-long episodes on all things trauma. AND be sure to check the public-facing patreon...
Internalizing Triggers, Dis-integrating from Your Real Self
Hey Fuckers! This is the blog version of the mini summary podcast episode. If you’re itching for more details on parts, mind control, and escaping from your zoo … come hang with 200-some other full-length episodes on this fuckery.Plus, if you wanna dive in...
Overcompensate-Collapse-Getbackup | Backslides and Resilience in Trauma Recovery
You know the drill. This is the blog version of the mini summary podcast show . If you’re itching for more details on the damnations of your life so far… come hang.Find us at patreon.com/traumatizedmotherfuckers anytime,where we’re all communing and...