September in the Fort!
CMNTY billboard / what’s ahead, Fuckers! Regularly-Scheduled Episodes The Self-Limitation Series continues, as we discuss crossover with the Default Mode Network and Parts Activations (PtII). Then, we dive into How-to Rewire Limiting Self Beliefs (PtIII)...
Hvideo! The Gotdamn DMN (Default Mode Network)
Das video to go along with the most recent episode! Let’s learn about the Default Mode Network with doods.
8.30 The Default Mode Network | Self-limiting Beliefs Pt. II
Maybe my favorite episode. Let’s integrate everything we’ve learned so far and introduce yer brain’s Default Mode Network. Time to get neurobiological, as we talk about Parts Battles and sensory subthreshold Hypervigilance tying into our states of...
8.29 BS-free “Self-limiting Beliefs” | Pt. I
So plenty of folks talk about self-limitations. But, ya know… not from a trauma lens, where those words have a whole other meaning and depth to them. Today, let’s start taking a MF scientific and traumalogical look at self-limiting beliefs as they relate...
8.28 Bitesized WRAP on Filial Obligation
Might be episode overkill, but I think we learned a lot. Let’s pull all the academic and community-experiential research from the past few shows together! Here’s what we learned this past month in a bite-sized portion. Thanks again for your feedback and...
8.27 CMNTY Co-LAB Filial Obligation II
Originally published in September, moved for conversation cohesiveness. Y’all still had more to say and I love it. Let’s continue this conversation. Keep sending your submissions, we’ll talk until we get it all out. <3 Find Sara and Incanthatus in...
8.26 CMNTY CoLAB | Filial Obligation, Entrapment, and Suicidal ideation
What’ve other MFs got to say? Let’s hear about personal experiences and ongoing challenges with filial caregiving, sense of entrapment, and suicidal ideation that follows. Got words of encouragement, wisdom, or connection for these MFs? Comment below on...
Penpal Database!
In this week’s upcoming community collab show we’re starting the “Penpal Process”… But I thought we could do this another way, too! If you’re interested in finding a Blanket Fort Penpal, just DM me. I’ll start up a...
Final call for community collab contributions!
Hey MFs! Hope you’ve had a great weekend! Just the reminder I promised – one day left!!! Please send in your (written or recorded) feedback / story-sharing on the past few shows if ya’ve got something to spread to the community (betcha...
CMNTY COLLAB CALLOUT! “Filial Obligation and Anxiety,” Caregiving Relationship Patterns, Self-Appraisal and Defeat!!
We’re back to making Community Collaborative Episodes! Based on 2 most recent releases, there are a few likely options for sharing your story this month! But, ya know, send us whatever reflections come up for YOU! Likely prompts: 1) Do you feel the filial...
Vidjum Boop! TW Defeat, Entrapment, Self-Appraisal, Suicidality
Let’s talk about the relationship between self-appraisal, perceptions of defeat and entrapment, and suicidality!
8.23 {TW} Entrapment/Defeat, Negative Self-Appraisal, and Suicidality | Obligated Relationships Pt. II
Feel stuck? Getting hopeless? This conversation applies to all conversations! IF you’re feeling obligated to someone or something, seeing your efforts making no difference, and starting to doubt your own ability to cope… then what? The research says you...
8.22 Vidjum Boop! Why We Get the SAME Relationship Over and Over
Thought I’d share a video with all tiers!
Let’s see “Relationships” in a visual format and understand our relationship templates that create the same dynamics over and over again… Thanks, Behavioral Science!
Feedback Received!! ♥ Community Share-Callouts, Merch Drops, and PenPals RETURN!
Thanks to everyone who shared their two cents and helped to direct the future of TMFRs!!! Your voice is what made/makes this place – and THANK YOU for being here for its ongoing evolution! 🦠🐟🐒💃👽🌟 Based on your feedback, here’s what’s coming down the...
8.21 Caregiving Anxiety and Obligation in Relationships | Pt I. Origins
Is relationship drain and strain your recurrent pattern? Exhausted, exasperated, and anxious all the time? How much of that comes from sense of obligation, constant caregiving, and anxiety about your capacity to endlessly provide both? Today, we’re talking about...
HALP! I NEED YOUR FEEDBACK! 💣💥
Now that my degree and DDH and destituted living are d-d-done… I’m hitting this wall known as “having spare time and brain power for the first time in a long time…. so now… what?” And I realized, instead of terrorizing myself guessing… Maybe I should...
Outside help for meditation / grounding / “Self”
https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/tara-brach/id265264862 Sunday morning vibes. Know who people love for getting into less reactive places? Tara Brach. Check this psychologist and meditation teacher with a real following. Not exactly my cup of tea most...
Summary/Transcript: How-To | Stoke “Self Empowerment” in RL
Episode link: 8.20 How-To | Stoke “Self Empowerment” in RL Bulletpoints: Start your day on the right foot. EARLY. Before the world starts riling that brain, while alpha waves are still flowing. Find meditative practices that work for you, to follow....
8.20 How-To | Stoke “Self Empowerment” in RL
So, touching base with your “Self” once under highly controlled conditions isn’t the end of the story. It’s just the beginning. What we really need is to generalize that condition to the rest of “real life,” so your rewiring can...
Summary/Transcript: How-To | Get Out of Yer Trauma Brain
Givin ya a new-old thing with this new spare time MF love <3 Post in question: 8.19 How-To | Get Out of Your Trauma Brain – Starting “Recovery” The bulletpoints: Better have a TRAUMA TRAINED therapist you work with. Stop now if you do not! Get away from the...
8.19 How-To | Get Out of Your Trauma Brain – Starting “Recovery”
Surprise early drop – let’s start to do the important work without waiting for a weekly release date <3 We’ve made the case for the importance of accessing this separate source of consciousness… Now… How to get started with making...
Get out of your trauma brain – behavioral science VIDEO!
Who’s missing visuals? No body no more, this Fucker finally got a whiteboard.
Here’s a vidjeo I shot ya on Friday morning after getting sweaty.
8.18 Getting Out of Trauma Brain | Surviving These Times
Time for the science-backed conversation on how to survive these doomsdays. The answer is, getting out of your trauma brain. “Stand up and make a difference” opportunity of the week. World Food Program – Aid Yemen 😥 “Even before fighting broke...
8.17 GUTS 2 – where you’ll find your Self
Still speakin straight from the guts. Let’s talk more what went wrong, what goes wrong for everyone, and the perils of living out of your (stupid fucking) human-programmed brain. Thanks for the reset.
8.16 GUTS – where you’ll find your Self
Like the ole’ days. It’s a straight out my mouth, sensitive, and honest one. You know when you “lose it”? Lose access to that thing… that feels like you… and all the passion/energy/interest/courage you once had? When life is...
8.15 Progress Made & “SHOULD” Obstinance | Words by MF Leanne
Time for some good news. Let’s hear from our MF Leanne from down under, and soak up her insights on recovery so far! Plus… where “SHOULD” pings social trauma patterns in THIS MF’s brain, and the newfound reactions. PS – nothing...
8.14 What SHOULD you be doing?
Let’s have one easy conversation and call “societal trauma” wrapped for a beat. Talkin’ dialectics and their implications… as an intro to wise words from our Fort Friend, Leanne. Then let’s get back to our SELVES.
8.13 A Few Supplements on “Society Trauma”
If you’re on the market for “fuck this”…. A few more thoughts. Parenting challenges in society. The panic that’s driving everyone to the brink. And following “thought leaders” who demand that no one thinks for themselves, at...
8.12 Intro to today’s shows
What’s up with all the episodes comin down the pipeline today? Here’s some quick rationale. (Not losing it over here. Re-finding it.) Happy Saturday! Happy my final week of school! 🍻
8.11 EXERCISE | Lessons Learned from the Cage
How do we start to spot the societal trauma lessons in our own selves, through examining our family behaviors? Today, let’s talk about ways we’re limited by being born in the same-ish cage as our family, and absorbing all their “allowed”...
VISUALS | Rat Wars Transcript!
Here’s the visual version of what we’re scrappin’ about this week! Rat Wars Pt I & II, the blog. Cheers, Humans and self-described Aliens Jess Rat WarsDownload
8.10 Caged Family Trauma | Rat Wars Part II
The rats run for their pellets, the pellets are more worthless every day, and their (unwanted) families are growing ever-larger… while all the other rats continue to fight, feud, and fuel the same “work til you die” narrative. What happens now? Does...
8.9 Entrapped in Fear | Rat Wars Part I
Hard to understand what’s going on “out there” and also “inside of you”? Yeah, well. How COULD you, when none of it is based on logic – only fear reacting to fear. Sometimes it helps to see humans as a different species entirely....
8.8 | 3. Containment in Guided Imagery | Words by your MF Incanthatus!
You know our friend and reigning community leader, Incanthatus? Well buckle up, because they’re spittin’ wisdom in a series of episodes on safe internal work! TMFR takeover, CONTINUES! This share, we’re taking a walk together. Incanthatus takes us...
8.7 | 2. Safe Places Guided Imagery | Words by your MF Incanthatus!
You know our friend and reigning community leader, Incanthatus? Well buckle up, because they’re spittin’ wisdom in a series of episodes on safe internal work! TMFR takeover, CONTINUES! How do you even start to feel safe when all you’ve known is...
8.6 | 1. Guided Imagery Mini Series Intro | Words by your MF Incanthatus!
You know our friend and reigning community leader, Incanthatus? Well buckle up, because they’re spittin’ wisdom in a series of episodes on safe internal work! TMFR takeover, CONTINUES! This time, we’re benefiting from the hard lessons learned about...
8.5 “Our Changing Perspective” | Words by your MF Incanthatus!
Love this system. You know our friend and reigning community leader, Incanthatus? Well buckle up, because they’re spittin’ wisdom in a series of episodes on safe internal work! TMFR takeover, go! Today, Incanthatus is sharing with us the enlightenment they...
A safe space.
Well I’m upset. First, “let me get through this work.” Then… “ahhh, yeah, there’s the grief.” If anyone else is feeling the slow-creeping or tidal-waving emotions… Here’s a place to talk about it. Feel free...
Visuals and Transcript | When you can’t get the basics you need
Here’s the wordy version AND my illustrations of the most recent post! Sorry, working on watercolors – Day 1. Thanks for taking the TIME you probably don’t really have… the SPACE you need to absorb any of my nonsense… and the ENERGY...
8.4 When you can’t get the basics of life | Trauma-Society
So humans have done incredible things, right? Or have we constructed our own cages and called it “progress.” Born into the artificial environment, unable to get the resources you need, and watching the whole planet burn as you’re still dutifully...
8.3 ACEs and Societal Disgraces | FDCDC
So why didn’t you hear about childhood trauma for so long? Ready for some bullshit? Let’s talk about the ACEs writeup on the CDC that got my gears grinding in January 2021. Yeah, I didn’t release the episode then… But it all worked out, the...
Video Bittle: Do you “Isolate” or “Insulate”?
When shit goes down, we tend to disappear. But… really, isolation is the last thing we need or fundamentally want. So what’s the deal?
What if we weren’t aiming for “isolating,” actually. But attempting to find “insulation” from all the triggers we can’t handle.
Video for Pub Ep 16! Overcompensation-Collapse-Getbackup and Perspective Integration
You know how it goes. Lives built on bullshit, destined for trouble… that we try to ignore until it sinks us 6 feet under in overcompensation-collapse cycles of doom.
Soft Shit BONUS | Today’s Challenges
Alright, we’re suddenly covering some softass shit around here. I know. If you’re into it, get into it. If you’re repulsed by it… eh… yeah I getcha. This morning, felt the need to talk more about the energy in the air and ways to try to...
8.2 Supplement: When is it time to leave a situation?
So… we have a hard time as TMFRs, trusting when we’ve “done enough” versus guilting ourselves into staying in situations that are breaking us. And the truth is, there’s no clear answer. No cut and dry way to approach every situation....
BONUS | Energy for the Week June 13th
How do I say… I’d like to talk to you about something I use to keep myself above-board daily. But, ethically, there are some concerns that have prevented me from following through. Namely, if you might be a bit thought-obsessive or overly-enthusiastic to...
Visual Version: Space For Recovering Yer Splintered Self
I know, it’s me again. When it rains it pours. Here’s the transcript/blog version of the most recent episode! Hey, when it’s MY words, not a bunch of academic research… I can PUBLISH them. Sweet. Hit up the attachment for the full PDF And...
Video! Stimulus Control, Brain Dis-integration, and Parts
Conceptual Visuals, Go!
Sorry for the dirtfingers, this wasn’t a planned thing so much as a burst of sudden problem solving. “How do I make videos that I don’t hate?” has always been the question of the year.