by Jess | May 5, 2023 | Public Content, Public Podcast, Public Season 03
This podcast episode explores the impact of childhood trauma on adult relationships through the lens of Internal Family Systems. It discusses how unresolved inner conflicts and self-protective behaviors can sabotage connections, emphasizing the importance of self-awareness and inner work. The episode offers insights into healing childhood relationship trauma and building healthier connections by understanding and addressing our internal “parts.”
by Jess | May 5, 2023 | Private Blog
We MFs struggle to begin or maintain healthy relationship dynamics, with a lot of externalized finger pointing about why. “Abusers just flock to me.” But the truth is, the abuse recreation is mutual and it all starts in the place we attempt to willfully...
by Jess | May 5, 2023 | Public Blog, Blog, LIVING with Complex Trauma, Public Season 03, RECOVERY, Seasons
My Fuckers. Welcome back! And thanks for being here to learn about what’s been roughing up your relationships for a while now. Last month we talked about some of the obstacles to forming authentic, connective, healing relationships when we have histories of PTSD. Of...
by Jess | Apr 28, 2023 | Public Content, Public Podcast, Public Season 03
This podcast episode addresses the challenge of balancing trauma recovery and therapy with daily responsibilities like work and parenting. It discusses the potential impact of therapy on emotional stability and functionality, offering strategies to manage these effects. The episode explores the concept of Internal Family Systems and suggests ways to accommodate healing work within a busy life, including potential career changes. It also touches on broader societal issues that complicate mental health recovery.
by Jess | Apr 28, 2023 | Public Blog, Blog, MFs Speak!, Public Content
This is the rough transcript of the podcast episode of the same name!Find it wherever you podcast, just search “traumatized motherfuckers” to listen.If you’re ready for a lot more MF learning, jump into the private podcast stream with over 300...
by Jess | Apr 22, 2023 | Private Blog, Blog, Bonus Episodes, Relationship Misc., Vulnerability, Intimacy, and Trust
Take a look at your past relationships. Ones that didn’t pan out ideally. Sit down, get comfortable, ground yourself (that means, feel into your damn feet), and try to get into a less brain-active place so you can direct your own thoughts. As always, don’t do any of...
by Jess | Apr 21, 2023 | Blog, Public Content, Public Podcast, Public Season 03, Series, Vulnerability, Intimacy, and Trust
This podcast episode explores the challenges trauma survivors face in forming close relationships. It discusses how past experiences create fears around vulnerability, intimacy, and trust, leading to isolation and loneliness. The episode examines the internal conflicts and self-protective behaviors that can sabotage connections, offering insights into the complex dynamics of relationships for those with PTSD or complex trauma.
by Jess | Apr 15, 2023 | Blog, Git Changing | Advanced, Private Blog, Series, Subscriber Content, Transcripts, Vulnerability, Intimacy, and Trust
So Fuckers, we’ve been talking relationship issues this year. Starting with loneliness and the many ways it overlaps with CPTSD. Then, using IFS we went diving into the ways our brains pattern themselves after the social influences in our environments, leaving us with...
by Jess | Apr 14, 2023 | Private Blog, Blog, Bonus Episodes, Exercises, Patron Season 10, Seasons, Series, Transcripts, Vulnerability, Intimacy, and Trust
So, talking obstacles to VIT this month. And let me guess, your head has been like “where do we fucking start, with the 20 foot wall we’ve built, the moat, the drawbridge, or the armed guards installed all around this castle?” Having relationships? We’ll do it if we...
by Jess | Apr 7, 2023 | Blog, Git Changing | Advanced, Patron Season 10, Private Blog, Seasons, Series, Subscriber Content, Transcripts, Vulnerability, Intimacy, and Trust
Reminder! Hit up the workbook version of this post for the highlights, reflection questions, and full set of doods! It’s linked in the Bonus blog category and downloadable from the Patreon page. So last time we left off with a paper surrounding intimate partner...
by Jess | Apr 7, 2023 | Blog, MFs Speak!, Private Blog, Series, Vulnerability, Intimacy, and Trust, Workbooks
Reminder! This is the blogged version of the VIT pt I workbook. It’s not fancy in this form. Want the nice formatting? Yeah you do. VIT Workbook Pt IDownload TMFRsLet’s make sense of yer stupid fucking brainVulnerability, Intimacy, Trust| Bases of Post-traumatic...
by Jess | Apr 7, 2023 | Private Blog
"So how do you feel about relationships? Complicated? You want them? You despise them? You fear them? You long for them? You try them? You exit them rapidly? Or you try to? You get stuck in them? And haunted by cycles of unfulfillment?" Today, let's...
by Jess | Apr 7, 2023 | Public Blog, Public Content, Public Podcast, Public Season 03, Vulnerability, Intimacy, and Trust
Explore the challenges of vulnerability, intimacy, and trust in relationships for individuals with Complex PTSD. Learn about common relationship patterns, the importance of human connection in trauma recovery, and strategies for building healthier relationships. Discover how trauma impacts attachment styles and the potential for healing through supportive connections.
by Jess | Mar 31, 2023 | Private Blog, Blog, Series, Vulnerability, Intimacy, and Trust, Workbooks
Reminder! This is the blogged version of the VIT pt I workbook. It’s not fancy in this form. Want the nice formatting? Yeah you do. VIT-WorkbookDownload TMFRs Let’s make sense of yer stupid fucking brain Vulnerability, Intimacy, Trust| Barriers to Connective...
by Jess | Mar 31, 2023 | Blog, Git Changing | Advanced, Patron Season 10, Private Blog, Seasons, Series, Subscriber Content, Transcripts, Vulnerability, Intimacy, and Trust
Reminder! Hit up the workbook version of this post for the highlights, reflection questions, and full set of doods! It’s linked in the Bonus blog category and downloadable from the Patreon page. Why don’t all the images get slapped into this full...
by Jess | Mar 24, 2023 | Public Content, Public Podcast, Public Season 03
Explore real-life experiences of individuals dealing with Complex PTSD through listener-submitted stories. This mailbag episode addresses identifying CPTSD symptoms, supporting partners with trauma, and coping with life challenges. The host provides insights on trauma-informed therapy, relationship dynamics, and the importance of community support in the healing journey.
by Jess | Mar 24, 2023 | Git Changing | Advanced, Private Blog, Transcripts
Explore real-life experiences of individuals dealing with Complex PTSD through listener-submitted stories. This mailbag episode addresses identifying CPTSD symptoms, supporting partners with trauma, and coping with life challenges. The host provides insights on trauma-informed therapy, relationship dynamics, and the importance of community support in the healing journey.
by Jess | Mar 12, 2023 | Blog, DID, Parts, Fragmentation, Exercises, Git Changing | Advanced, Internal Family Systems, Private Blog, Subscriber Content
Ya know, I listen to a lot of stuff that is not directly mental health related. Actually, most of what I consume has nothing to statedly do with all this trauma stuff. It’s just indirectly implied. That’s where I get a lot of my learnings and why this show isn’t...
by Jess | Mar 10, 2023 | Seasons, Exercises, Git Changing | Advanced, Internal Family Systems, Patron Season 10, Subscriber Content
IFS is a great approach, but sometimes it’s hard to get into those parts and characterize them with just “manager, exile, and distractor” labels. We might miss out on some of the neural bundles in there. Here’s another approach to getting...
by Jess | Mar 10, 2023 | Seasons, Audio Podcasts | Subscribers, Git Educated | Intermediate, Internal Family Systems, Patron Season 10, Series, Subscriber Content
We’re back one more time to continue talking about Internal Family Systems from a less bookish approach. I wouldn’t keep at it if I didn’t think it mattered, I can tell you that much. So today, let’s talk about the best ways (so far) to...
by Jess | Mar 10, 2023 | Public Blog, Public Content, Public Podcast, Seasons
Explore the concept of subconscious self-loathing in Complex PTSD and how Internal Family Systems (IFS) therapy can aid in recovery. Learn about integrating conflicting personality parts, understanding adaptive mental strategies, and developing self-acceptance. Discover how recognizing and working with different aspects of your psyche can lead to improved self-esteem and mental health.
by Jess | Mar 10, 2023 | Public Blog, Blog, Public Content, Public Podcast, Public Season 03, Seasons
Explore the difference between hardening and healing in trauma recovery. This podcast episode discusses how protective strategies can sometimes hinder true healing, emphasizing the importance of balance and vulnerability. Learn about the challenges of black-and-white thinking in trauma responses and the value of finding middle ground. Gain insights into developing healthier approaches to relationships and personal growth post-trauma.
by Jess | Mar 10, 2023 | Public Blog, Blog, LIVING with Complex Trauma, Public Season 03, RECOVERY, Seasons
Accepting parts you hate “Let’s say” you have a lingering sense of being “wrong.” You work with extreme focus and concern to be the best you possible. You find self-loathing to be a part of your routine, but might not understand why. For an unknown reason, perhaps, it...
by Jess | Mar 4, 2023 | Blog, Internal Family Systems, Private Blog, Series, Workbooks
Recommended: download the official file to get all the pretty pictures. Find it here! IFS-workbook-ControversiesDownload TMFRsLet’s make sense of yer stupid fucking brainIFS | Controversies, addressedThe words sound dumb, but the application will relieve you.Winter...
by Jess | Mar 3, 2023 | Blog, Internal Family Systems, Private Blog, Series, Workbooks
Look, Fuckers… we’re already getting a little “off plan” for the year here, but I think it’s a needed detour on our road trip. I was going to jump ahead this month into talking about a whole new topic. Vulnerability, Intimacy, and Trust in rebuilding relationships....
by Jess | Feb 13, 2023 | Private Blog, Blog, Internal Family Systems, Patron Season 10, Seasons, Series, Transcripts
Let’s skip the intro on this one and dive in. We’ve been talking about Internal Family Systems and how to work with them safely, with lasting effects that calm down your insides. Today, we’re going to talk about ways to deepen the parts work in IFS, with two other...
by Jess | Feb 13, 2023 | Blog, Internal Family Systems, Patron Season 10, Private Blog, Seasons, Series, Transcripts
Alright, frens! Do we need to go through all the announcements again? We probably don’t need to go into all the announcements again. But here’s a few. Today, we’re covering part two of the research portion of this conversation – talking about Internal Family...
by Jess | Feb 13, 2023 | Blog, Internal Family Systems, Patron Season 10, Private Blog, Seasons, Series, Workbooks
IFS Part I – Background and introduction major takeaways Schwartz worked with children in a psychological treatment center, where he found that their progress didn’t last once they were reintroduced to their family system. He transitioned into Family Therapy...
by Jess | Feb 10, 2023 | Private Blog
Ever feel like you’ve got a whole household of people contained in one skull? Fighting, just like they did in your family home? Turns out, that’s normal. Today, let’s talk about Internal Family Systems and the roles cemented in your brain....
by Jess | Feb 10, 2023 | Public Blog, Blog, Education, Internal Family Systems, LIVING with Complex Trauma, Public Content, Public Podcast, Public Season 03, RECOVERY, Seasons, Series
Explore Internal Family Systems (IFS) therapy as a framework for understanding and healing complex trauma. Learn about the different types of internal parts, their roles, and interactions within the psyche. Discover how IFS can help address contradictory brain patterns, self-destructive behaviors, and feelings of being stuck. Gain insights into the healing process through self-understanding and acceptance, guided by the concept of the “Self” in IFS therapy.
by Jess | Feb 6, 2023 | Blog, Internal Family Systems, Patron Season 10, Private Blog, Seasons, Series, Transcripts
So motherfuckers, welcome to month two of 2023! Hope you’re ready to be integrating all these lessons from the past few years with me, as I’m about to go into what’s called my “Christ year.” Which is all about… that. Integration of learned lessons. Yep, when you turn...
by Jess | Jan 29, 2023 | Seasons, Patron Season 00, Public Content, Public Podcast, Public Rereleases
Explore the evolution of this CPTSD recovery podcast, from its early days to its current community-driven format. Learn about the host’s decision to rerelease early episodes, offering listeners a more personal and relatable perspective on trauma recovery. Discover how vulnerability and self-reflection have shaped the podcast’s content and direction, and find out about new community-focused initiatives in mental health support.
by Jess | Jan 26, 2023 | Public Blog, Blog, LIVING with Complex Trauma, Loneliness and CPTSD, Public Content, Public Podcast, Public Season 03, RECOVERY, Seasons, Series
Explore the complex relationship between loneliness, isolation, and trauma recovery in CPTSD. Learn about social and emotional loneliness, their roots in childhood trauma, and how loneliness can motivate post-traumatic growth. Discover the difference between loneliness and isolation, and understand the importance of self-connection in healing. Gain insights into reframing isolation as a tool for personal growth and recovery.
by Jess | Jan 24, 2023 | Blog, Git Changing | Advanced, Loneliness and CPTSD, Patron Season 10, Private Blog, Research, Seasons, Series, Subscriber Content, Transcripts
Loneliness and CPTSD Pt I So here we are, Fuckers! Starting off this new year, officially, with our new show format. That’s two research episodes to introduce a topic and two weeks of MFs Speaks episodes to open, expand, and round out the conversation. Getting more...
by Jess | Jan 24, 2023 | Blog, Exercises, Git Changing | Advanced, Patron Season 09, Private Blog, Seasons, Series, SUB-C: the subconscious, Subscriber Content, Transcripts
WORDY EXERCISE So my Muffs, we left off talking about the Sub-C. The sub-con, if you’re privy to that distinction. Daily episode drop motherfuckers, holler. Anyways, I prompted you to get in touch with your subconscious by watching it more regularly and more...
by Jess | Jan 24, 2023 | Blog, Private Blog, Transcripts
SOOOOO let’s be honest. I’m restarting this blog effort to accompany the Patreon… but it’s coming with some big challenges. Life got fucked up somewhere around “my dog is rapidly dying as someone screams at me everyday” followed by...
by Jess | Jan 24, 2023 | Blog, Git Changing | Advanced, Patron Season 09, Private Blog, Seasons, Series, SUB-C: the subconscious, Subscriber Content, Transcripts
So in all this inner work we’ve been doing so far – starting back in July (? question mark?) with the “Refind and Reempower your full SELF” series and leading up to today… what we’re really trying to do, at the root of it… is to get to the REAL root of it....
by Jess | Jan 13, 2023 | Seasons, Audio Podcasts | Subscribers, Git Educated | Intermediate, MFs Speak!, Patron Season 09
Who dropped the ball on putting out a NY episode? This guy right here. Luckily, a MF was ON IT. Today, let’s hear from our community comrade, Incanthatus, reflecting on a lifetime without trustworthiness in Self or others… and the ways they intend to run...
by Jess | Dec 20, 2022 | Blog, LIVING with Complex Trauma, Public Blog, Public Content, Public Podcast, Public Season 02, RECOVERY, Seasons, Transcripts
Explore the challenges and importance of breaking generational trauma cycles. Learn about family resistance to change, the impact on relationships, and the personal and societal benefits of trauma recovery. Understand the transmissibility of both trauma and healing, and discover strategies for maintaining recovery efforts despite opposition. Gain insights into the long-term effects of breaking trauma cycles on personal growth and future generations.
by Jess | Dec 20, 2022 | Public Blog, Blog, Education, LIVING with Complex Trauma, Public Content, Public Podcast, RECOVERY, Transcripts
Explore the integration phase of trauma recovery, focusing on both internal and external processes. Learn about reconnecting with your body, managing anxiety, processing emotions, and integrating fragmented memories. Discover strategies for making behavioral changes, restructuring your environment, and overcoming fear to support long-term healing. Understand the importance of balancing inner work with external life changes for comprehensive trauma recovery.
by Jess | Dec 20, 2022 | Public Blog, Blog, Education, LIVING with Complex Trauma, Public Content, Public Podcast, Public Season 02, RECOVERY, Seasons, Transcripts
Explore the essential resources needed for trauma brain recovery: time, space, and energy. Learn about the challenges of modern life in creating these resources and discover strategies for prioritizing self-care and setting boundaries. Understand the importance of restructuring daily life to support brain healing and cognitive restructuring. Gain insights into planning for long-term changes to support ongoing trauma recovery.
by Jess | Dec 20, 2022 | Public Blog, Blog, Education, LIVING with Complex Trauma, Public Content, Public Podcast, RECOVERY
Explore the concept of loss of functionality in complex trauma recovery. Learn about personality parts, symptom masking, and the impact of trauma on executive functioning. Understand post-traumatic collapse and the importance of resilience in recovery. Discover strategies for managing symptoms and overcoming self-judgment during the healing process.
by Jess | Dec 20, 2022 | Public Blog, Blog, Education, LIVING with Complex Trauma, Public Content, Public Podcast, RECOVERY
Explore the concept of parts work in complex trauma recovery. Learn about fragmented personalities, how trauma impacts self-integration, and the importance of addressing these parts for healing. Understand the challenges of internal conflicts and self-limiting behaviors in CPTSD. Discover resources for understanding and working with parts to achieve a more integrated self and improved functionality in daily life.
by Jess | Dec 20, 2022 | Blog, Education, LIVING with Complex Trauma, Public Blog, Public Content, Public Podcast, Public Season 02, RECOVERY, Seasons, Transcripts
Explore the concept of self-limitation in complex trauma recovery. Learn about the various forms of self-limiting patterns, including beliefs, thoughts, emotions, behaviors, and structures. Understand how trauma impacts personality fragmentation and creates self-limiting modes of existence. Discover strategies for overcoming these limitations and integrating fragmented parts of the self for holistic healing.
by Jess | Dec 20, 2022 | Blog, Education, LIVING with Complex Trauma, Public Blog, Public Content, Public Podcast, Public Season 02, RECOVERY, Seasons, Transcripts
Explore the neurological basis of PTSD through the Default Mode Network (DMN). Learn how trauma affects memory systems, fear responses, and self-awareness. Understand the impact of DMN dysfunction on daily life for trauma survivors, including hypervigilance and disassociation. Gain insights into the challenges of trauma recovery and the neurological mechanisms behind persistent fear responses.
by Jess | Dec 20, 2022 | Blog, Education, LIVING with Complex Trauma, Public Blog, Public Podcast, Public Season 02, RECOVERY, Seasons, Transcripts
Explore the concept of entrapment in relationships and its impact on trauma recovery. Learn about the challenges of leaving toxic relationships, dealing with self-doubt, and the potential link between entrapment and suicidal thoughts. Discover strategies for setting boundaries, changing relationship dynamics, and recognizing when it’s time to end a relationship. Gain insights into building self-capacity and autonomy after trauma.
by Jess | Dec 20, 2022 | Blog, Public Blog, Public Podcast, Public Season 02, Seasons, Transcripts
Explore the complexities of family obligations and re-immersion for trauma survivors. Learn about the challenges of filial duty, the impact on mental health, and strategies for navigating family dynamics. Discover the importance of setting boundaries, self-reflection, and balancing personal well-being with family expectations. Gain insights into managing emotional triggers and maintaining progress in trauma recovery while dealing with family obligations.
by Jess | Dec 20, 2022 | Blog, Education, LIVING with Complex Trauma, Public Blog, Public Podcast, Public Season 02, RECOVERY, Seasons, Transcripts
Explore the role of perspective in trauma recovery and mental health. Learn how childhood experiences shape our perceptions and perspectives, and how these influence our adult lives. Understand the impact of family dynamics on perspective formation and the challenges of gaslighting. Discover strategies for self-validation and reframing trauma-related perspectives for healing and personal growth.
by Jess | Dec 20, 2022 | Blog, Education, LIVING with Complex Trauma, Public Blog, Public Podcast, Public Season 02, RECOVERY, Seasons, Transcripts
Explore the challenges of trauma recovery during turbulent times. Learn about the non-linear nature of healing, including retraumatization and recovery setbacks. Understand the stages of trauma recovery and how societal issues can trigger CPTSD symptoms. Discover strategies for self-compassion and stabilization in the face of collective trauma.
by Jess | Dec 20, 2022 | Blog, Education, LIVING with Complex Trauma, Public Blog, Public Podcast, Public Season 02, RECOVERY, Seasons, Transcripts
Explore the challenges of trauma recovery during turbulent times. Learn about the non-linear nature of healing, including retraumatization and recovery setbacks. Understand the stages of trauma recovery and how societal issues can trigger CPTSD symptoms. Discover strategies for self-compassion and stabilization in the face of collective trauma.
